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Baroana -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/10/2013 2:52:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 quote: ORIGINAL: Baroana quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 He doesn't seem to understand chastity or service. Chastity doesn't make you more servile. Only a desire to serve can do that. Chastity simply makes you..........chaste. I thought it does. That's the pitch I often hear from guys. "It makes me more servile, it makes me more focused on pleasing you....." My answer is, "So does holding a gun to your head. Does that make it good training?" The guys who say that are typically full of s**t. They're simply trying to manipulate you into facilitating their kink. A chastity device doesn't make anyone "more servile". Frankly, it makes them far more focused on their dick (as though we men need to be more focused on our dicks). Think about it for a moment. Chastity devices are uncomfortable. That discomfort causes us to think about it constantly. Then they can be bulky. So they make us imagine that everyone knows that we're wearing it. They also make it almost impossible to go to the bathroom in the normal way. So we often have to sit when going to the bathroom (which is unusual for men, unless we're doing #2). Chastity devices can be painful at night, when they prevent us from getting our normal "nocturnal erections". And of course, we can feel the weight of the device. And if you have a metal lock on it, we can hear the constant clicking when we walk. Most women never really think about what it's like to be a guy who is wearing a chastity device. But I just gave you a look into our world. Now do you see why wearing a chastity device makes us MORE focused on our dicks, and not less so? I KNEW IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif]

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/10/2013 3:00:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Baroana I KNEW IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif] Here's a question for you. Is it you that usually suggest the chastity device, or is it the guy? That should be a clear indication of who actually reaps the benefits of a chastity device. If the woman reaps the benefit, then why is it typically the guy who is begging to wear it? [;)] If his desire to please you is so strong, then when was the last time you heard him beg you to allow him to clean out your garage? Or wash your windows? Or clean the leaves out of your gutters? Or mop your floors? THOSE are things that won't make his dick tingle, but WILL be of actual service to you. So next time a guy asks you to "force" him to wear a chastity device to "make him more servile", tell him to skip the device and wash your windows instead. That's really the only test of his servitude that you need. [:D]

Baroana -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/10/2013 3:11:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 quote: ORIGINAL: Baroana I KNEW IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif][sm=bite.gif] Here's a question for you. Is it you that usually suggest the chastity device, or is it the guy? That should be a clear indication of who actually reaps the benefits of a chastity device. If the woman reaps the benefit, then why is it typically the guy who is begging to wear it? [;)] If his desire to please you is so strong, then when was the last time you heard him beg you to allow him to clean out your garage? Or wash your windows? Or clean the leaves out of your gutters? Or mop your floors? THOSE are things that won't make his dick tingle, but WILL be of actual service to you. So next time a guy asks you to "force" him to wear a chastity device to "make him more servile", tell him to skip the device and wash your windows instead. That's really the only test of his servitude that you need. [:D] Yes, I agree with all this.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/11/2013 12:26:12 AM)
Fast reply Roch - I always enjoy your posts. You are so good at articulating your views and so extremely sensible. Were I a domme I'd be having any new sub read all of your posts because I think your insight provides excellent perspective.

HoldinOn -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/11/2013 12:50:44 AM)
Just an aside - as a findom, I would think you would be invested in him passing the bar. Even if you don't care about the future from his perspective, it would seem his larger salary as an attorney would mean more money for you to steal.

Uenjoyedict -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/11/2013 10:07:13 PM)
@RochSub2009-again, thanks for your thoughtful & articulate responses. I'll answer the easier questions first: No, I don't know anymore than anyone else if the people who say they are in chastity are actually in chastity anymore than I know if you're really a sub. You say that you are and haven't given me any reasons to believe or care to believe otherwise. Therefore, I trust what you say is true until you prove otherwise. Why do I want to try chastity device? •I want to try a device, just to try it. I love to have new experiences at least twice, first time to see if whether or not I like it and the second time to confirm my first decision. •The other reason I want to try it is that I think the restraint/bondage feeling of his dick being caged in there, is something that I really want to experience w/a sub. •Lastly, I would like a cuckolding relationship. I've had a couple of cucks before but I never used a device on them. I want a dude who is permanently chased or even nurtured in the future. I think starting w/the chastity device will be a great way to start it out. Now, may I choose to change things in the future, I may or may not. Just depends on how things go and how much we both enjoy it. I've been fortunate that all of my ex subs wanted orgasm control/denial for the same reason you do-they wanted to make sex MY moment and pleasure. I've spoken to some about moving to using the device, we just never got to it. I don't think that he is machonist as much as he has had two too many interactions/relationships w/pros/findommes. I think he is used to instant gratification and/or punishment from them, esp with activities that I don't necessarily consider punishment but rewards. They're not necessarily pain though.

