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Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 12:37:23 AM

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This slave I'm training got out of his chastity device AND orgasmed yesterday, both without my permission. I had some surprises in store for him, which I've canceled because I knew I wouldn't enjoy them after what he did.

Denying him wasn't punishment though. His punishment will be that he has to wear the device during his weekend long bar exam. He has two states that he is studying for.

My question for the attorneys or any profession where you had to spend 6 hours + sitting down & taking an exam, are there any health problems wearing a chastity device?

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 12:44:15 AM

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Sounds like you didn't have very much control then, did you?

Hey, would you put a whip in your hand without knowing what it would do? If you wouldn't, why are you doing it with a chastity device?

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 12:53:25 AM

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So this guy has spent countless hours and thousands of dollars to get himself to the point where he can sit his Bar exam, and you want to jeopardise that simply because he had a wank?

Wow.

Even if he doesn't get any health problems from the chastity device, he's hardly going to be able to give the exam his full focus (which is what it needs) if he's not as comfortable as he should be.

I have sat long exams. Two, three hours at a time is exhausting. Any distraction is unwelcome. He needs to be 'in the zone' and focussed only on his target of passing his exam. He can hardly do that if all he can feel when he moves is this thing wrapped round his dick.

Imagine how he'll feel if he fails one or both exams, and starts to blame you? Then you won't have a slave at all, never mind a disobedient one.

I have no problem with punishment, none at all. But the punishment should fit the crime. I suggest rethinking the punishment, put it on the back burner until the important stuff is done, and then give him something proportionate to the infraction.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 1:05:51 AM

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 1:09:32 AM

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I have no problem with punishment, none at all. But the punishment should fit the crime. I suggest rethinking the punishment, put it on the back burner until the important stuff is done, and then give him something proportionate to the infraction.

This is exactly what I was thinking. When I read OP, I was wondering why you have him in chastity while he's in the middle of studying for an important BAR exam. I know people who can barely concentrate on their studies in a normal atmosphere. But in chastity? That seems a little difficult, even if it is a part of his training.

I'm not trying to question your authority or the way you train your slaves, but I think when it's something as important as a BAR exam, he may need the break.

I'd say wait until his exam is over and he gets his major responsibilities out of the way, and then punish him, but keep in the back of his mind that he DID break your rules, and that you DID NOT forget. Maybe giving him a smaller, less distracting punishment on the side before getting him for the larger infraction.

Don't you want him to be the best he can be? With this exam being a part of his future career, I would feel it unfair to jeopardize it in such a way.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 1:30:53 AM

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So this guy has spent countless hours and thousands of dollars to get himself to the point where he can sit his Bar exam, and you want to jeopardise that simply because he had a wank?

Wow.

Yeah, I'm with you. I think I could safely go with "wildly irresponsible". Of course, the entire nature of the dynamic between them boggles my mind so hey... perhaps failing the bar for sex games makes sense in their world?

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 1:59:29 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Uenjoyedict

This slave I'm training got out of his chastity device AND orgasmed yesterday, both without my permission. I had some surprises in store for him, which I've canceled because I knew I wouldn't enjoy them after what he did.

Have you reflected on your own failure as a domme?

Had you agreed the consequences of disobedience beforehand?

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Denying him wasn't punishment though. His punishment will be that he has to wear the device during his weekend long bar exam. He has two states that he is studying for.

My question for the attorneys or any profession where you had to spend 6 hours + sitting down & taking an exam, are there any health problems wearing a chastity device?

Are you fucking kidding?

This must be a joke, surely?

You'd be willing to put his future career at risk?

I'm sure you're not a fucking stupid clown of an ass hat, but that is certainly the impression I'd be getting if you're seriously contemplating this.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 2:00:20 AM

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If you don't know about chastity devices and extended wear, don't put someone in one, especially when something important is going on.

Also, Google is your best friend. http://lmgtfy.com/?q=Is+it+safe+to+wear+a+chastity+device+for+extended+periods+of+time%3F

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 2:03:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: Uenjoyedict
This slave I'm training got out of his chastity device AND orgasmed yesterday, both without my permission.

Contrary to what most Dommes seem to think, the average guy can get out of just about any chastity device if he really wants to. That's why it really has to be about his desire to obey you, and not about the device. If he can't keep his hand off of his cock, even if you instruct him to do so, then why do you need him? Is disobedience your kink?

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His punishment will be that he has to wear the device during his weekend long bar exam. He has two states that he is studying for.

You may want to rethink the wisdom of this punishment. Do your really want him distracted while he's taking the Bar exam? Think about that for a moment.

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My question for the attorneys or any profession where you had to spend 6 hours + sitting down & taking an exam, are there any health problems wearing a chastity device?

No. Six hours is not a lot of time to wear a device. Particularly if you've already had him wearing one, so you know that it fits properly. Some subs are kept in chastity for months at a time. You shouldn't be worried about 6 hours.

As I mentioned above, your real concern should be whether you want him distracted while he's taking something as important as the Bar exam. Frankly, if I served a Domme who thought that was a good idea, I'd leave her so quickly it would make her head spin. I find poor judgement to be an unattractive trait in a Domme.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 2:05:03 AM

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I'm sure you're not a fucking stupid clown of an ass hat, but that is certainly the impression I'd be getting if you're seriously contemplating this.

I'm a bit unclear on your meaning here crazyml. Can you refine that theoretical-impression-of-yours-which-certainly-should-not-be-construed-as-an-actual- instantiated-opinion-of-a-negative-nature so I get the picture more clearly? ~grin~

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 2:12:31 AM

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Grin.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 4:15:23 AM

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Thanks for everyone who replied.

