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is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 5:34:11 PM

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here is a simple question.There were people who asked if findomme relationship was real.Is internet relationship here on conme.com real

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 5:48:52 PM

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In my opinion, for what it's worth, NO. It's all fantasy because anyone can be anything they want to be online. When you meet each other in person, THAT'S when the rubber meets the road.

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 6:09:48 PM

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They can be... depends on the individual. Why does it matter to you? Either you are up for it or you arent. I was in a relationship online for a few years before we met and then continued the relationship for a few years irl. It was very real to me.

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 6:32:11 PM

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here is a simple question.There were people who asked if findomme relationship was real.Is internet relationship here on collarme.com real

Fixed for you. And to answer your question, the interwebs give you a lot of ways to get to know someone. It's 100% legit for getting to know someone, but if you keep it online only it's more of a birth control method. Masturbation may be achieved in better ways, young padawan.

(Once you get past that first meeting where you touch, lick, grope, grip, bite, growl and get a visit from the constables about noise levels, you will be ready for the next level.)

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 6:38:02 PM

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I suppose it really depends on the individual, but as "NiceButMeanGirl" points out, it's easy enough to portray yourself as anyone when you exist strictly in an interwebs relationship. So, really, caution should be utilized. Then again, when shouldn't it be?

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 6:38:27 PM

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In the majority of cases, here's My opinion........

If we are talking about power exchange, and the people have never met and there's no intention to do so, no, I really don't consider cyber to be real.

If we are talking about people who have an established relationship, and use electronic means to keep communication open, yes, that's real.

If we're talking about people who intend to meet, but haven't yet, it has the potential to be real.

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 7:09:49 PM

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If it's real for you, then that's your answer. The greatest sex organ is the brain anyway. Doesn't matter how you grope the body if the mind isn't into it.

But the only common denominator in all your relationships is you. Since you feel anyone interested in you is a scammer, what's wrong with you that you drive good people away?

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 7:18:32 PM

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I feel its real to a point. But its what you make it.

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 7:24:22 PM

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In my opinion, for what it's worth, NO. It's all fantasy because anyone can be anything they want to be online. When you meet each other in person, THAT'S when the rubber meets the road.

NBMG

Or the flesh as the case may be.

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 7:26:01 PM

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And I completely agree with this.

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In the majority of cases, here's My opinion........

If we are talking about power exchange, and the people have never met and there's no intention to do so, no, I really don't consider cyber to be real.

If we are talking about people who have an established relationship, and use electronic means to keep communication open, yes, that's real.

If we're talking about people who intend to meet, but haven't yet, it has the potential to be real.

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 7:37:47 PM

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Nope, bring it into realty or move on for me. I'm completely sick of online means other than the meeting...

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 8:36:16 PM

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So Dante and Beatrice were just wankers?

How about:

I am happy now, because my little whore tells me she wants me to roger her arseways and wants me to fuck her mouth and wants to unbutton me and pull out my mickey and suck it off like a teat. More and dirtier than this she wants to do, my little naked fucker, my naughty wriggling little frigger, my sweet dirty little farter.

Goodnight, my little cuntie I am going to lie down and pull at myself until I come. Write more and dirtier, darling. Tickle your little cockey while you write to make you say worse and worse. Write the dirty words big and underline them and kiss them and hold them for a moment to your sweet hot cunt, darling, and also pull up your dress a moment and hold them under your dear little farting bum. Do more if you wish and send the letter then to me, my darling brown-arsed fuckbird.

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 8:40:19 PM

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So Dante and Beatrice were just wankers?

That's Mr. Joyce, or so I would have thought. He and his wife were married wankers, not pen-fuck buddies.

Edited to add: literate little wankers, too, which is always appreciated.

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 9:46:14 PM

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Personally, imo....no.

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 10:54:15 PM

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I pretty much agree with Lady Pact's definition.

I met my husband online. We were in different countries so we spent quite a long time chatting online before we met in the flesh. Once we did meet we were crazy about each other, and the internet served as a way of keeping in touch while we sorted out visas etc. But, up until we met and confirmed we were right for each other, we were just chat-buddies. Even when you have extended contact with someone online, it is possible to get a distorted image of who they are. People can keep up an act easier online. Even if they are not deliberately deceiving you, the wishful-thinking part of your brain will fill in the gaps with fantasy that the real person might not live up to.

When it comes to online domination, at best I see it more akin to play sessions. There's no way I would hand over decisions about my life to someone I hadn't got to know in the flesh, so all that leaves is sex. Cam sessions don't interest me. You lose the touch and the immediate feedback. We tried a few times and I found the whole experience cold and humiliating (and not in a hot way, just in a 'god look how sad and desperate we are' kind of way). On the other hand, if other people find that stuff fun then great! What a convenient way to scratch the itch. I also wouldn't want to go on cam with someone I didn't know face-to-face for fear they would record it and put it online.

I think the internet is a useful tool to find or enhance a real-life relationship, but I think it is easy to fall into the trap of using it to replace those relationships. It's easy to fall in love with the mirage of the perfect person.

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/5/2013 11:28:26 PM

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quote:

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In the majority of cases, here's My opinion........

If we are talking about power exchange, and the people have never met and there's no intention to do so, no, I really don't consider cyber to be real.

If we are talking about people who have an established relationship, and use electronic means to keep communication open, yes, that's real.

If we're talking about people who intend to meet, but haven't yet, it has the potential to be real.

These are my exact thoughts on the subject.

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/6/2013 12:16:59 AM

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Yup. Mine too. I talked to Master online for two years but we never considered it a relationship and we never at that point had any idea we would even meet. It was just two people shooting the bull. Once we did meet though, we used online to help keep in contact the same as we did the phone, until we could meet again. Online would help us to shore up our schedules with each other and to get emails they needed and such. Yes we were in a relationship once we met but we continued to meet in person every single chance we could get which was at least twice a month for a few days at a time, until I could tie up all my loose ends so I could move to him.

So online was just another way for us to contact and keep in communication.

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/6/2013 3:36:36 AM

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I don't think it is real until both have met in real life and continue on but, I do think the emotions can be real for some people..

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/6/2013 4:01:49 AM

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and that leaves me cold. Was it supposed to prove that online can be real?

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RE: is internet bdsm relationship real - 3/6/2013 4:56:17 AM

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In my opinion, for what it's worth, NO. It's all fantasy because anyone can be anything they want to be online. When you meet each other in person, THAT'S when the rubber meets the road.

NBMG

This sums up my feelings on the matter.

If anyone wants to be an important part of my life, then they have to become a part of my life. For me, that doesn't happen with a bunch of typing, webcamming, phone calling, etc. It happens by being here, beside me. Actually IN my life.

Apparently some people can build meaningful relationships without spending physical time together, without that as a goal. I am not one of those people. Even if I have met a person, spent physical time with them, if the time apart far outweighs the time together, it's not going to be terribly fulfilling for me.

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