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RE: I fear I am loosing my best friend - 2/18/2013 9:14:04 PM

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Yes. call me a disloyal friend, but I am far more loyal to my children and husband then a friend that has been lying to me. It is my job to protect my children, she sure wont if she comes around them high or with drug residue on her to expose them. I would rather loose a friendship then have one of my children harmed or made sick from her choice to make money the easy way.

As you should be, as far as putting your family first. But don't, "fear you are losing your best friend." That's bullshit. Faith has already been broken. You didn't agonize about going to the law with something you knew. You gossiped. I'm betting that among those bothered by my personal value that, you don't bring the law into the circle, we might find a few who'd be seriously ticked to find their best friend doing that about them.

I've lived in the world it sounds like you are brushing up against. Get clear, and maybe set a little distance between yourself, and any other girlfriends who suddenly seem to be a lot better at keeping the house clean. You don't want to be there, and you absolutely don't want someone in it deciding you are the reason something bad happened to them.

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RE: I fear I am loosing my best friend - 2/18/2013 9:18:11 PM

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Google : Effects of Meth

I'm about to say something rough.

I apologize.

But, if there is Meth involved, you have already lost your friend. And so has your friend. There is only two kinds of people in this World. Those who give a damn and those who don't.

Again, here is that word, "IF" your friend is involved in selling Meth, there is much more going on than a single family disintegrating. There are also the buyers. Let's think for a moment about what is happening to them. Let's think for a moment, why. It is because someone is providing the drug. Isn't it?

WHO?

That's right. Your friend.

Is directly responsible for what is happening to her customers. And just bought a $15,000 truck with the blood money. You can be sure that's not all of it.

Does that sound like someone who gives a damn? About anything?

How many people are going be destroyed by this?

And how many will be members of your family?

18 months ago I cut loose a twenty year friend. After trying to help him for ten years. When I think of the damage I did myself in that decade by trying to help that ungrateful idiot, I am really quite embarrassed. I am smarter than this. I simply failed to look ahead. I failed to rank the pieces on the board. I failed to make the necessary defensive moves. I went so far as to fail to acknowledge that a game was being played. My friend, on the other hand, made none of these errors. He played me like a fiddle and rode me like a horse. Used everything of mine he could lay hands on and literally paid for it with literal vermin. That's how he made me not want my stuff back.

You need to look down the road. To see what is coming up it. You can see the cops. And we all understand what they can do. To you, too. But look at what else is coming up that road. Do you want to meet it? Or would rather take another road and be somewhere else WITH YOUR KIDS when it arrives where you are now headed??

Are the cops really the bad guys in this situation?

Isn't the bad guy your friend?

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RE: I fear I am loosing my best friend - 2/18/2013 9:43:25 PM

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Nice pic. Was that taken at the Flying J in Butte, by any chance?

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RE: I fear I am loosing my best friend - 2/18/2013 9:44:07 PM

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No the police are not the bad guys here. This isn't some city that has hundreds of police officers that are just out for a paycheck. This is a small town with a small town police force of 5 sometimes 6 officers who all live here and raise their families here like everyone else. Several are from here and have a lot of extended family here. The teenagers do not like them because they pull them over and make them behave themselves. But hey I see them warning the kids to either get home before parents are called or telling them to slow down before they get a ticket quite a bit. It is a small enough town that when they say we will call your parents they most often do know who the parents are and can inform them their kids were speeding, doing burn outs or out after curfew.

What is so hard is I have never had to intentionally walked away from a friend before. I have drifted apart when friends moved away but it was never cutting ties. I have to see her around and know I can't go with her where she has chosen to take her life.

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RE: I fear I am loosing my best friend - 2/18/2013 10:16:56 PM

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What is so hard is I have never had to intentionally walked away from a friend before.

Personal growth is often quite painful, disorientating, and even frightening. It is, as you say, new. And while it could be cause to celebrate, this ain't one of those times. This is a no-win scenario. Your objective is to lose as little as possible.

**** TheHeretic

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RE: I fear I am loosing my best friend - 2/18/2013 10:41:56 PM

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And further down, she clarified that the 911 friend approached her, so she didn't initiate the conversation with authorities.

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RE: I fear I am loosing my best friend - 2/18/2013 11:22:30 PM

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And further down, she clarified that the 911 friend approached her, so she didn't initiate the conversation with authorities.

Yeah, I saw that. I'm not sure I buy it. This is her, "best friend," remember? How did all that happen to come up?

Stories have a way of changing, when people seeking validation and supportive feedback run into something other than that. Again, I think she's right to undo the ties, but I think there is still a betrayal involved.

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RE: I fear I am loosing my best friend - 2/19/2013 3:55:17 AM

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I am sure the friend, if that friend is indeed involved in drugs, would see it as a betrayal. Unfortunately it is that friend that betrayed the OP. By getting involved with that shit and letting it affect her friend's ( the OP) life. The only friend that person has is the drug. That is the only loyalty left.

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RE: I fear I am loosing my best friend - 2/19/2013 4:43:02 AM

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Betrayal or not, her so called friend puts her in jeopardy every time they hang out, especially if she is coming around with drugs on her person. I am not a huge fan of law enforcement, but when you put yourself squarely on the wrong side of the law and disregard the safety and well-being of others by peddling meth, you are on a fast track to prison. A real friend wouldn't do that...and a friend with a clear head would get her shit together.

That said OP, go directly to the source and stop sneaking around and gossiping with your 911 friend (who definitely should be fired). Be frank with your friend about your suspicions or just stay away. Don't add to the drama by playing CSI and shit.

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