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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 1:51:57 PM   
Lucifyre


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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 1:53:31 PM   
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There are Dominants, and there are dumbinants....




That is cute!


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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 1:57:46 PM   
DominusCaptiva


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Status: offline 		Hmm I did not think about this being a TOS violation when I posted it. I did not have much time at that moment. Since it is, would one of the Mods please remove this post?

Thank you for your opinions. After reading them and rereading the email exchange, I was in the wrong and owe her an apology as such.

Apparently, I am rustier than I thought. I have not been new sub hunting in a few years. Thank you all for clarifying my misstep.

I did not intentionally make any claim that she was mine in any way, though in hindsight, I can see how it got interpreted that way.


Ya, it sucks being wrong. My quote is apt today. ~sigh~

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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 2:01:35 PM   
TheLilSquaw1


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ORIGINAL: DominusCaptiva

Hmm I did not think about this being a TOS violation when I posted it. I did not have much time at that moment. Since it is, would one of the Mods please remove this post?




Did you read the TOS and forum guidelines?

Just curious.

I actually hope they don't remove the thread but the email.
*shrugs*

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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 2:12:52 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DominusCaptiva

Hmm I did not think about this being a TOS violation when I posted it. I did not have much time at that moment. Since it is, would one of the Mods please remove this post?


I hope they don't remove it. I hope that they just remove her name and leave the rest so that others can learn something from this post.


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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 2:25:08 PM   
DominusCaptiva


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

I hope they don't remove it. I hope that they just remove her name and leave the rest so that others can learn something from this post.




That would be a good move.

Yes, I read the guidelines... quite a long time ago. They were not exactly at the forefront of my mind today, apparently.

Edit: Left out what would be a good move.

< Message edited by DominusCaptiva -- 2/13/2013 2:26:17 PM >

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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 2:31:57 PM   
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Just because somebody selected the word "submissive" in describing their orientation doesn't mean
they're on the bottom whenever somebody messages them. If they aren't on the bottom, then they
can't top from the bottom.

I think I love you. If you don't mind, that is.

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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 2:39:41 PM   
Duskypearls


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quote:

ORIGINAL: poise


quote:

ORIGINAL: muhly22222

Just because somebody selected the word "submissive" in describing their orientation doesn't mean
they're on the bottom whenever somebody messages them. If they aren't on the bottom, then they
can't top from the bottom.

I think I love you. If you don't mind, that is.


Í'm with you, Poise, and nominate it for Sunshine post of the day!

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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 2:47:10 PM   
Duskypearls


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Status: offline 		OP, although it is clear you made a faux pas, and were soundly corrected by so many, I appreciate you had the ability to own your mistakes, and receive their opinions in such a gracious manner.

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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 2:59:36 PM   
theshytype


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DominusCaptiva

Hmm I did not think about this being a TOS violation when I posted it. I did not have much time at that moment. Since it is, would one of the Mods please remove this post?

Thank you for your opinions. After reading them and rereading the email exchange, I was in the wrong and owe her an apology as such.

Apparently, I am rustier than I thought. I have not been new sub hunting in a few years. Thank you all for clarifying my misstep.

I did not intentionally make any claim that she was mine in any way, though in hindsight, I can see how it got interpreted that way.


Ya, it sucks being wrong. My quote is apt today. ~sigh~


This is so refreshing!
Hopefully some people can learn from this as a how-to respond

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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 3:15:48 PM   
SeekingTrinity


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I agree with Duskypearls. I think you handled it quite well and I know I for one like seeing people take personal responsibility for their actions. You could have been a total douchebag about it, but you instead realized that you did the wrong thing and figured out what the appropriate course of action would be.

I too hope that the Mods only remove the other person's name from the post, but keep the thread here because I think that its a good thing to be able to read.

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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 3:30:58 PM   
Shininglight23


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I'm not going to comment on whether you were right or wrong... everyone else has done that already.

I would like to point out... I looked at her profile, and saw that she has quite a few usernames listed in her journal entries...as "fakes".."scammers".. etc. Is it possible that the OP saw that and thought it wasn't against TOS to post a username?

Regardless, it's great that you're owning up to your mistake. Bravo.

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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 4:23:26 PM   
VideoAdminAlpha


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Status: offline 		And now that I have deleted her name, I do not remember it to go clean up her journal entries

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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 4:29:18 PM   
muhly22222


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Duskypearls


quote:

ORIGINAL: poise


quote:

ORIGINAL: muhly22222

Just because somebody selected the word "submissive" in describing their orientation doesn't mean
they're on the bottom whenever somebody messages them. If they aren't on the bottom, then they
can't top from the bottom.

I think I love you. If you don't mind, that is.


Í'm with you, Poise, and nominate it for Sunshine post of the day!


Aww, you guys, stop!

To the OP: way to take the beating like a grown-up, it definitely reflects well on you.

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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 4:30:21 PM   
Shininglight23


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You have a cmail.

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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 5:10:19 PM   
LadyPact


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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 5:10:39 PM   
theRose4U


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quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: DominusCaptiva

Hmm I did not think about this being a TOS violation when I posted it. I did not have much time at that moment. Since it is, would one of the Mods please remove this post?


I hope they don't remove it. I hope that they just remove her name and leave the rest so that others can learn something from this post.


And so any sub forward into eternity with the same issue (or same person) has it for reference

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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 5:52:30 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: theRose4U


quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: DominusCaptiva

Hmm I did not think about this being a TOS violation when I posted it. I did not have much time at that moment. Since it is, would one of the Mods please remove this post?


I hope they don't remove it. I hope that they just remove her name and leave the rest so that others can learn something from this post.


And so any sub forward into eternity with the same issue (or same person) has it for reference


I'm going to try to tread lightly here because the OP has been so great about accepting what has been said.

Many Doms think that they get to determine how a conversation happens, get to demand respect or think that they're the exception to what the submissive has listed as their requirements. That's not the case, and both side of the kneel need to remember that.

Seriously, I had to tell someone that the content of his email to me was inappropriate. His response was that it's a kink site and I'm a submissive. So, I fired back, "So, you'd be okay with someone saying that to YOUR wife/submissive?" Then he understood.






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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 6:26:52 PM   
theRose4U


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Status: offline 		LOL osade, that must have been a different thread than the one who publically attempted that.

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RE: Am I in the wrong here? - 2/13/2013 8:08:10 PM   
DominusCaptiva


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Status: offline 		As much as I dislike being wrong, being an ass about it just adds to mistake. I've been wrong before, I'll be wrong again. Hopefully not for a while.

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