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Nelee -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/9/2013 12:49:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Uenjoyedict @seekingtrinity-I spoke to a several subs who 1, were in lifetime chastity & 2, had taken their bar exams & one their medical board exam w/the device on; and they were NOT distracted by having their device on. If they were in the same situations, then 1) they're in lifetime chastity. That's their kink and they're not only used to it, but they're willing to indulge in it because it suits their personal tastes. 2) They're used to it (see above). You already admitted that your sub is not used to chastity, and you yourself don't even know the long-term dangers of being in one. You cannot compare the experiences of one to those of another, especially at different points in their lives (chastity devices during BAR exams are a little different when you're already used to wearing them everyday and you're resigned to that fact [8\|]). I tried to give you the benefit of the doubt and come at it nicely, but the fact of the matter is... you're just not a good domme. Stop thinking with your vag for a minute and take your head out of the deep crevices of your ass and listen to what others have been saying to you.

sexyred1 -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/9/2013 1:17:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC quote: ORIGINAL: myotherself So this guy has spent countless hours and thousands of dollars to get himself to the point where he can sit his Bar exam, and you want to jeopardise that simply because he had a wank? Wow. Yeah, I'm with you. I think I could safely go with "wildly irresponsible". Of course, the entire nature of the dynamic between them boggles my mind so hey... perhaps failing the bar for sex games makes sense in their world? And you have to wonder about the priorities of the guy in question. It really boggles the mind if this is even true. Maybe they will make this into a Law & Order episode.

epiphiny43 -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/9/2013 1:37:00 PM)
Oh, My, God. Lawyers who crush their Own balls? Not to hijack the thread to lawyer jokes, but how do you not? The thread has been superb black humor from the start?

Uenjoyedict -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/9/2013 3:33:02 PM)
quote: I think that may be the main issue w/him. I don't think he has had too much real time experience in a chastity device. He has only worn one w/a couple of pro/fin dommes, which I think is the real problem. We talked about that as well & we might need to revisit this before topic briefly before his exam. I never said he has no/little experience wearing a device but that his experience was with paid professionals, who catered to his fantasies. @epiphany43, you are absolutely right. I truly think he was hoping for same reaction he usually got out of the pros, from me.

lizi -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/9/2013 3:37:46 PM)
I honestly don't understand what this man's penis has to do with the Bar Exam. How did these two things ever get connected? Why is his dick connected to his future livelihood? Why are the two of you even having a conversation involving penis's being locked up or unlocked during a pivotal moment in his life? All it says to me is that his sexual gratification, and yours, are more important than anything else that could possibly be going on. Good luck to the both of you.

LafayetteLady -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/9/2013 4:23:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC quote: ORIGINAL: myotherself So this guy has spent countless hours and thousands of dollars to get himself to the point where he can sit his Bar exam, and you want to jeopardise that simply because he had a wank? Wow. Yeah, I'm with you. I think I could safely go with "wildly irresponsible". Of course, the entire nature of the dynamic between them boggles my mind so hey... perhaps failing the bar for sex games makes sense in their world? And you have to wonder about the priorities of the guy in question. It really boggles the mind if this is even true. Maybe they will make this into a Law & Order episode. Well, they would have to change it up a bit. Say a surgeon who botches an operation due to his lack of focus on the patient; patient dies; they find out his "domme" ordered him to do it, and so they file murder charges against her. I can see that working quite well.

EsotericLady -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/9/2013 5:06:18 PM)
Oh....I don't know about that! (smirking) quote: ORIGINAL: epiphiny43 I love this place. You couldn't make this stuff up if you tried.

littlewonder -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/9/2013 6:55:54 PM)
I'm going to say he will be too distracted to concentrate on his exam to be even able to pass. Are you willing for that to happen to him? Are you going to supplement his income if he fails?

slaveluci -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/9/2013 7:59:21 PM)
~FR~ If this sub has a lick of fuckin' sense, he'll skip that "punishment," take his exam, become an attorney and move on with his life, leaving the OP behind to live with her own moronic decisions...........luci

cloudboy -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/9/2013 9:07:18 PM)
Its better if he passes the BAR exam. I think that should be you #1 concern.

