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RE: Need some help from a real Mistress.... - 2/28/2013 10:50:54 AM   
MissSpiderKiss


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Status: offline 		Simple answer, get a grip and start living your life, if you live for everyone else you have no time for yourself. life is to short to wimp out and make life so complicated, if your a sub be one, dont whine about what everyone else will say if they find out, jeez grow a pair

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RE: Need some help from a real Mistress.... - 2/28/2013 1:59:21 PM   
slavy2u


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Status: offline 		Thank's for the advice MSTRS, u're absolutely right in everything you said... even though it's not as easy as it seems sometimes.

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RE: Need some help from a real Mistress.... - 2/28/2013 2:48:00 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail
Read some self-help books, seek professional attention.
Tell you what....first thing, keep it to yourself for now, and go out to events and munches, and see that you are so very fuckin NOT alone in your desires, and hell you might be weird, but not cuz of this...............and then when you see that you are about normal as hell, then you can come out and perch on the twig a little further.
I agree with this advice, especially since Dommes, are not professional counselors as a group.
Besides, I'd consider you a little selfish, if knowing you aren't ready for a relationship, you tried to pass yourself as suitable partner, and end up hurting someone's feelings, when you decide you cannot do it, because of this dissociation in your mind. I know, I'm not supposed to admit that we are just humans, but there it is. M


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RE: Need some help from a real Mistress.... - 3/10/2013 4:01:00 PM   
LeatherBentOne51


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Status: offline 		Hey,
I think he needs a shrink. Did anyone else see by his profile that he claims to be 6'1" and weigh 74 pounds?

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RE: Need some help from a real Mistress.... - 3/10/2013 4:27:40 PM   
breagha


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ORIGINAL: slavy2u

Hello Miss, if we're born catholic, it doesn't mean that we're stuck in this relegion till death. once we're major and immunized we have the liberty to choose
another religion, or even become atheist if we wish. the main thing is not to play on several tables as it suits us, otherwise we live in cheating and lying...


there are groups here in the US dedicated to Christianity and BDSM. i don't have the names of them off hand but there is another thread here in the forums that deals with the conflict between the two. it might be a good thing to check them out if you are truly concerned about this aspect of life. There will be people there that can help you get the information you seek and possibly help you see that it is ok to have these desires and act on them and still be a good Christian.

this is the link to that thread
http://www.collarchat.com/m_4394550/mpage_2/key_christianity%252CBDSM/tm.htm#4394841

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RE: Need some help from a real Mistress.... - 3/11/2013 3:24:04 PM   
slavy2u


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Status: offline 		Hello there, no need to be mean with someone u didn't really know... and , just for ur information u "cruel" lady my weigh is not 74 pounds but 74 kg....

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RE: Need some help from a real Mistress.... - 3/18/2013 10:35:20 AM   
LeatherBentOne51


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Status: offline 		Happy Birthday to you, too.

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RE: Need some help from a real Mistress.... - 3/20/2013 12:40:40 AM   
slavy2u


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Status: offline 		Hello again, 10xs for ur wish, but my Bday is not now.So, what r u driving at??

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RE: Need some help from a real Mistress.... - 3/24/2013 8:58:32 PM   
Isabellalee


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Status: offline 		I am sorry slavy2u, you may never stop the conflicting feelings within you, unless you accept your desires, and yourself for who you are. We are multi layers of eons of History. Goddess vs God, Desire vs chastity, we are a composite of all the things in society that are best and worst. We can only do our best to use our judgement to decide what is healthy for us and what is destructive. I would love to help you explore the realms of your dreams, participate in your growth. Find out when your first idea came to you and why you think u need these things. Then learn how to control your desires in a safe play space, where you can feel free to explore these Fetishes, and help your mind to engage in the concept that its OK to try new things, its ok to decide you don't really like what you thought you might. And it's ok to keep playing and learning a activity you can share or do alone......

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RE: Need some help from a real Mistress.... - 3/25/2013 12:49:42 PM   
THEMistressVixen


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Status: offline 		Making these choices especially in the beginning takes a good bit of courage and some discretion. It can be an exhilarating and liberating journey however. Make sure you connect with safe people in safe places to start out with........

Try the munches or small safe groups to feel your way through this and I suspect you won't want to look back.

If you are Catholic (my partner is) getting over the "Catholic Guilt" can be super challenging. (If you are not pardon me of course).



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RE: Need some help from a real Mistress.... - 3/30/2013 1:57:30 AM   
BlkTallFullfig


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i agree with u sir that Jesus christ was spanked, whipped and humilated, but in fact if the son of God accepted to undergo all these human atrocities not because he had the kink or the desire of submission, or something like that but only that he wanted all costs to accomplish its divine mission on earth: cleanse us from all our sins..
Hey mosy men who want spanking, whipping, humiliation, desire it to relieve themselves of their sins. A little bit selfish in their devotion, but we try... Save one soul at a time.

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Religion is a matter of belief, we can't shape it as it suits our way of life. wether we accept it as it is or we decide to live differently.....
I believe in religion, and my understanding of it suits me fine on most days. A good amount of religious writings/teachings, I find incongruent with my desire to live and love, so I've got to object a little bit, survival instinct and all. M

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RE: Need some help from a real Mistress.... - 4/2/2013 1:52:18 PM   
Isabellalee


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Status: offline 		Hello,
I think that when you find the right Mistress you will start feeling a lot better. I remember when I first started thinking about being a Domina, I did not really understand what it meant, or how to find the people that could understand me. It was not until I started going to a alternative club, that harbored all the Goths, we called it the Bat Cave, that I discovered where I belonged. I guess we will never really know if your choices will lead you to ending the confusion your feeling about your need to submit, just as I don't know everything that lead me to being a Dominatrix. What I can tell you is that when a person can give themselves to someone else and trust them to live these things out in real life, it will change your whole perception on the world. Now, the concept of role playing, which is really in the heart of all the different Fantasies we live out in our sessions, you have to realize that when you step into what I call your character, then it gets easier and easier to let go of all the psychological stuff that hinders us from expressing ourselves and let's us start using our creative part of our imagination. It's been a long road coming to all the different aspects of the BD/SM community, and learning about all the variety's of Kink there really is out there to explore, but, it was certainly worth it!!!! Don't give up, you will find the right partner someday to do these things with, just be honest from the start or your going to end up very unhappy in the end. Might as well give every potential partner the heads up about that one, you cant get told no forever!!! LOL Hope that helps,


Sinfully yours, Mistress Isabella Lee

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RE: Need some help from a real Mistress.... - 4/2/2013 2:10:28 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: slavy2u
my weigh is not 74 pounds but 74 kg....

Well, as I type this, it says 74 lbs, not kg.

NBMG

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RE: Need some help from a real Mistress.... - 4/2/2013 3:06:21 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: slavy2u
Hello there, no need to be mean with someone u didn't really know... and , just for ur information u "cruel" lady my weigh is not 74 pounds but 74 kg....
You take the time to be nasty, instead of finding the formula (1kg=2.2lbs), and figuring out your weight, so you don't look insanely ill/anorexic. How was she being mean by reading your profile? Take yourself to confession, and please don't join the wiitwd pool, and make it dirty. M


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