seekingreality -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/11/2013 11:07:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Uenjoyedict This slave I'm training got out of his chastity device AND orgasmed yesterday, both without my permission. I had some surprises in store for him, which I've canceled because I knew I wouldn't enjoy them after what he did. Denying him wasn't punishment though. His punishment will be that he has to wear the device during his weekend long bar exam. He has two states that he is studying for. My question for the attorneys or any profession where you had to spend 6 hours + sitting down & taking an exam, are there any health problems wearing a chastity device? 1. The bar exam takes place last Wed. of Feb. across the nation; not on the weekend - small thing. 2. As others have said, I think it is unwise with you to mess with a sub's career. 3. If I were the sub, I would tell you plainly that my career was off-limits; you could punish me some other time, but not during the bar exam. If that was unacceptable to you, we would be done.

JustDragonflies -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/24/2013 1:30:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 \But I just gave you a look into our world. Now do you see why wearing a chastity device makes us MORE focused on our dicks, and not less so? The device itself serves as a constant reminder of our dick. It prevents us from thinking about much else. This thread looks dead, but I found no profile for you so I hope you read this: Thank you for the insight Your honesty and descriptions were very informative!!!

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/27/2013 10:26:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JustDragonflies This thread looks dead, but I found no profile for you so I hope you read this: Thank you for the insight Your honesty and descriptions were very informative!!! JustDragonflies, You're very welcome. I'm glad you found my post to be informative. I do have a profile on CM, but I keep it hidden. I keep it hidden because it's primarily financial Dommes who contact me, and I really don't want to be bothered by them. But I do realize that by hiding my profile, it makes it harder for forum members to learn about me. It's not the optimal solution, but it works for me. -Roch

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/27/2013 4:46:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 If his desire to please you is so strong, then when was the last time you heard him beg you to allow him to clean out your garage? Or wash your windows? Or clean the leaves out of your gutters? Or mop your floors? THOSE are things that won't make his dick tingle, but WILL be of actual service to you. The bolded part reminds me of what this guy I'm writing to now said the other day. We were IMing and I said I just scrubbed my floor. He said "Pretty soon that will be my job" with a [:D]. It made my heart warm. NBMG

focalss -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (3/2/2013 8:42:50 PM)
An aside, I want to nominate this thread for the best of Collarme 2013 even though it is only March I think this one is going to make it to the top 10 of the year. It might be hard to have sympathy for a future lawyer so I am not going to object or criticize but I am wondering what the OP's day job is. If the question was about a Doctor wearing it during 10 hour brain surgery where someone's life would be on the line I think I would say don't wear it. Just sayin

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (3/5/2013 4:16:13 AM)
This is either a silly story, or really embarassing. M

xssve -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (3/5/2013 4:41:29 AM)
Given the stress of taking the bar exam, I would suggest that perhaps you might have helped him out there in attempting to relieve the stress and avoided the whole thing. On the other hand, depending on the chastity device being used, I should not think it would cause too much trauma, unless he's a real legal eagle, I doubt the bar will cause him to pop a woody.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (3/5/2013 5:37:41 AM)
This: quote: ORIGINAL: TenderTorment I'l keep this as short as possible. Irresponsible. No other way to put it. You are willing to jeopardize his future. That's all I take from your post. I wouldn't trust you to own a gerbil let alone a slave. Get a grip of yourself in a fundamental way before you start attempting to get a grip of someone else's life. Good luck.......(To him) I'm glad you're reevaluating, OP. Stick around, you can learn a lot here.

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