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jayc255 -> How to find a Mistress (2/9/2013 1:35:08 PM)
I have been on here for awhile and it is very hard to find a true mistress.I yearn to serve one lady I am honest, sincere have experience and I am beginning to wonder if I will ever get back into the lifestyle. PLEASE HELP ME Jay

Baroana -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/9/2013 1:39:35 PM)
Be proactive and read all the other "why can't I find a mistress" threads in this forum.

peppermint -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/9/2013 2:16:28 PM)
I agree with what Baroana wrote. Also research the threads that tell you how to make a good profile. How many munches have you attended in the past few months? Also, how many events do you normally attend? Many people find their partners in real life rather than online. When I read your profile I couldn't tell if you want a LTR or just a once in awhile one. You did say you want someone who doesn't ask for money. Does that mean she buys all the toys or are you willing to help purchase toys and the costumes you might expect her to wear? What activities do you do for fun? Movies? Hiking? Tennis? How will a Domme know if you and she are compatible if she has no idea if you and she have something besides BDSM common?

Lockit -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/9/2013 4:46:06 PM)
What's a true mistress?

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/9/2013 4:54:42 PM)
You have a decent profile I think. Find profiles you like, and contact them in as normal a way as possible. Good luck, M

EsotericLady -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/9/2013 4:55:19 PM)
It seems just a tad out-of-place to me that a person WHO HAS NO PROFILE AT ALL should be instructing someone on how they should be writing and presenting their own?? quote: ORIGINAL: peppermint I agree with what Baroana wrote. Also research the threads that tell you how to make a good profile. How many munches have you attended in the past few months? Also, how many events do you normally attend? Many people find their partners in real life rather than online. When I read your profile I couldn't tell if you want a LTR or just a once in awhile one. You did say you want someone who doesn't ask for money. Does that mean she buys all the toys or are you willing to help purchase toys and the costumes you might expect her to wear? What activities do you do for fun? Movies? Hiking? Tennis? How will a Domme know if you and she are compatible if she has no idea if you and she have something besides BDSM common?

EsotericLady -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/9/2013 4:59:48 PM)
I agree too! It sounds very straightforward and sincere. :) I wish him well. (And let's please not go into the "whats a true mistress" thing anyone, Lockit. It's been done ad nauseam!) quote: ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig You have a decent profile I think. Find profiles you like, and contact them in as normal a way as possible. Good luck, M

Lockit -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/9/2013 5:06:17 PM)
Actually... you might find this one interesting. I remember Jay. Okay? [:D]

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/9/2013 5:55:26 PM)
I think you should start out by reading the Ask a Mistress FAQ, ALL of it actually. There's some very good information therein and it was put there for a reason. Also, I don't know what you think a "true" Mistress is, but one person's true is another person's fake. It just depends on what you're looking for is all. NBMG

MissAsylum -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/9/2013 6:53:16 PM)
I can't speak for peppermint but... 1.she may not be searching for play/partnership. 2.she may have profiles elsewhere 3.as a woman, she can provide insight as to what would be attractive I'm just curious as to why you have some authority on who can and cannot give advice on this. quote: ORIGINAL: EsotericLady It seems just a tad out-of-place to me that a person WHO HAS NO PROFILE AT ALL should be instructing someone on how they should be writing and presenting their own?? quote: ORIGINAL: peppermint I agree with what Baroana wrote. Also research the threads that tell you how to make a good profile. How many munches have you attended in the past few months? Also, how many events do you normally attend? Many people find their partners in real life rather than online. When I read your profile I couldn't tell if you want a LTR or just a once in awhile one. You did say you want someone who doesn't ask for money. Does that mean she buys all the toys or are you willing to help purchase toys and the costumes you might expect her to wear? What activities do you do for fun? Movies? Hiking? Tennis? How will a Domme know if you and she are compatible if she has no idea if you and she have something besides BDSM common?

jayc255 -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/10/2013 5:42:32 AM)
A true Mistress to me is one who is not a pro and that is all.I am only seeking a true one on one relationship with one Mistress. Jay

jayc255 -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/10/2013 5:49:29 AM)
I thank you for your advice. I went into the true Mistress thing on here and I hope that will understand. Jay

MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/10/2013 6:11:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissAsylum I can't speak for peppermint but... 1.she may not be searching for play/partnership. 2.she may have profiles elsewhere 3.as a woman, she can provide insight as to what would be attractive I'm just curious as to why you have some authority on who can and cannot give advice on this. quote: ORIGINAL: EsotericLady It seems just a tad out-of-place to me that a person WHO HAS NO PROFILE AT ALL should be instructing someone on how they should be writing and presenting their own?? quote: ORIGINAL: peppermint I agree with what Baroana wrote. Also research the threads that tell you how to make a good profile. How many munches have you attended in the past few months? Also, how many events do you normally attend? Many people find their partners in real life rather than online. When I read your profile I couldn't tell if you want a LTR or just a once in awhile one. You did say you want someone who doesn't ask for money. Does that mean she buys all the toys or are you willing to help purchase toys and the costumes you might expect her to wear? What activities do you do for fun? Movies? Hiking? Tennis? How will a Domme know if you and she are compatible if she has no idea if you and she have something besides BDSM common? I agree with Peppermint, provide some of your vanilla interests, don't stick to just one resource, get yourself out into real life meetings, and be willing to CONTRIBUTE something financially to the relationship, even if it's just bringing your own toys & costumes for an occasional Play session. I understand your avoidance of Pro-Dommes in favor of a more substantial relationship...but even in a "vanilla" relationship nobody likes a freeloader. --MM