littlewonder -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/9/2013 10:42:03 PM)
quote: I tell every dude I talk to from day one that I'm looking for lifetime chastity & orgasm denial. If a sub is going to want to get out of his device for every non-emergency situation, just because it's distracting, then we are not a good match. If you or any other sub think it's a question of poor judgement to be strict, then again, please, please, please, let's end the relationship because we will never be a good match. I'd say YOU are the one with no real life experience. Good luck with that lifetime chastity and orgasm denial. Let us know how that's working out for you after your first 5 years together in full-time, real life. RE: Have you even asked him why he took it off in the first place? If he is your slave, why didn't he just ask you? I know in my case, if I was wearing one and I had to take it off so I could concentrate on my job so I don't get fired, I have a feeling Master would remove it since he knows a career is important to both of us. If I had not asked him and taken it off, he would still punish me. Not for taking it off but for not asking him. He would have been ok with the removal for such an important reason. He sure as hell though would not make me wear it during a huge exam. It would be sabotage to me and to him. If you want to punish him, fine. But wait until he at least can get through this exam with a passing grade. You two REALLY need to talk. So far it seems like that's something neither of you are doing.

theRose4U -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/10/2013 1:10:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: muhly22222 I just took the bar exam in July. The only way this could possibly be acceptable is if he felt more comfortable in the chastity device than out of it. If you're worried about him sneaking off to touch himself, he won't have time to do that. Just to be allowed to sit for the bar exam costs thousands of dollars (and I'm not including the cost of attending law school). Having a chance of passing it costs even more thousands of dollars (bar study courses are not cheap...and no, you won't be able to just study on your own). It is the most stressful moment in his life, and you want to make it harder for him? I know I'm not a sub, but if I was, and I'd had a Domme try something like that on me during the bar exam, that would have been the last conversation we had. You should apologize to him for even considering it. And still don't be surprised if he walks away. This is along the lines of what I was thinking. Spanky spanky reward system for study. Big scene for passing are one thing. Releiving stress so your head doesn't explode makes sense in what seems to be a poorly managed dynamic. What would normally be a punishable offense is something in my mind YOU need to apologize for! Ruining his entire future because YOU didn't supervise or support an enormous stress level is grounds for a smart sub to leave you. Sure a vengeful legal student could also find case law to support damages. There are a large number of people that have killed themselves because of bar results!! This is a make or break your life situation where support is needed...sorry you have SORELY failed this sub!!!

tommonymous -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/10/2013 7:18:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Uenjoyedict My question for the attorneys or any profession where you had to spend 6 hours + sitting down & taking an exam, are there any health problems wearing a chastity device? I'm a bit late here, but here's a question: If you're asking lawyers for medical advice, who do you ask for legal advice? To echo the common theme: Yes, he disobeyed. But, that doesn't give you license (at this point in time) to risk this magnitude of impact on his life.

Nelee -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/10/2013 7:50:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC quote: ORIGINAL: myotherself So this guy has spent countless hours and thousands of dollars to get himself to the point where he can sit his Bar exam, and you want to jeopardise that simply because he had a wank? Wow. Yeah, I'm with you. I think I could safely go with "wildly irresponsible". Of course, the entire nature of the dynamic between them boggles my mind so hey... perhaps failing the bar for sex games makes sense in their world? And you have to wonder about the priorities of the guy in question. It really boggles the mind if this is even true. Maybe they will make this into a Law & Order episode. Well, they would have to change it up a bit. Say a surgeon who botches an operation due to his lack of focus on the patient; patient dies; they find out his "domme" ordered him to do it, and so they file murder charges against her. I can see that working quite well. brb writing Law & Order: SVU fanfiction with this plot.

theRose4U -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/10/2013 8:41:25 AM)
quote: If you're asking lawyers for medical advice, who do you ask for legal advice? Nominate for sunny quote of the day

LafayetteLady -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/10/2013 1:20:01 PM)
Well, I hope you can at least send me the link to what you write so I can read it!

hlen5 -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/10/2013 1:21:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: epiphiny43 I love this place. You couldn't make this stuff up if you tried. I think some do!! ETA: I don't believe the OP. You contradicted yourself between the OP and post #28.

