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ORIGINAL: Toysinbabeland

No, it is not.
My advice is to ask her if she has lost interest.

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ORIGINAL: muhly22222

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ORIGINAL: Toysinbabeland

No, it is not.
My advice is to ask her if she has lost interest.

Although you may want to consider doing it in a subtle way. When somebody I've been having a conversation with disappears and stops responding to me, I tend to send a message that says that I was really enjoying the conversation we were having, and then do something to continue that conversation.

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ORIGINAL: masmiss

Did you interject your kink question in the middle of a vanilla conversation? That's always a huge turn-off for me, especially early in the getting-to-know phase. It pretty much says that he's getting bored talking to me about vanilla interests and just wants to move on to what's really important to him: his dick.
Not that that was your intention. Just a FYI.

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ORIGINAL: lizi

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ORIGINAL: masmiss

Did you interject your kink question in the middle of a vanilla conversation? That's always a huge turn-off for me, especially early in the getting-to-know phase. It pretty much says that he's getting bored talking to me about vanilla interests and just wants to move on to what's really important to him: his dick.
Not that that was your intention. Just a FYI.

This. When a man wants to talk about sex or kink too soon I usually let him know that I don't discuss those topics with strangers. If he persists then I cut off communication. Many people view kink as a neutral subject, I don't think it is. If it's not something you can discuss in public, with almost anyone, then it's not suitable for small talk. She may not have been really into you as partner material and when kink came up she decided to cut things off.

If she were interested she'd have been in touch by now.

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Did you interject your kink question in the middle of a vanilla conversation? That's always a huge turn-off for me, especially early in the getting-to-know phase. It pretty much says that he's getting bored talking to me about vanilla interests and just wants to move on to what's really important to him: his dick.
Not that that was your intention. Just a FYI.

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ORIGINAL: AlittleCrazy098

The post below is from a conversation that I was having with someone. We have been talking for about 2 weeks, and it seemed as if the conversation was going well. Before sending this particular message, I told her who I was; what my intentions were, and was always polite and respectful. However, she hasn't respond to this message in a few days, and I have a feeling that she suddenly lost interest. I suspect this because since I last sent her a message, she has logged on several times.

What's even more weird about this, is that I sent her a friend request shortly after sending her this message and she accepted it (by the way, this conversation was not on this site). So, I'm not understanding why she MIGHT have suddenly lost interest. Part of me feel as if maybe she felt I was trying to manipulate her or that she may feel as if I'm not being "man" enough (showing lack of confidence).

So, my question is what would be a reasons you would lose interest based on this message if someone sent it to you after conversing with them and why? I understand that I could ask her personally, but I don't think she is going to respond.

"
Hello,

This is her answering a question

Tool and NIN are good artists. I got to see Offspring, sum 41, and a few other bands live while in Japan. I actually went into a mosh pit for the first time while over there. I almost died and I kinda saved someones life... well helped them with a small injury. It was nothing really. lol

This is me sympathizing with her

I understand about it being hard to find a job let alone a good one, and it doesn't help that the economy is still slow.

we were talking about superheroes because that is one of her hobbies and I like comics too.

Batman did beat Superman.

I was reading an article a few days ago, and France finally got rid of a law that was passed in the 1800s that stated "women must ask the police for permission to wear pants." Apparently, they were enforcing this law and it was important enough to get rid of???

I feel like everything below is what might have turned her off.....

Out of some of the things on your kinky interest list in your profile what are some of your favorites?

A little side note, because I've never met you in person. I don't feel comfortable in asking for your phone number, because the way I see it, it's important for you to be comfortable with me and I want to be respectful of that."

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Secondly, what do you consider to be a good time to talk to a potential partner about kink? Do you prefer to be the one to start that conversation, or for the other person to?

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

OK, I have to ask. Is this the same chick as was the subject of this thread? http://www.collarchat.com/m_4373604/tm.htm

If it was, I'm going to go with she may not have liked seeing you discussing her in the thread before meeting.

If it wasn't, she lost interest in you because you were meeting another Dominant, so you weren't as serious about possible potential as she thought you were.

Don't fool yourself. Many people are a member of both sites and on this one, it's a lot easier to read up on a person's posts. A lot of women, even before the first meet, aren't all that thrilled about guys lining up meets with more than one in such a short time frame.