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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 8:58:44 AM   
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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 9:07:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		This makes perfect sense to me. How can people be so moronic?

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 9:11:14 AM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		If I were this man that was supposed to sit for the Bar with a chastity device on for an asinine infraction involving his hand on his penis which he obviously told you about honestly instead of lying to you, as opposed to cheating w/another, or committing irresponsible mayhem affecting others - I'd punish myself for even considering you to be his Dominant. As a Dominant how are you seriously considering having him reach this pinnacle that took years, money, and blood/sweat/tears to reach, and then put some of his focus on his penis and you? This is not Dominance or leadership, it's narcissism and honestly it's quite stupid. Have you even thought about what may happen if he fails the exam? Take a few seconds and see how you might directly be affected by his failure to pass the Bar.

He should have tossed you to the curb once the suggestion was made that he wear a chastity device to take the Bar, if he didn't he's as much of an idiot as you are for suggesting it.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 9:13:53 AM   
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When I was training to be a teacher, I had a new dom (of about 3 months) who was very excited about the whole relationship thing.

He was pretty supportive of my heavy study schedule, which made me feel he really cared about me and my success and happiness.

On the final day of my course, I had to submit several huge binders of evidence of my ability to teach and meet the national standards, then I had have two hour-long interviews at the university. Then in the afternoon I had to present the topic of my dissertation to my classmates, teachers and government education department representatives - around 50 people in all. And then they decided whether I was ready to teach or not.

Although I was confident of my abilities, I was also extremely stressed and nervous.

Soooo...the morning of the final day and I get a text from the dom. Expecting good wishes and a bit of confidence-boosting, I opened the text happily. Seconds later...not so happy. No 'good luck', just "you will wear your largest butt plug all day. If you do not, you will be caned".

Really. Uh-huh.

I didn't bother replying.

That was 7 years ago. I still haven't replied.



Any chance he maybe was joking?

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 9:28:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		Honey, you stooped to a level far below any of us when you made the decision to interfere with this man's future.

You aren't qualified in any way to be his, or anyone else's dominant. The fact that you want to put your kink in the way of his career is astounding. You are living in a fantasy and I hope that karma gives you exactly what you deserve from this.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 9:29:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Baroana


Any chance he maybe was joking?



Nope, none at all, sadly.



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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 9:33:58 AM   
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This is an example of why you shouldn't give someone a level of power disproportionate to their level of investment in your life.



This. Brilliant. I plan to use it, if you don't mind, over and over and over again until people GET IT.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 9:39:23 AM   
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Contrary to what most Dommes seem to think, the average guy can get out of just about any chastity device if he really wants to.


Those are my sentiments exactly!

One of the many reasons I have never used a chastity device, up to now. I want to try it.

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That's why it really has to be about his desire to obey you, and not about the device. If he can't keep his hand off of his cock, even if you instruct him to do so, then why do you need him? Is disobedience your kink?


Those were points that were brought up in a conversation we had about chastity & punishment. HE initiated him wearing the device; and asked me if I wanted to be his key holder.

He asked me if I wasn't into punishment, how would I deal w/him if he disobeyed me. I talked to him about trust and told him that I trusted him to do as he says he will do. If he breaks that trust, we need to talk about how he needs to earn it again; and if he can't, we would talk about why he can't and how we would go about parting ways.

I also threw the same question back at him and we talked about it more. He said he wanted to ve more servile, hence why he wanted to be in a device. I told him that he would have a better time in chastity if he concentrated more of being of total servitude & not seek gratification for being in there.

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No. Six hours is not a lot of time to wear a device. Particularly if you've already had him wearing one, so you know that it fits properly. Some subs are kept in chastity for months at a time. You shouldn't be worried about 6 hours.


I think that may be the main issue w/him. I don't think he has had too much real time experience in a chastity device. He has only worn one w/a couple of pro/fin dommes, which I think is the real problem. We talked about that as well & we might need to revisit this before topic briefly before his exam.

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As I mentioned above, your real concern should be whether you want him distracted while he's taking something as important as the Bar exam.

Frankly, if I served a Domme who thought that was a good idea, I'd leave her so quickly it would make her head spin. I find poor judgement to be an unattractive trait in a Domme.


