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RE: Is moving too fast a red flag? - 3/27/2013 1:36:21 PM   
Kana


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Yeah, she was all sorts of awesome.
I'm with RS. If I'm talking to a gal with intent and sparks are flying, I'm not gonna waste too much time. Life is short. There's lots of wankers and posers out there. Talk for a bit online, then phone, then live meet.
Fuck-ain't that the point?
I mean, I'm not speaking for anyone else here, but I initially came on CM to meet some pussy that likes to be beaten pre, during and post, ravishing. And hopefully so did she.
If that's the case, let's get together and see if the chemistry is there live.
Crap-I don't see a hottie out and about and wait weeks to ask her out. I sack up and do it while the goings good. It's pretty much the same here.

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RE: Is moving too fast a red flag? - 3/27/2013 1:52:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with above post by Kana.
I know most people advise emailing, chatting, communicating for ?months if not years... I am fairly impatient, and get bored (as well as become boring) with online communication. For the majority of people I encounter online, I don't invest emotionally, or take them very seriously, until we meet, and check out the chemistry. The only times I tend to take it a little slower, is if the person lives accross the country, or in another continent. Even than, I tend to lose interest in the evasive/paranoid people who chat/email for months, and remain more comfortable behind the keyboard.

I have always trusted my instincts, and they have not lead me astray. You, OP should do what you feel comfortable with. I don't personally believe that wanting to meet quickly is a red flag. Quite the contrary as a matter of fact. M

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RE: Is moving too fast a red flag? - 3/27/2013 2:55:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aphrodite1974

It is a big Red Flag to me.
In the heat of the moment when you are talking it seems great but give pause and think on it...at least overnight. I met a Dominant online and we talked for 2 days, met once and he was ready to collar me?? What the heck?
I know I am new to the lifestyle again after a lengthy absence but Woah.. so yes, it Can be a Red Flag.


So, it only took you three days to learn that he wasn't right for you. What would you have gained by stretching that out to three weeks or three months?

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RE: Is moving too fast a red flag? - 3/29/2013 4:11:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		As everyone else has said, if she's a pro then not a red flag.

If she isn't, then red flags are strictly up to you. No one else can tell you if something is right or not ~ if it feels wrong, then it's wrong. Regardless of what works for everyone else, you have to do what works for you. Personally I like to chat a while online [email, messenger, etc], then phone and if everything is still going well and feels ok, then we meet in person. It works for me and I stick by it. Just do what works for you :P

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RE: Is moving too fast a red flag? - 3/29/2013 4:36:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Kana
I sack up and do it while the goings good.


Good advice applicable in many circumstances.



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RE: Is moving too fast a red flag? - 3/30/2013 12:54:56 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Kana
. . . Crap-I don't see a hottie out and about and wait weeks to ask her out. I sack up and do it while the goings good. It's pretty much the same here.


The timid, fearful, slow going, camera peeping crap I hear about online and how long people take to get together after meeting online just baffles me. Your comment sparked images of people acting in real life like they do online. Imagine peering at someone for months through a cam, never actually touching anything but yourself. All I could do was think that anyone who only maintains anonymous long distance camera observation of someone for extended periods of time while jerking off is actually a stalker aren't they???

Just sayin'

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RE: Is moving too fast a red flag? - 3/30/2013 1:05:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
The timid, fearful, slow going, camera peeping crap I hear about online and how long people take to get together after meeting online just baffles me. Your comment sparked images of people acting in real life like they do online. Imagine peering at someone for months through a cam, never actually touching anything but yourself. All I could do was think that anyone who only maintains anonymous long distance camera observation of someone for extended periods of time while jerking off is actually a stalker aren't they???

Just sayin'


But not everyone works on your schedule RS ~ for some people meeting in person is a fucking HUGE deal. Some people are terrified of meeting someone in person, others have to worry about other things. Then people, like me, who like to know a bit more about the person before wasting time meeting in person. Now I do agree with you people are just being stalker like, that's fucking creepy. But some really do, in all honesty, need more time before meeting in person.

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