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The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/20/2013 5:03:00 PM   
Thespasticone


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Status: offline 		Hi all! I was wondering if anyone might have a thought as to where to hire a female that is willing to be spanked in Orange County. Not looking for prostitution/sex, just the spanking. Any help would be awesome!
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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/20/2013 5:13:52 PM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		If you're paying them, by definition, they're a pro.

The only place I know that had pro-subs has been closed for awhile.

The Los Angeles area has a huge community. There's a very active NextGen group in OC and lots of other events and chances to meet people.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/20/2013 5:43:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		I know a few professional subs / switches in LA and I know more in Vegas if you don't mind the drive.

I would suggest checking out sites like eros, they do have a BDSM / Fetish area where professional dom/me, subs and switches post ads.

Also if you check out fetlife, there are several groups for professional dom/me, subs, and switches.

ETA: Professional dom/me, submissives, and switches are not prostitutes or escorts. MOST are simply doing fetish play for pay.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/20/2013 6:34:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Thespasticone
Hi all! I was wondering if anyone might have a thought as to where to hire a female that is willing to be spanked in Orange County. Not looking for prostitution/sex, just the spanking. Any help would be awesome!

I know a foot fetishist in Florida who has found several women on SeekingArrangement.com.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/20/2013 6:45:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		There were several pro subs besides me that advertised on Eros. They're a bit harder to find than Dommes, but it can be done.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/20/2013 7:45:40 PM   
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Here are a couple of other links to connect with local spankos: https://fetlife.com/groups/22900

https://fetlife.com/groups/10968

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/20/2013 8:22:25 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Just go to a public dungeon or a few play parties. You won't have to pay for it and I'm thinking you'll find quite a few more than willing to be spanked by you.


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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/20/2013 8:56:53 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		Wow. So Cal is huge. I am really surprised there are not spanking groups out there. Have you looked on Fetlife? Here in nor Ca there spanking parties.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 2:11:34 AM   
FrostedFlake


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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 5:10:34 AM   
Lynnxz


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Hire?


Prosubs.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 6:44:48 AM   
OsideGirl


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Wow. So Cal is huge. I am really surprised there are not spanking groups out there. Have you looked on Fetlife? Here in nor Ca there spanking parties.


There are groups. And I know that there have been Shadowlane parties in the past.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 2:11:55 PM   
Thespasticone


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Status: offline 		Hi all. . Thanks for the great responses. . .You sent me off in some good directions!

For info, the folks who have said go to parties/munches/etc., I hear you and I get it. . . BUT that's not what I am looking for. . The financial piece takes the courtship piece somewhat out of it, makes the negotiation more clear, and I just don't have time. .

Anyway, thanks again! I will follow up on all suggestions.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 3:13:59 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Spankings have a courtship element now? Holy f*ck. I'm doing it wrong.

As a person who has a number of casual play partners, I can assure you that isn't necessarily how it works. If you're a good top, that doesn't have to be a part of the deal.

If you are just starting out and don't have a reputation within the community, I'd like to offer you another suggestion. Find workshops that are teaching basic 101 classes that encourage participation. This can give you a chance to get to know other folks who aren't partnered who are interested in the activity.


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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 3:18:08 PM   
ChastityEnslaved


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Status: offline 		I have seen some "ladies" getting spanked at kink parties in Northridge. But you have to pay $35.00 just to enter the place, and then there might not be any 'ladies' for you to spank. The 'ladies' who get paid to spank were mostly actually GUYS dressed as women. So unless you see them naked from the front you might be paying to spank a "lady" but it is really a guy's ass that you are spanking.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 3:19:46 PM   
Thespasticone


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Status: offline 		Hmmm. . I hear ya, sometimes spankings can just be that. . However relationships, at least the way I like to do them, no matter how casual, do require a modicum of courtship.

I understand your suggestion about the workshops. . I don't have the time to put into that. . I am also not new to spanking, just new to the idea of hiring a spankee. .

Thanks so much for taking the time!

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 3:21:06 PM   
Thespasticone


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Status: offline 		Not what I am looking for. I definitely want a one-on-one interaction, for many reasons, not the least of which you pointed out there! Yikes.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 3:24:37 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Thespasticone

Hi all. . Thanks for the great responses. . .You sent me off in some good directions!

For info, the folks who have said go to parties/munches/etc., I hear you and I get it. . . BUT that's not what I am looking for. . The financial piece takes the courtship piece somewhat out of it, makes the negotiation more clear, and I just don't have time. .


Yeah, you've clearly never been to a Shadowlane event.......

Shadowlane is a spanking enthusiast groups. Their parties don't usually contain more than "Hi, my name is" as a courtship. But, hey, you don't have time to even check it out......


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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 3:26:54 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Um. You're married and claim that your wife is completely fine with you playing, but are afraid to show your face at an event. You do realize that this creates the impression that your wife is not as onboard as you claim, don't you?

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 3:30:54 PM   
Thespasticone


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Status: offline 		Actually, if I was not in an open marriage I would be MUCH more concerned about showing my face on the internet then at an event.

I am not against an event, just interested in trying this now. I hear ya that maybe its not for you. . Sucks that you decide to judge me as a liar and a cheat because of that, but I respect your right to do so!

Cheers.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 4:14:30 PM   
TheLilSquaw


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Um. You're married and claim that your wife is completely fine with you playing, but are afraid to show your face at an event. You do realize that this creates the impression that your wife is not as onboard as you claim, don't you?


I am all for people going to munches and events but they are not for everyone for many reasons other than they are cheating on their spouse. There are many people who simply don't like to group environment especially for "play".

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