LookieNoNookie -> RE: The elusive female orgasm (2/20/2013 6:13:07 PM)
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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders Amongst my vanilla friends, when the conversation turns towards sex, it's pretty common for a woman to say she's never had an orgasm, or doesn't usually have one when they're having sex, or has them only in a very specific position, or from oral. In the magazines we read and conversations we had as teenagers (it wasn't THAT long ago for me) this was certainly put out there as the norm. There was always the advice about lighting a candle and putting on music and trying things out with a vibrator. Advice on how to get your guy to go down on you more. How to tell him you need a vibe to come without crushing his ego. I almost never hear any mention of this around these parts. I can't use myself as an example since a stern look is practically all I've ever needed. So women, educate me. Is this a myth? Do most women just get there eventually? Or is it because BDSMers as a group are more in touch with their sexuality, their turn-ons and their physical responses? Are we so good at communicating sexually that there are fewer hang-ups about whether or not the woman orgasms or what she needs to get there? Or is there still some shyness about this - do people not admit they don't always get there because it's embarrassing when everyone here is so sexually open and kinky? Yep, that's right. Talk to me about sex. I'd particularly like to know - how common is the multiple orgasm? Do you (or your partner)? Is it normal or rare for you? Does oral sex do the job better for you that fingers/vibes/regular sex? I've always found oral or vibes to be a bit too much - almost painful - Himself has a theory it's because things are wired up to not need that much stimulation. Anyone share that experience? Here I am, 26 years old and still in need of sex ed. First off....I've seen it...it's NOT elusive. I saw it in Los Angeles between flights at a subway sandwich shop. Serious. Second, you're too young for me to go into details....if you were 32...we could talk.
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