jayc255 -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/10/2013 6:43:41 AM)
How does anyone think that by not wanting a pro makes me cheep.One hour with a pro would do nothing for me I am seeking a true relationship and nothing else.I own a very successful business and trust me my mistress would want for nothing and I mean nothing.Please no more though about cheapness. Jay

theRose4U -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/10/2013 8:28:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jayc255 How does anyone think that by not wanting a pro makes me cheep.One hour with a pro would do nothing for me I am seeking a true relationship and nothing else.I own a very successful business and trust me my mistress would want for nothing and I mean nothing.Please no more though about cheapness. Jay Again with stuff you just don't put out there!! You want specific play but don't want to pay a pro. You want a lifestyle domme willing to do what you want how you want for love & gifts. Do you not see how this thinking is kind of wonky & likely to attract pro money dommes??

DarkSteven -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/10/2013 8:44:03 AM)
Okay. jayc255, no offense intended, but you're not at your best describing yourself in writing. Your profile says "I want a Domme", which doesn't say anything about YOU. All you say about yourself is that you're submissive and own a business. Two pics, and one is your cock. Bluntly, you'd do a helluva lot better to just go to munches and parties and meet people there.

thishereboi -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/10/2013 8:45:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jayc255 A true Mistress to me is one who is not a pro and that is all.I am only seeking a true one on one relationship with one Mistress. Jay There is a Mistress in our area who also was a pro for many years. She is well respected in the community and carried the title of Ms. World Leather at the Dallas convention. She is warm, caring and in total control of her life and the submissives in her family. I have had the pleasure of playing with her and I have to say it was one of the best scenes I have ever had. I have also had the privilege of serving her on many occasions and again she was wonderful. On the other hand I have bet some Mistresses who were never pros and they were total assholes. I wouldn't have let them near me nor had a relationship with them for any reason. Now I can totally understand that you want a relationship and not a paid for session. Perhaps you should get out into your area and meet some people. Just because they are a pro doesn't mean they are not true or that they do not have normal relationships. All of the pros I have ever known have also had relationships that had nothing to do with a paid session.

EsotericLady -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/10/2013 8:53:18 AM)
You are putting words in my mouth that were NOT there! I SAID it seemed a tad out-of-place. I never said I have authority over ANYTHING on these boards. If you find my posts offensive, I would not at all be hurt if you put them on ignore. : ) quote: ORIGINAL: MissAsylum I can't speak for peppermint but... 1.she may not be searching for play/partnership. 2.she may have profiles elsewhere 3.as a woman, she can provide insight as to what would be attractive I'm just curious as to why you have some authority on who can and cannot give advice on this. quote: ORIGINAL: EsotericLady It seems just a tad out-of-place to me that a person WHO HAS NO PROFILE AT ALL should be instructing someone on how they should be writing and presenting their own?? quote: ORIGINAL: peppermint I agree with what Baroana wrote. Also research the threads that tell you how to make a good profile. How many munches have you attended in the past few months? Also, how many events do you normally attend? Many people find their partners in real life rather than online. When I read your profile I couldn't tell if you want a LTR or just a once in awhile one. You did say you want someone who doesn't ask for money. Does that mean she buys all the toys or are you willing to help purchase toys and the costumes you might expect her to wear? What activities do you do for fun? Movies? Hiking? Tennis? How will a Domme know if you and she are compatible if she has no idea if you and she have something besides BDSM common?

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/10/2013 9:00:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: EsotericLady You are putting words in my mouth that were NOT there! I SAID it seemed a tad out-of-place. I disagree that it's out of place - I've taken part in lots of market research sessions giving feedback on advertising and packaging, despite having never done any advertising or packaging design myself. The views of a potential consumer or audience member are still valuable, since you need to know how you are coming across.

EsotericLady -> RE: How to find a Mistress (2/10/2013 10:30:18 AM)
That's ok if you disagree with me. I have no problem with that at all. : ) quote: ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders quote: ORIGINAL: EsotericLady You are putting words in my mouth that were NOT there! I SAID it seemed a tad out-of-place. I disagree that it's out of place - I've taken part in lots of market research sessions giving feedback on advertising and packaging, despite having never done any advertising or packaging design myself. The views of a potential consumer or audience member are still valuable, since you need to know how you are coming across.

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