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/10/2013 2:33:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Uenjoyedict I have never used a chastity device, up to now. I want to try it. Forced chastity and orgasm control happen to be two of my favorite kinks. I have a lot of experience wearing a variety of devices. So I'm curious about why you want him in PERMANENT chastity, and why you've decided to start including chastity devices in your play. Despite what many people think, there are many different mindsets when it comes to forced chastity. For example, some males view it as a form of humiliation. These are typically the type of males who view themselves as having "small, useless cocks". Others view it as a form of bondage, and like the sensation of being "locked up". Others view it as an integral part of a cuckolding dynamic, and enjoy the fact that it's a constant reminder that their Domme isn't using their cock for sex. While people like me view it as a sacrifice of something important (intercourse and/or orgasms) to show that HER pleasure takes priority over our own. quote: HE initiated him wearing the device; and asked me if I wanted to be his key holder. If he was the one who wanted to have forced chastity added to the relationship, then you should be even more disappointed that he's chosen to violate his forced chastity. Are you sure that he's not one of those masochistic subs/slaves who intentionally disobeys in order to receive the punishment that they actually crave? quote: He asked me if I wasn't into punishment, how would I deal w/him if he disobeyed me. This makes me think he may desire punishment. quote: He said he wanted to be more servile, hence why he wanted to be in a device. I told him that he would have a better time in chastity if he concentrated more of being of total servitude & not seek gratification for being in there. He doesn't seem to understand chastity or service. Chastity doesn't make you more servile. Only a desire to serve can do that. Chastity simply makes you..........chaste. quote: I think that may be the main issue w/him. I don't think he has had too much real time experience in a chastity device. He has only worn one w/a couple of pro/fin dommes Then both of you ought to study the subject together. It doesn't sound like either of you knows very much about it. It would be helpful to both of you if you were to learn more about it before you dive too deeply into it. This is particularly true since you say that you want to place him in permanent chastity. quote: I tell every dude I talk to from day one that I'm looking for lifetime chastity & orgasm denial. If you or any other sub think it's a question of poor judgement to be strict, then again, please, please, please, let's end the relationship because we will never be a good match. It's always a good idea to make sure that you an any potential partner are a good match. But I'd still like to understand why you desire to place your sub into permanent chastity. What's in it for you? What's in it for him? quote: I did cross post this same question in a group, where men who actually are in lifetime chastity answered You really have no way of knowing who answered. I think it's safe to say that the population of male subs who are actually kept in permanent chastity is quite small. You probably got responses from people who FANTASIZE about permanent chastity. There's a big difference. BTW, what website are you referring to? MystressWorld? [:D]

Baroana -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/10/2013 2:36:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 He doesn't seem to understand chastity or service. Chastity doesn't make you more servile. Only a desire to serve can do that. Chastity simply makes you..........chaste. I thought it does. That's the pitch I often hear from guys. "It makes me more servile, it makes me more focused on pleasing you....." My answer is, "So does holding a gun to your head. Does that make it good training?"

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Wearing a chastity device during bar exam (2/10/2013 2:49:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Baroana quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 He doesn't seem to understand chastity or service. Chastity doesn't make you more servile. Only a desire to serve can do that. Chastity simply makes you..........chaste. I thought it does. That's the pitch I often hear from guys. "It makes me more servile, it makes me more focused on pleasing you....." My answer is, "So does holding a gun to your head. Does that make it good training?" The guys who say that are typically full of st. They're simply trying to manipulate you into facilitating their kink. A chastity device doesn't make anyone "more servile". Frankly, it makes them far more focused on their dick (as though we men need to be more focused on our dicks). Think about it for a moment. Chastity devices are uncomfortable. That discomfort causes us to think about it constantly. Then they can be bulky. So they make us imagine that everyone knows that we're wearing it. They also make it almost impossible to go to the bathroom in the normal way. So we often have to sit when going to the bathroom (which is unusual for men, unless we're doing #2). Chastity devices can be painful at night, when they prevent us from getting our normal "nocturnal erections". And of course, we can feel the weight of the device. All the time.** And if you have a metal lock on it, we can hear the constant clicking when we walk. Most women never really think about what it's like to be a guy who is wearing a chastity device. But I just gave you a look into our world. Now do you see why wearing a chastity device makes us MORE focused on our dicks, and not less so? The device itself serves as a constant reminder of our dick. It prevents us from thinking about much else.

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