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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I would guess that what he meant was don't argue. Don't talk back. Don't do it with a grimace. Do it with a smile on your face and mean it. Actually mean it. Don't tell him you don't like something....just do it with a "Yes Sir" and nothing else. Don't dawdle. Do things for him that he likes and without him having to ask. Do things you know that would make his life easier. When he wants something don't say "wait a minute". Jump up and do it and if you can't, explain why you couldn't (dinner was burning) and hope for the best. Apologize when you know you are wrong.

These are just a few ideas. However, these things are only going to work with someone you know as well as yourself, like your husband, hopefully. If it's outside of your marriage which I'm guessing is, then this level will never be reached and I'd say this is all nothing but being kinky in the bedroom.

Hopefully though, you can use these tips for your marriage. If you start doing these things for your husband, you may find yourself the man you fell in love with in the first place. My experience has been that when marriages have fallen apart, it's because both got too comfortable with each other and forgot who the other person was or they stopped trying because the other person stopped trying. The other person decided loving their partner was no longer important.

So wanna see your husband more dominant? Follow the suggestions above.

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ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss
Just to show that submission is not always sexual or kinky....LW just stated the way I have always climbed the corporate ladder. I still remember telling my favorite boss on my first week that my job was to make him look good and to make his life easier...

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

The thing is, she's married, he's what I would call a secondary relationship, which doesn't mean she shouldn't be emotionally invested, but it does mean she should be taking great care with how much she has invested.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
She's married with children. Submitting completely to someone outside of her marriage would be unwise and unfair to her family.

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ORIGINAL: JeffBC

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
She's married with children. Submitting completely to someone outside of her marriage would be unwise and unfair to her family.

I don't know how true that is. Consider that we are talking sexual submission here (eg: bottoming). So the concerns I would have about becoming internally enslaved and/or owned by someone other than the husband aren't really relevant.

How does "completely submitting sexually" differ from "a wild fling on the side"?

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
That's actually my point. She's engaging in bedroom submission or play sessions. In that case being submissive is really just doing what you're told and having fun doing it.

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

Typical pattern here.

Like the old childrens game telephone, where something is whispered into somenes ear, and it passes between several people, and the last message is a very vague reflection of what the original information was.
A thread is started, people give advice for awhile, not passing judgement or adding to it but by the end, they are writing like they have first hand accounts of the whole situation.
I wrote earlier making assumptions gives false conclusions.
IT has grown into Osidegirl telling Jeff something, she has no idea about now, and him saying ahhhhhhh, like she has the inside account and making calls on things that arent even true. All starting with instigators asking about my marriage to insinuate I am cheating to reflect things in a bad light. Jeff talking about my vows in which he has no idea what my husband has accepted now and agreed too. and the thread wasnt about how moral you thought I was. Or how you think I should run my marriage.
THe people unaware of the past had no agenda, but to give good advice. But a few people from the past, when it has nothing to do with what i asked things out of context. Alll you have to do is look and see it unwrapping thru the thread " are you still married?" Is it the same guy? and now its turned into a moral character assination thread.
Its not just in my case it happens over and over to others.
THey are a troll, they are stupid for asking a question, if someone shows care for another individual by showing compassion, they are OVERLY SENSITIVE. Seriously folks, thanks for the advice. But some giving the advice need advice and need to take it, but only people who can admit there sometimes wrong can take it.

Have a lovely day.

No more sharing here for me. I have learned my lesson for the last time.

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

THe people unaware of the past had no agenda, but to give good advice.

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No more sharing here for me. I have learned my lesson for the last time.

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24
IT has grown into Osidegirl telling Jeff something, she has no idea about now, and him saying ahhhhhhh, like she has the inside account and making calls on things that arent even true.

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and the thread wasnt about how moral you thought I was. Or how you think I should run my marriage.

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THe people unaware of the past had no agenda, but to give good advice.

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

Its not just in my case it happens over and over to others.
THey are a troll, they are stupid for asking a question, if someone shows care for another individual by showing compassion, they are OVERLY SENSITIVE. Seriously folks, thanks for the advice. But some giving the advice need advice and need to take it, but only people who can admit there sometimes wrong can take it.

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No more sharing here for me. I have learned my lesson for the last time.

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

Typical pattern here.

A thread is started, people give advice for awhile, not passing judgement or adding to it but by the end, they are writing like they have first hand accounts of the whole situation.

usually what happens on a discussion board ( in my opinion ) is that after many many replies there is a discussion sparked between users that are viewing the board. this post has gotten to 6 pages. i think it is reasonable of the users here to reply/discuss things with one another without offense to the OP, even if the discussion has taken an off course from the original post.

I wrote earlier making assumptions gives false conclusions.

if given more detail people wouldn't make assumptions. you came here with an issue, people seemed ( to me anyway ) to answer the best they could from the information you provided as the original poster. my suggestion would be to give more specifics if you don't want replies based on assumption of facts that were omitted or not given.

IT has grown into Osidegirl telling Jeff something, she has no idea about now, and him saying ahhhhhhh, like she has the inside account and making calls on things that arent even true. All starting with instigators asking about my marriage to insinuate I am cheating to reflect things in a bad light. Jeff talking about my vows in which he has no idea what my husband has accepted now and agreed too. and the thread wasnt about how moral you thought I was. Or how you think I should run my marriage.
THe people unaware of the past had no agenda, but to give good advice. But a few people from the past, when it has nothing to do with what i asked things out of context. Alll you have to do is look and see it unwrapping thru the thread " are you still married?" Is it the same guy? and now its turned into a moral character assination thread.

i honestly don't see this as a character assassination thread. you brought your post to a forum where most people that would read it put high value in open and honest communication with the people they are involved with in their lives. Whether that is a poly or monogamous relationship. i believe that all the "are you still married" etc is really just trying to decipher the facts of the situation so they can offer the best advice.

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ORIGINAL: DomMeinCT

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THe people unaware of the past had no agenda, but to give good advice.

You know exactly how most of the folks on this thread would have responded to you if you disclosed more.

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
Is it not apparent now that in an online medium where words are the only things to go by, depending on how much an OP has disclosed, all one can do is make "assumptions" and give opinions that stem from one's own experiences?