I tell every dude I talk to from day one that I'm looking for lifetime chastity & orgasm denial. If a sub is going to want to get out of his device for every non-emergency situation, just because it's distracting, then we are not a good match.

If you or any other sub think it's a question of poor judgement to be strict, then again, please, please, please, let's end the relationship because we will never be a good match.

I did cross post this same question in a group, where men who actually are in lifetime chastity answered, which I was hoping for here, and their answers were along the line of what you answered, minus the last two paragraphs.

In any event, having read through all of the answers posted on here and the other site, I think the distraction is a big issue that I'm going to bring up and try to help him with. There are so many ways for him to get distracted during this exam-people making noises, beautiful folks taking the test too, etc... He needs to be so ready for the tests that nothing could break his concentration.


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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 9:42:13 AM   
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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 9:57:11 AM   
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In any event, having read through all of the answers posted on here and the other site, I think the distraction is a big issue that I'm going to bring up and try to help him with. There are so many ways for him to get distracted during this exam-people making noises, beautiful folks taking the test too, etc... He needs to be so ready for the tests that nothing could break his concentration.


There is a night and day difference between some person coughing or the incredibly hot chick/dude sitting next to you during the bar exam and a chastity device locked around your genitals. The former you cant do anything about, the latter is an unnecessary distraction. This is a BAR EXAM, not a quiz on the back of a cereal box! I personally would never put my own needs/desires above those of my submissive when it comes to something very important and monumental like sitting for the bar exam. As a dominant, Ive always believed that I should have the best interests of my submissive at heart. That is a responsibility of being a dominant and you sometimes have to make executive decisions that keep those best interests at heart.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 10:14:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Uenjoyedict


I tell every dude I talk to from day one that I'm looking for lifetime chastity & orgasm denial. If a sub is going to want to get out of his device for every non-emergency situation, just because it's distracting, then we are not a good match.



"non-emergency?" Really? Him needing to pass the bar exam isn't a "non-emergency," it is a necessity.

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If you or any other sub think it's a question of poor judgement to be strict, then again, please, please, please, let's end the relationship because we will never be a good match.


This isn't a matter of being strict, it is a matter of being ignorant.

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In any event, having read through all of the answers posted on here and the other site, I think the distraction is a big issue that I'm going to bring up and try to help him with. There are so many ways for him to get distracted during this exam-people making noises, beautiful folks taking the test too, etc... He needs to be so ready for the tests that nothing could break his concentration.


Again, this is ignorance. I'm sure should he pass the test, you would think nothing of having him wear one during a trial. Your willingness to interfere with his career in such a way has nothing to do with being strict. Your view that he should be able to deal with "any distraction" and being so ready for the test that nothing could break is concentration simply shows that you really are clueless.

I don't retract anything I said. Although I will add that you are so ignorant, clueless and have such a clear disregard for his goals that I believe a mental health professional is in order.


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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 10:16:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		@seekingtrinity-I spoke to a several subs who 1, were in lifetime chastity & 2, had taken their bar exams & one their medical board exam w/the device on; and they were NOT distracted by having their device on.



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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 10:30:20 AM   
SeekingTrinity


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Status: offline 		So your decisions are based on what some other subs have told you instead of making your own decision? Interesting

I personally WOULD NOT want to be the cause of any distractions on a monumental time in my submissive's life. I may be focused on myself a lot of the time, but Im compassionate enough to realize that there is a time and place for everything....including a time to not be selfish about my own needs. And I frankly could give two rat's asses about what a bunch of submissives told me online. I have my own set of ethics and morals...and a strong sense of what is right and wrong. What you choose to do is up to you...or the submissive council you go to to make your decisions. Either way...

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 10:40:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Uenjoyedict

@seekingtrinity-I spoke to a several subs who 1, were in lifetime chastity & 2, had taken their bar exams & one their medical board exam w/the device on; and they were NOT distracted by having their device on.





Sure, but by your own admission YOUR sub is not used to wearing one, he is new to it and there will be some level of excitement/trepidation/fear of being caught, and probably some discomfort since he has never worn it for such a long stretch. That's going to be a distraction. There's a big difference between 'this is a normal part of my everyday life' and 'this is a new sexual adventure'.

I wear a bra every day. I wouldn't be distracted by my bra in an exam. If my husband suddenly had to wear one, you can bet he would be distracted.

