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Uenjoyedict -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/9/2013 9:39:23 AM)
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Contrary to what most Dommes seem to think, the average guy can get out of just about any chastity device if he really wants to.
Those are my sentiments exactly!
One of the many reasons I have never used a chastity device, up to now. I want to try it.
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That's why it really has to be about his desire to obey you, and not about the device. If he can't keep his hand off of his cock, even if you instruct him to do so, then why do you need him? Is disobedience your kink?
Those were points that were brought up in a conversation we had about chastity & punishment. HE initiated him wearing the device; and asked me if I wanted to be his key holder.
He asked me if I wasn't into punishment, how would I deal w/him if he disobeyed me. I talked to him about trust and told him that I trusted him to do as he says he will do. If he breaks that trust, we need to talk about how he needs to earn it again; and if he can't, we would talk about why he can't and how we would go about parting ways.
I also threw the same question back at him and we talked about it more. He said he wanted to ve more servile, hence why he wanted to be in a device. I told him that he would have a better time in chastity if he concentrated more of being of total servitude & not seek gratification for being in there.
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No. Six hours is not a lot of time to wear a device. Particularly if you've already had him wearing one, so you know that it fits properly. Some subs are kept in chastity for months at a time. You shouldn't be worried about 6 hours.
I think that may be the main issue w/him. I don't think he has had too much real time experience in a chastity device. He has only worn one w/a couple of pro/fin dommes, which I think is the real problem. We talked about that as well & we might need to revisit this before topic briefly before his exam.
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As I mentioned above, your real concern should be whether you want him distracted while he's taking something as important as the Bar exam.
Frankly, if I served a Domme who thought that was a good idea, I'd leave her so quickly it would make her head spin. I find poor judgement to be an unattractive trait in a Domme.
I tell every dude I talk to from day one that I'm looking for lifetime chastity & orgasm denial. If a sub is going to want to get out of his device for every non-emergency situation, just because it's distracting, then we are not a good match.
If you or any other sub think it's a question of poor judgement to be strict, then again, please, please, please, let's end the relationship because we will never be a good match.
I did cross post this same question in a group, where men who actually are in lifetime chastity answered, which I was hoping for here, and their answers were along the line of what you answered, minus the last two paragraphs.
In any event, having read through all of the answers posted on here and the other site, I think the distraction is a big issue that I'm going to bring up and try to help him with. There are so many ways for him to get distracted during this exam-people making noises, beautiful folks taking the test too, etc... He needs to be so ready for the tests that nothing could break his concentration.
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