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Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/25/2013 11:02:27 PM

domccc

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Hello all experienced people.

Yes it is I , the hated one asking for advice again.

My submissive is a Cam girl, and we have already agreed that within 1 year she will not be one anymore, however, how to control her properly (i love orgasm control), is another question.

I wonder does anyone here have experience in this realm?

If so what kind of solutions did you come up with to be more comfortable, i must admit it is tough knowing she is sharing intimacy with other men, however, for one year i can handle it. The question is, what restrictions can i put on her... ( i know i could do anything, but it has to be effective)

Any suggestions are much appreciated.
Best.

MJ

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 1:48:48 AM

Darkfeather

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Honestly, I have no idea what you are asking... She is making money by doing sexy-time in front of a cam for other men/women. So if you put restrictions on her, that would cut into her money making potential, because it would limit the things she could or could not do for potential clients. If you don't want her to cam, then tell her, if you are fine with it, then say that. Restricting her is just a thinly veiled attempt at saying no and wrapping it up in a "dominant" moniker. Other than that, you'd have to be a bit more specific in your questions

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 3:43:24 AM

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Why one year? Does she graduate college then or something?

If you want to control her and get her respect, work out with her a plan by which she will be able to count on another income stream in a year. What kind of job would she be suited for? What are her capabilities? What training/experience will she need to make it work, and what steps does she need to take to get there? How can you monitor her progress?

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 4:40:51 AM

MissBlueangel

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You said in a previous post ( about long distance relationships ) that they had a very low success rate.
I guess you already know this is pretty much not going to work.

Like a previous poster Im not sure what you are asking ?

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 7:40:33 AM

Lynnxz

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You went into the relationship knowing she was a cam girl. What happens in one year? Does she have another job? Does she have skills in another area, or are you just assuming she can make the same amount at a Walmart?

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 10:56:18 AM

SeekingTrinity

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~FRing it~

Hate would indicate strong feelings on the subject. I frankly can't be bothered to hate you. I indifference you.

I feel like I've got trackside seats to an upcoming train wreck. You are wanting to try to force your will and kink on someone else's livelihood, which doesn't honestly bode very well as the year ticks by. But good luck to you on that. You're going to need it.

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 5:20:30 PM

HarryVanWinkle

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<YAWN> Another "how to control my cyber-slave?"

I'll pass

quote:

ORIGINAL: domccc

Hello all experienced people.

Yes it is I , the hated one asking for advice again.

My submissive is a Cam girl, and we have already agreed that within 1 year she will not be one anymore, however, how to control her properly (i love orgasm control), is another question.

I wonder does anyone here have experience in this realm?

If so what kind of solutions did you come up with to be more comfortable, i must admit it is tough knowing she is sharing intimacy with other men, however, for one year i can handle it. The question is, what restrictions can i put on her... ( i know i could do anything, but it has to be effective)

Any suggestions are much appreciated.
Best.

MJ

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 6:21:35 PM

littlewonder

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I'm sure if you ask her she'll tell you.

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 7:12:27 PM

OsideGirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle

<YAWN> Another "how to control my cyber-slave?"

I'll pass

Since he's been Dominant since he was 10, he shouldn't need anyone else's advice anyway.

quote:

ORIGINAL: domccc

But on the real, i've been a dominant all my life, from the time i was 10, i was doing dominant things, i took over a household, was put in dominant positions all my life an excelled, i highly doubt any of you are better than me, and that is just real talk. The fact is, i don't have to prove a thing to you, only my subs shall i show my true form to.

quote:

ORIGINAL: domccc
Fact is I have owned a slave for quite a while 24/7, am i the most experienced BDSM master.

< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 3/26/2013 7:21:00 PM >

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 7:30:16 PM

NiceButMeanGirl

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One, hate is a strong word. I don't even hate anyone I know and I don't know you. I'm indifferent to you.

Two, have you met this girl in person yet? If not, did you meet her as a cam girl? If you haven't met her in person, she's just a cam girl to you too, so what's the difference? It's really difficult to maintain any kind of control in a cyber-relationship and that's only one of many reasons I won't even go there.

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 7:48:27 PM

domccc

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It's not long distance.

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissBlueangel

You said in a previous post ( about long distance relationships ) that they had a very low success rate.
I guess you already know this is pretty much not going to work.

Like a previous poster Im not sure what you are asking ?

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 7:50:30 PM

domccc

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Yes we have met in person.... why is it hard to find normal advice here. It's as if the "ask a master" went over everyones head. I get it you don't like me. I could care less, thankfully one cool person PM'd me with some sound advice, thank you to the Cool person. No thank you to all the other people who spent their time lashing out instead of helping the situation. And yes i have been dominant since age 10. Facts are facts.

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 7:54:28 PM

VideoAdminChi

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quote:

It's as if the "ask a master" went over everyones head.

Anyone may post in any forum.

Let's not have any further discussion about what happened below age 18.

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 7:58:01 PM

SeekingTrinity

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Wow, for some big über dominant dude who's been dominating since before he knew what dominating meant...you sure seem to get highly bent out of shape pretty easy...and a tad bit whiny. You assume you mean that much to others to dub yourself "the hated one." Don't like the advice you get, I've got an App for that. It's called "don't ask" and you can download it for free

. Otherwise I'd suggest you put on your big boy pants and deal with it. As Maynard James Keenan said in the Puscifer song Momma Sed..."take it like a man." You're welcome

Geeze, I'd have expected a dominant such as yourself to have mastered self control in the 20+ years you've been doing this...or so you claim anyway. I've always been of the opinion that as a dominant female, it's not my place to interfere with someone's career. And that is what you made it sound like you were wanting to know how to do with your cam girl

< Message edited by SeekingTrinity -- 3/26/2013 8:13:19 PM >

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 8:04:14 PM

angelikaJ

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I think you are making assumptions here about being hated.