For those of you who had nasty comments, I will not stoop to your level with a response.

@rochsub2009, I will reply to your post when I get a moment. I typed up a lengthy response on my phone , which I keep loosing...

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 4:22:13 AM

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There are finDommes into wallet rape. They ruin a man and make themselves rich.

Your method will ruin a man while not helping yourself one whit.

You're doing it wrong.

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Okay, let's look at things. Your sub disobeyed you. So your solution is to force him into a situation where he will disobey you again if he has a brain in his head? You're going to bust up the whole relationship. Instead, wait until after his bar. He's likely under tremendous stress and that's what caused the lapse. At that time, discuss it with him. Find out what was at the root of the disobedience first.

Also... just reading your profile - you're interested in marriage. If so, you need to make your Domination work with him and support him, not hold him back.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 5:38:52 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Uenjoyedict

This slave I'm training got out of his chastity device AND orgasmed yesterday, both without my permission. I had some surprises in store for him, which I've canceled because I knew I wouldn't enjoy them after what he did.

Denying him wasn't punishment though. His punishment will be that he has to wear the device during his weekend long bar exam. He has two states that he is studying for.

My question for the attorneys or any profession where you had to spend 6 hours + sitting down & taking an exam, are there any health problems wearing a chastity device?

This is an example of why you shouldn't give someone a level of power disproportionate to their level of investment in your life.

If my husband made a potentially career-ruining order which could cost huge amounts in wasted tuition fees and potentially cause me health problems (since the OP admits to not knowing whether this plan is safe), he would then be on the hook for supporting me financially, nursing me back to health and picking up the pieces of my shattered dreams. In short, he wouldn't give me an order like that because he cares about me and is invested in my emotional and physical wellbeing, and my future.

On the other hand, if the dominant doesn't care about the sub's future, won't have to work overtime to make rent if the sub doesn't get a job, didn't invest in the tuition, doesn't plan to be around when he's depressed over his missed chances... well then all kinds of irresponsible and short-sighted orders might be given out because they're sexy and fun.

No wonder he didn't feel inspired to obey in the first place.

I have a punishment dynamic. It works beautifully for us. But perhaps that's because my Master has both brain and conscience and doesn't use my screw-ups as an excuse to mess up my life.

PS - If you find the idea of him sitting an exam in chastity exciting, set him one of your own where the stakes aren't so high. After you've done your research about safety, of course.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 6:20:49 AM

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I just took the bar exam in July. The only way this could possibly be acceptable is if he felt more comfortable in the chastity device than out of it. If you're worried about him sneaking off to touch himself, he won't have time to do that. Just to be allowed to sit for the bar exam costs thousands of dollars (and I'm not including the cost of attending law school). Having a chance of passing it costs even more thousands of dollars (bar study courses are not cheap...and no, you won't be able to just study on your own). It is the most stressful moment in his life, and you want to make it harder for him?

I know I'm not a sub, but if I was, and I'd had a Domme try something like that on me during the bar exam, that would have been the last conversation we had. You should apologize to him for even considering it. And still don't be surprised if he walks away.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 6:21:47 AM

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I'l keep this as short as possible. Irresponsible. No other way to put it.

You are willing to jeopardize his future. That's all I take from your post.

I wouldn't trust you to own a gerbil let alone a slave.

Get a grip of yourself in a fundamental way before you start attempting to get a grip of someone else's life.

Good luck.......(To him)

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 6:32:58 AM

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(Raises hand in the back)

What are these supposed states that are administering their bar exams on the weekend? I'm fairly certain that not one state in the union does that.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 6:40:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Uenjoyedict

Thanks for everyone who replied.

For those of you who had nasty comments, I will not stoop to your level with a response.

@rochsub2009, I will reply to your post when I get a moment. I typed up a lengthy response on my phone , which I keep loosing...

Help me out here... Who made these nasty comments to which you do not intend to stoop?

I would hope that you'd recognise pretty quickly that this idea of yours, if placed on a spectrum of
"Eminently sensible" to "fantastically stupid" would be waaaayyyy over to the right.

Tell me you see that?

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 8:12:23 AM

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So this guy has spent countless hours and thousands of dollars to get himself to the point where he can sit his Bar exam, and you want to jeopardise that simply because he had a wank?

Wow.

Wow is right. The bar exam I sat through was 3 full days long, a grueling ordeal.
To the OP: if this guy has any intelligence whatsoever at his disposal, he will look at you and make the smart decision about your future with him. I just hope he makes that decision BEFORE the bar.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 8:57:47 AM

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When I was training to be a teacher, I had a new dom (of about 3 months) who was very excited about the whole relationship thing.

He was pretty supportive of my heavy study schedule, which made me feel he really cared about me and my success and happiness.

On the final day of my course, I had to submit several huge binders of evidence of my ability to teach and meet the national standards, then I had have two hour-long interviews at the university. Then in the afternoon I had to present the topic of my dissertation to my classmates, teachers and government education department representatives - around 50 people in all. And then they decided whether I was ready to teach or not.

Although I was confident of my abilities, I was also extremely stressed and nervous.

Soooo...the morning of the final day and I get a text from the dom. Expecting good wishes and a bit of confidence-boosting, I opened the text happily. Seconds later...not so happy. No 'good luck', just "you will wear your largest butt plug all day. If you do not, you will be caned".

Really. Uh-huh.

I didn't bother replying.

That was 7 years ago. I still haven't replied.

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