Rochsub2009
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I have never used a chastity device, up to now. I want to try it.
Forced chastity and orgasm control happen to be two of my favorite kinks. I have a lot of experience wearing a variety of devices. So I'm curious about why you want him in PERMANENT chastity, and why you've decided to start including chastity devices in your play.
Despite what many people think, there are many different mindsets when it comes to forced chastity. For example, some males view it as a form of humiliation. These are typically the type of males who view themselves as having "small, useless cocks". Others view it as a form of bondage, and like the sensation of being "locked up". Others view it as an integral part of a cuckolding dynamic, and enjoy the fact that it's a constant reminder that their Domme isn't using their cock for sex. While people like me view it as a sacrifice of something important (intercourse and/or orgasms) to show that HER pleasure takes priority over our own.
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HE initiated him wearing the device; and asked me if I wanted to be his key holder.
If he was the one who wanted to have forced chastity added to the relationship, then you should be even more disappointed that he's chosen to violate his forced chastity.
Are you sure that he's not one of those masochistic subs/slaves who intentionally disobeys in order to receive the punishment that they actually crave?
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He asked me if I wasn't into punishment, how would I deal w/him if he disobeyed me.
This makes me think he may desire punishment.
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He said he wanted to be more servile, hence why he wanted to be in a device. I told him that he would have a better time in chastity if he concentrated more of being of total servitude & not seek gratification for being in there.
He doesn't seem to understand chastity or service. Chastity doesn't make you more servile. Only a desire to serve can do that.
Chastity simply makes you..........chaste.
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I think that may be the main issue w/him. I don't think he has had too much real time experience in a chastity device. He has only worn one w/a couple of pro/fin dommes
Then both of you ought to study the subject together. It doesn't sound like either of you knows very much about it. It would be helpful to both of you if you were to learn more about it before you dive too deeply into it. This is particularly true since you say that you want to place him in permanent chastity.
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I tell every dude I talk to from day one that I'm looking for lifetime chastity & orgasm denial. If you or any other sub think it's a question of poor judgement to be strict, then again, please, please, please, let's end the relationship because we will never be a good match.
It's always a good idea to make sure that you an any potential partner are a good match. But I'd still like to understand why you desire to place your sub into permanent chastity. What's in it for you? What's in it for him?
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I did cross post this same question in a group, where men who actually are in lifetime chastity answered
You really have no way of knowing who answered. I think it's safe to say that the population of male subs who are actually kept in permanent chastity is quite small. You probably got responses from people who FANTASIZE about permanent chastity. There's a big difference.
BTW, what website are you referring to? MystressWorld? 
< Message edited by Rochsub2009 -- 2/10/2013 2:34:05 PM >
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