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Something new?? - 2/16/2013 8:51:01 PM   
rowdy01


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Status: offline 		HELLO EVERYONE, I HAVE SOME QUESTIONS TO ASK.

( 1 ) WHAT IS CBT? WHEN I WAS WRITING MY PROFILE, IT WAS UNDER BDSM, AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT IT IS?

( 2 ) WHAT IS QUEENING? AS ABOVE

(3 ) I KNOW THE MEANING OF TPE BUT WHAT IS IT EXACTLY, DOES A DOM/DOMME HAVE TO BE TRAINED IN THIS OR CAN YOU TEACH YOURSELF. AND WHAT ABOUT A SLAVE/SUB HOW DO THEY DO IT EXACTLY AND WHAT DO THEY DO. I WAS WRITING TO A SLAVE WHO WANTED A TPE, 24/7 LTR BUT WHEN I TOLD HER I NEW NOTHING OF TPE SHE NO LONG WANT'S ANYTHING TO DO WITH ME.I HAVE BEEN AWAY FOR NEARLY 20 YEARS NOW, AND A LOT HAS CHANGED, BUT I'M LEARNING NEW THINGS ABOUT BDSM.

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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 9:02:49 PM   
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Cbt is cock and ball torture, queening is a form of facesitting, tpe is a form of fantasy, to some people.

< Message edited by Level -- 2/16/2013 9:09:44 PM >

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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 9:04:32 PM   
AllisonWilder


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Status: offline 		In the interests section that you were filling out, if you click on any of the terms, it gives you a definition. :)

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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 9:21:00 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		CBT= cock and ball torture
Queening= Sitting or squatting over a playmate for oral service
TPE= Total Power exchange. If the dom/me doesnt know what they are doing, probably not the best place to start.

And as a heads up all caps is considered impolite, akin to shouting. You will catch flack for that.

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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 9:22:52 PM   
rowdy01


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Status: offline 		I LEFT TO FIND A WIFE AND TO HAVE KIDS, DIDN'T GET ANYWHERE, SO I TRIED TO COME BACK ABOUT 6 YEARS AGO BUT ONLY FOUND SCAMMERS ON BDSM.COM I RECENTLY FOUND THIS SITE SO I JOINED UP BUT NOT HAVING ANY LUCK YET. MOST SLAVES/SUBS WON'T EVEN ANSWER MY MESSAGES. I WILL KEEP TRYING, NOT GIVING UP THIS TIME, THANKS FOR TELLING ME WHAT CBT IS, I DON'T THINK I WILL BE TRYING THAT. ( I WON'T BE TRYING THAT ON MYSELF EVER ).


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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 9:23:12 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		Rowdy, you might want to revise your profile.  You checked expert on a lot of BDSM type activities when you now admit that you haven't been involved in a relationship like that for 20 years. 

Many people attend classes on various relationship issues and ways to play.  Your local kink community probaby offers many learning experiences.  In fact, for certain activities I'd say attending a class is a must so that you learn proper safety.  Fire play and needle play are two examples of this.  However, every person is different which means that every relationship is unique.  This means that much of what happens between two individuals can not be taught.  There is more to a relationship than the play times. 

There is a search feature on this page.  It is on the top, right hand corner.  If there is anything you want to learn more about that is the first place to look.  Also,the forums are always a great place to ask questions.   

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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 9:32:13 PM   
rowdy01


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Status: offline 		Thanks for your answers, maybe that's why no one answers my messages because I'm using all caps, thanks for letting me know okay.

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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 9:35:18 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		oh, expect to get no answers, unless it is from the fake slaves who want cash to get to you. You should get lots of those. There are real people who do this stuff, but IF they choose to answer is up to them. New people tend to get loaded down with spammers. Approach someone honestly and with no pretensions of mastery and maybe you will find someone who wishes to go further.

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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 9:37:32 PM   
rowdy01


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Status: offline 		I was doing everything that I have expert on for 10 years and about 11 months, so I do consider myself a expert. Other things I have down as beginner or average, I'm being completely honest about it.


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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 9:39:30 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		You may also consider that you're not getting answers since all of your pictures are 6 years old. Don't you have any that are newer?

Thank you for not continuing using all caps, it's very hard to read.

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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 9:56:39 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		I find anyone who clicks off EXPERT in all activities to be laughable.

What is expert to one, is not to another.

An expert in fine dining? Really?

Not impressive at all.

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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 10:30:55 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Status: offline 		This post/your questions, with all due respect, sound like you haven't a clue about this thing/lifestyle...

Your profile, is even worse! It says, you are a man of 47, that was "trained" by a mistress 30 years ago. So, at about 17 years of age, you had some sort of encounter/relationship, that you considered training for something, though what I don't know. Than, you ?left, to try and find a "normal wife/child," but apparently that wasn't successful, and now, you are a master, seeking a "submissive slave," to do as you say. There is nothing wrong with wanting what you want, but if it were me, I'd try to be a little more coherent, and maybe honest.