Also he knows it is a punishment, and will be thinking about that which might affect his emotional state. The point of this punishment must surely be to make him think of you and of what he is not allowed to do. If it's not distracting him, he's not thinking about that, and so it doesn't work as a punishment. If it is distracting him, it's potentially harmful to his performance.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 10:43:20 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Uenjoyedict

@seekingtrinity-I spoke to a several subs who 1, were in lifetime chastity & 2, had taken their bar exams & one their medical board exam w/the device on; and they were NOT distracted by having their device on.





This may well be true for them and odds are it is part of their day to day life that they are used to.

For someone new to chastity it will be a distraction.

For Me the issue would be that he willfully and purposely disobeyed. My punishment would be to end the relationship.

I am quite curious where he is supposedly taking the Bar on the weekend. That alone would make Me question if he is even taking the Bar as from My understanding the Bar is given on the same day(s), nation wide, and it is not on the weekend. The schedule for this years Bar exam is Tuesday February 26th - 27th and again Tuesday July 30th - 31st.

Have you met this man in person? Is this an on line relationship? Is he from outside the US?

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 11:00:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Uenjoyedict
His punishment will be that he has to wear the device during his weekend long bar exam. He has two states that he is studying for.

My question for the attorneys or any profession where you had to spend 6 hours + sitting down & taking an exam, are there any health problems wearing a chastity device?


Wow, you're a crappy "Dominant". Your role is to do what is best for your submissive, but yet you've decided to play punishment games and waste:

1) 6 years of schooling
2) God knows how much money in student loans
3) His intense efforts to pass this exam
4) Impact his future employment opportunities by failing this test. (Having to take the test more than once has an impact)
5) general embarrassment of failing the exam
6) Wasting the fee he paid to sit for the exam.

You're awful.





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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 11:27:04 AM   
Uenjoyedict


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Status: offline 		@surrenders, trinity & lachienne, thanks for the constructive points.

@surrenders, I haven't made any decisions yet. Just trying to have a dialogue; and I wanted to bring in the opinions of subs who had experienced what I was asking in my question.

@lachienne, I have to correct date for the correct exam. Just over wrote it...

@trinity, you make a very good point about the just any punishment during any strenuous exam, would be distracting. Thanks for bringing that up. Your point is very similar to the conversations that I'm having w/seasoned subs who took that exam in their chastity device.

He and I will have a conversation about this issue.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 11:29:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: Uenjoyedict
His punishment will be that he has to wear the device during his weekend long bar exam. He has two states that he is studying for.

My question for the attorneys or any profession where you had to spend 6 hours + sitting down & taking an exam, are there any health problems wearing a chastity device?


Wow, you're a crappy "Dominant". Your role is to do what is best for your submissive, but yet you've decided to play punishment games and waste:

1) 6 years of schooling
2) God knows how much money in student loans
3) His intense efforts to pass this exam
4) Impact his future employment opportunities by failing this test. (Having to take the test more than once has an impact)
5) general embarrassment of failing the exam
6) Wasting the fee he paid to sit for the exam.

You're awful.







Seven years of schooling.

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 11:41:44 AM   
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It takes two to tango. It seems the student is at least as much responsible for the situation and dynamic? Possibly the whole thing is him topping from the bottom and actually designing the scenario. And maybe the public and species is better served if evolution selects out someone from the Legal Profession that confuses his kink with his profession? I'd be royally pissed if my hired legal advocate screwed up a hearing or trial because a fitment issue with his new chastity device distracting him?

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RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam - 2/9/2013 11:43:43 AM   
Baroana


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If I'm reading this correctly:
It takes two to tango. It seems the student is at least as much responsible for the situation and dynamic? Possibly the whole thing is him topping from the bottom and actually designing the scenario. And maybe the public and species is better served if evolution selects out someone from the Legal Profession that confuses his kink with his profession? I'd be royally pissed if my hired legal advocate screwed up a hearing or trial because a fitment issue with his new chastity device distracting him?



Hehe, welcome to America. I don't know about lawyers in other countries, but half of them here don't know the difference between two, too, and to.

Maintaining steely focus while in the midst of having one's penis tortured would be considered some elite shit in our profession.

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