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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 4:18:21 PM

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I don't think I would go that far. But, I do find it pretty craptastical that he doesnt have "time" to do anything other than spanking a stranger for cash. He doesn't have to come here for that, there are plenty of escorts in the OC area he can hook up with who will comply for cash.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 6:01:17 PM

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Actually, if I was not in an open marriage I would be MUCH more concerned about showing my face on the internet then at an event.

I am not against an event, just interested in trying this now. I hear ya that maybe its not for you. . Sucks that you decide to judge me as a liar and a cheat because of that, but I respect your right to do so!

Cheers.

I'm kinda confused why you want to hire someone, but not a pro. It seems it'd be the easiest way.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 7:06:28 PM

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I'm reading "I don't want to be bothered with the work it takes to be a dom, but I don't want to pay because that's dirty hooker eewy & I deserve better (without any effort)"

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 7:16:42 PM

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I'm reading "I don't want to be bothered with the work it takes to be a dom, but I don't want to pay because that's dirty hooker eewy & I deserve better (without any effort)"

But that's the thing, he doesn't want to work, DOES want to pay, but doesn't want a pro... This is why I am confused

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 7:44:24 PM

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a "pro" would mean he's paying a "prostitute" in his mind. And prostitutes are "dirty" and "below" him. Now if he could find an escort, I'm betting he wouldn't be too turned off by that. She can pretend to be his sophisticated date while just being paid for the pleasure.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/21/2013 8:43:23 PM

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OIC he's willing to pay a hot chick his friends can be jealous of, but doesn't want to work to earn one that's ugly. Umm yeah

OC logic at its finest

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/22/2013 10:22:29 AM

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That does sound like OC logic at it's finest, but no, not the reasoning at all. I have NO issues with professional subs, I don't think they are below me, and it's not that I don't want to bother with the effort to be a dom. I think that it might be more fun to be with a first-timer VS a pro because the exchange would be, in my opinion, more authentic. Again, I am not ruling out a pro, just saying that is my opinion.

Also, there is a difference between a professional sub/Domme and a prostitute, for what it is worth. Not saying one is better or worse than the other, but a professional in the BDSM world typically does not have sex with her clients, whereas a prostitute, obviously, does. They offer very different services.

I must say I am really surprised that, on this board, if your kink doesn't line up with someone else's, you get HAMMERED. But that's alright, I can take it!

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/22/2013 10:27:57 AM

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Thanks, I am now in contact with Lily. That was a good tip, much appreciated!

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/22/2013 12:10:21 PM

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Hmmm. . I hear ya, sometimes spankings can just be that. . However relationships, at least the way I like to do them, no matter how casual, do require a modicum of courtship.

I understand your suggestion about the workshops. . I don't have the time to put into that. . I am also not new to spanking, just new to the idea of hiring a spankee. .

Thanks so much for taking the time!

You're welcome.

I think you and I have a different opinion of what we consider a pro. Frankly, anybody taking money for engaging in a scene is a pro. There's no board of standards about how many clients (that would be you) a person has to have or how much experience they have in the services they offer. There's no firm definition of it. If you are looking to make a financial/business transaction, otherwise known as pay for play, you are paying a professional.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/22/2013 12:25:29 PM

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AHH it always comes down to semantics, doesn't it? I totally see your point; a professional is someone who is getting paid. I might be more accurate, then, to state that I have a preference (though not a requirement) for a noobie VS a seasoned pro.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/22/2013 4:06:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I don't think I would go that far. But, I do find it pretty craptastical that he doesnt have "time" to do anything other than spanking a stranger for cash. He doesn't have to come here for that, there are plenty of escorts in the OC area he can hook up with who will comply for cash.

lol. There, there is the point this thread turns ugly and it suddenly because a critique of the OP! There must be some average we can take after a large enough sample to say, "on the average of x posts, someone decides to take a shot at the OP's (1) Profile or (2) intention or (3)honesty, and then it's like sharks circling for the kill. Yes. Perhaps if I had time. But I don't, so we will never know...

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/22/2013 4:38:45 PM

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eerr....if you're paying a pro, how is she a noobie? She's most likely done this hundreds if not thousands of times. Nothing new to her. She's just getting paid to indulge you in your fantasy. She can pretend to be a noobie though depending on how much you're paying her.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/22/2013 5:29:22 PM

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AHH it always comes down to semantics, doesn't it? I totally see your point; a professional is someone who is getting paid. I might be more accurate, then, to state that I have a preference (though not a requirement) for a noobie VS a seasoned pro.

Semantics can be important for a written medium. For a profile or a thread, that's really all you've got.

Maybe you could phrase it in a positive way? Something like you would enjoy giving somebody the opportunity to help them get their pro status off of the ground? Mention that you are more interested in pros that are just starting out?

Not sure if that would help, but it's worth a shot.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/22/2013 7:02:36 PM

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Hi all! I was wondering if anyone might have a thought as to where to hire a female that is willing to be spanked in Orange County. Not looking for prostitution/sex, just the spanking. Any help would be awesome!

I really don't think you run much risk of having to deal with the complication of emotional involvements, that last past the scene, if you were to find yourself a spanking or play party.

Women who bottom at spanking parties go to get spanked.
You want to spank someone.
Seems like win-win to me.

If you are looking for a particular type of scene: erotic, cathartic or punishment, then it may take longer to match you with a spankee who wants the same thing.

If you are new, you might want to investigate what the usual protocol for after care is post scene, but past that, I think the goal is for a good time to be generally had by all participants (and observers).
If you are new, you would also want to bone up on safe (and effective and/or pleasurable spanking.

I get spanked regularly by [my] Master.
It does not get old, nor have I become jaded.

I understand that you do not want a relationship, especially one with an emotional component, but for some people being spanked can be fresh and new every time.

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 2/22/2013 9:14:16 PM

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I'm just not understanding the paying part. I mean, he wants an inexperienced girl. Those are a dime a dozen on here, without having to pay a penny nor do you have to worry about a relationship or it being taken the wrong way. They just want to get their rocks off the same as you op. Wham, bam, thank ya Ma'am.

I get you don't want to go to play parties. You probably feel they aren't your caliber of people or you're afraid someone will notice you or you think it's just too complicated for you. You want just someone to spank and then walk away. Again, they're a dime a dozen on here and you won't even have to waste that dime. They'll be more than happy to forgo it for a little tit for tat.

Is there some reason for the payola part that I'm not seeing? Or do you just like paying someone kinda like a sub does to a findomme?

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RE: The best way to hire a (non-pro) spankee - 3/7/2013 4:38:49 PM

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I get the paying part. It can add some spice and also boundaries.

I don't personally get the juxtaposition of professional + inexperienced but I understand this is commonly sought.

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