Good luck, M

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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 10:47:33 PM   
LafayetteLady


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Status: offline 		I don't think that much has changed in 20 years, other than the prevalence of computers.

Everyone has already told you what the first two terms are. As for the 24/7, it is different for everyone. The idea of keeping someone caged or chained 24/7 is more of a fantasy. Many people use the term 24/7 because they co-habitate and so their BDSM relationship is always there since they are always together (although there are those who consider themselves 24/7 who don't live together).

Why would you need to be trained on how to be a d-type (dominant or master) 24 hours a day? When you got married, did you have to learn how to be a husband 24 hours a day? If you are dominant, that is who you are. Now certainly, a person might look for training for particular activities, as peppermint mentioned. Things like needle play or using a whip properly are something one really shouldn't teach themselves.

Many subs will read journal entries. The comment you make on yours, "...can't even answer a Masters messages..." That sounds like you expect there to be immediate power exchange. I can't speak for 20 years ago definitively, however, expecting some sort of "special" respect because you call yourself a master doesn't typically go over well with anyone worth talking to. You aren't anyone's "master" when you message them. You are just some guy who is expressing interest, and they owe you nothing. While I certainly don't know what your messages say, one liners or messages that express someone should "bow down" to you just because of your self proclaimed label don't go over well. Just something to think about.

As for your picture being 6 years old, my opinion is that once we reach a certain age, unless you lost your hair, grew a beard (or shaved one), gained or lost a lot of weight, people's appearance doesn't change that much. However, as lizi said, many people will notice the date on your pictures and it might mean something to them. So putting up a new picture or cropping the dates off can only work in your favor.

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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 10:57:10 PM   
Kana


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An expert in fine dining? Really?

Sure. Spent 15 years working in the industry in top end joints cross the country. Been a waiter, bartender, manager, chef, maitre de. I know all the tricks, seen anything and everything happen, from waiting on the VP to watching a lady get set on fire at her table.
I'd say that qualifies me as an expert.


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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 10:59:22 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

quote:

An expert in fine dining? Really?

Sure. Spent 15 years working in the industry in top end joints cross the country. Been a waiter, bartender, manager, chef, maitre de. I know all the tricks, seen anything and everything happen, from waiting on the VP to watching a lady get set on fire at her table.
I'd say that qualifies me as an expert.



That makes sense. I was speaking more about seeing expert next to every conceivable activity. I am sure that most people who say they are a fine dining expert don't have the background you do.

As well as other activities that require expertise.

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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 11:08:58 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Status: offline 		Hi LafayetteLady,
do you really think that someone who was trained at 17 by a mistress (in what), and is now a dominant, shouldn't at the very least, pick up a book, and maybe read up on some general terms, and ideas about what direction he/she is on?

rowdy01, these are for you:
The Loving Dominant by John Warren
The Compleat Slave: Creating And Living An Erotic Dominant/submissive Lifestyle by Jack Rinella and Joseph W. Bean
Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment, etc..

I also disagree about just cropping out photo dates, to resolve the old photo problem. Just take some 0-3year old photos, and put them up. M

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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 11:12:00 PM   
Kana


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

quote:

An expert in fine dining? Really?

Sure. Spent 15 years working in the industry in top end joints cross the country. Been a waiter, bartender, manager, chef, maitre de. I know all the tricks, seen anything and everything happen, from waiting on the VP to watching a lady get set on fire at her table.
I'd say that qualifies me as an expert.



That makes sense. I was speaking more about seeing expert next to every conceivable activity. I am sure that most people who say they are a fine dining expert don't have the background you do.

As well as other activities that require expertise.

I was trying to point out that I can see someone being an expert in almost anything(Hell, between reality TV and the net I think we've all realized that people are obsessed about amazingly weird shit, you have those folks who know everything in the world about something obscure, like Shirley temples ballet slippers), but yeah, an expert in everything?
I don't get those folks either.
Me, I'm good at one or two things, average at a few more, and pretty much suck in everything else. You know, kinda like most people.
I am an expert asshat, though.
I will claim that one title for my own.

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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 11:14:09 PM   
rowdy01


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Status: offline 		Not at the moment that's all I have for photos, but I will make some new ones when I get a chance. I just tried to find your profile, no profile there.

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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 11:27:09 PM   
Kana


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RE: Something new?? - 2/16/2013 11:30:36 PM   
rowdy01


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Status: offline 		Well I do have expensive tastes in fine dining not like some people obviously. I also like a good wine from Margret River in Western Australia. Not all activities for example ( ropes I'm a beginner ) electrical play, medical play, suspension, toilet training, enemas, TPE, I'm curious about these things only as I haven't done them before okay. I don't claim to be your idea of a expert in what I know. I was doing everything that I'm a expert in for 10 years and about 11 months okay That's my training and experience and you? How much training and experience do you have?

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