Your query is missing one important piece of information: what is your goal for giving her restrictions?

Knowing that vital bit of information may help you get the answers you desire.
The reason for the poor responses has to do with the vagueness of your question.
You are not stating your objective.

You want "effective" but without a concrete objective, effective will be but a guessing game.
You want better, more effective answers, you need to ask more effective questions.

On a more personal note: when the man who became my Master, I had no idea what I wanted.
He knew I had involvements of various types with different men (was not a pay-for cam girl though).
I decided I wanted a Relationship with Him and voluntarily committed to only Him.
He never asked.
I wished to serve only Him and please only Him.
That was about 4 years ago.

Be honest with yourself, if her being a cam girl does not make you happy, then all the restrictions in the world will not fix that.

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 8:27:09 PM

NiceButMeanGirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: VideoAdminChi
Anyone may post in any forum.

Let's not have any further discussion about what happened below age 18.

This. ^^^^ Totally.

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/26/2013 10:58:17 PM

domccc

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Angelika,

Thank you for the response,
my goal is to control her sexually, however a pm response was really true, and i had thought about her angle before.

It is her livelyhood, however, we both agree this cant go on for more than 2 years, so we will be planning during the relationship, however, during her job i will have no involvement at all, that is her world. I will control her for periods of time, sometimes being a week or so, sometimes a day, other times a matter of when i'm home. We had an excellent discussion tonight, and in 3 days we are staying in Vegas a weekend, to really figure out if we are moving in together or not. It will be epic.

So to recap, 2 yr plan or less to get out of sex industry and allow me to control it 24/7, obviously she needs a job or skill honed in that time frame, which is another matter.... however i'm not worried. And her being a cam girl... it isn't ideal, but i refuse to judge her for it, i have to accept her for her. Period. I've dated a stripper before for 6 mo, and it didn't bother me one bit. I look forward to me and her...

quote:

ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

I think you are making assumptions here about being hated.

Your query is missing one important piece of information: what is your goal for giving her restrictions?

Knowing that vital bit of information may help you get the answers you desire.
The reason for the poor responses has to do with the vagueness of your question.
You are not stating your objective.

You want "effective" but without a concrete objective, effective will be but a guessing game.
You want better, more effective answers, you need to ask more effective questions.

On a more personal note: when the man who became my Master, I had no idea what I wanted.
He knew I had involvements of various types with different men (was not a pay-for cam girl though).
I decided I wanted a Relationship with Him and voluntarily committed to only Him.
He never asked.
I wished to serve only Him and please only Him.
That was about 4 years ago.

Be honest with yourself, if her being a cam girl does not make you happy, then all the restrictions in the world will not fix that.

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/27/2013 3:09:46 AM

Darkfeather

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Cool your jets mirrorman, I did give you sound advice. From the sound of it, similar to the words you got in your private message. And yet I say again, I don't still see what your question here is. Though it is late/early, and it could just be me...

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/27/2013 4:08:35 AM

angelikaJ

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domccc

Angelika,

Thank you for the response,
my goal is to control her sexually, however a pm response was really true, and i had thought about her angle before.

It is her livelyhood, however, we both agree this cant go on for more than 2 years, so we will be planning during the relationship, however, during her job i will have no involvement at all, that is her world. I will control her for periods of time, sometimes being a week or so, sometimes a day, other times a matter of when i'm home. We had an excellent discussion tonight, and in 3 days we are staying in Vegas a weekend, to really figure out if we are moving in together or not. It will be epic.

So to recap, 2 yr plan or less to get out of sex industry and allow me to control it 24/7, obviously she needs a job or skill honed in that time frame, which is another matter.... however i'm not worried. And her being a cam girl... it isn't ideal, but i refuse to judge her for it, i have to accept her for her. Period. I've dated a stripper before for 6 mo, and it didn't bother me one bit. I look forward to me and her...

quote:

ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

I think you are making assumptions here about being hated.

Your query is missing one important piece of information: what is your goal for giving her restrictions?

Knowing that vital bit of information may help you get the answers you desire.
The reason for the poor responses has to do with the vagueness of your question.
You are not stating your objective.

You want "effective" but without a concrete objective, effective will be but a guessing game.
You want better, more effective answers, you need to ask more effective questions.

On a more personal note: when the man who became my Master, I had no idea what I wanted.
He knew I had involvements of various types with different men (was not a pay-for cam girl though).
I decided I wanted a Relationship with Him and voluntarily committed to only Him.
He never asked.
I wished to serve only Him and please only Him.
That was about 4 years ago.

Be honest with yourself, if her being a cam girl does not make you happy, then all the restrictions in the world will not fix that.

I get the allure of wanting to control her sexually and at your (relatively) tender age that may work well, for awhile.

However, unless you are aiming for a bedroom only D/s relationship (and there is nothing at all wrong with that), you may want to consider how else do you want her to serve you and think about how to branch off into that.

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RE: Submissive is a cam girl... - 3/27/2013 5:26:19 AM

absolutchocolat

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Well, dear...when you post a question, communicating effectively helps. I see you clarified a bit though, so that's a step in the right direction.

I am always wary of folks who want to change their partners. Obviously, you liked her despite the sex work, so why should she need to transition out of it? Seems like a good way to generate income in a recession. Also, 24/7 dynamics are tough if you just control said slave's sexuality. Angelika makes an excellent point -- figure out other ways to dominate her or the thrill will be gone shortly.

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