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rudykimmy -> looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 1:26:01 AM)
Hi all, we'd really appreciate your input on this. We're a couple (Mr.Rudy & Mrs.Kimmy) who live in a remote location in Portugal. Up untill a few months ago, we had a 24/7 slavegirl who served us both domestically and sexually. In return we took care of her health (physically, mentally, psychologically and financially). The relationship ended when she realised (after 1.5 years of service) that she missed her parents too much (she's only 20). She still visits regularly and is grateful for the time she spent here and the money she earned which we put aside for her. Of course we are looking for a new slavegirl but untill now we have only found fakers and even scammers (on collarme, bdsm.com, dating-bdsm, etc.). We have no experience finding a slavegirl online. Is there any chance of us finding our slavegirl here or should we just give up and return to the "real world" and continue our search there ? Sorry for the long read and thanks for your interest ! Mr.Rudy & Mrs.Kimmy

intellisubbear -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 1:46:53 AM)
Is this a classified advertisement not so cleverly disguised as a fetish question?

rudykimmy -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 1:52:56 AM)
No it's not and we're sorry it sounds that way. It's just that we're fed up with getting scammers (we have actually had 2 "African fortune on hold in the bank" scammers that tried to keep us going for a few mails !!). We would really like to know if anyone has any better (or just plain GOOD experiences) with this and/or other sites. We're very serious about what we are looking for and we KNOW we had a rare thing going, so we're just trying to direct our energy in the right spot (we're busy professionals and don't really have much time to waste). But thanks for answering anyway, next time we'll try to rephrase our question (looking back on our text we realise that it could be misunderstood).

UllrsIshtar -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 2:11:18 AM)
Considering that you've been on this site for less than 2 weeks. I'd advice you to look strictly offline.

rudykimmy -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 3:03:12 AM)
do you think we're being impatient ? but maybe you're right, thanks

TieMeInKnottss -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 7:43:50 AM)
Real world is your best shot. The pool is smaller but higher quality. If you go to events and there are 50 people there and 5 are "unicorns"...most likely they are what they say & there are others who can vouch for them. Here...well it is a free site so any shark can swim in and slap a photo of a guppy up & claim it is a self-portrait. Trust me, it is not just fake unicorns...it is fake doms, fake subs, fake switches, fake poly, fake hetero, fake single... It will take a LONG time online because you have to sift through the garbage and go through so much verification. In the real world..those 5 unicorns..you don't have to worry they don't live in your area, are really men, are 60 yrs old when they claim to be 20. If they claim to be single and experienced....you can discreetly make inquiries of people who obviously know you both (the other 45 regulars). Online...the references are just as unreliable as the source who provided them. Can it be done online..yes but you will spend considerable time getting to trust them in the most basic ways that we are able to take for granted of a person we meet in person even if we only encounter them less frequently.

MasterCaneman -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 8:13:21 AM)
Hello and best of luck in your search.

Muttling -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 11:57:59 AM)
My unicorn takes offense at being labeled a mythical.... [image]http://msnbcmedia2.msn.com/j/ap/b374481c-5e35-43cf-a80c-045b09fc6414.grid-4x2.jpg[/image]

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 12:18:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rudykimmy do you think we're being impatient ? but maybe you're right, thanks Two weeks is no time at all in the grande scheme of things. We are members of about 7 different sites and have been searching for our unicorn for about 3 years or so. They ain't called 'unicorns' for nothing! [:D] Plenty of fakes and wanabees - nothing for reality just yet. Two weeks???? Better start getting used to the waiting game. Best of luck.

Glittoris -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 1:22:46 PM)
It's all about filtering out the crap and finding the gems. If you are frustrated after only a short period of time, stick to in person only. Otherwise gather up some patience and work at finding that mythical third.

peppermint -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 1:53:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rudykimmy do you think we're being impatient ? but maybe you're right, thanks Yes, you are being very impatient. People spend months if not years seeking their unicorn and you are becoming impatient after 2 weeks. Since you haven't the patience to use online then yes again, you should go back to looking real time.

rudykimmy -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 2:00:14 PM)
Thank you all for the wonderful replies, you've all really helped a lot ! We were starting to wonder if we described ourselves wrong. We're totally new "in this scene" and actually had to research most of the terminology. For us, the whole thing started off in - what we think - quite a unique way. Both my husband and I have always worked with lots of staff so we were quite used to "ordering people around" (not that we were dictators though, we were very easygoing bosses). When we stopped our businesses to move to Portugal, things changed a lot for us (less stress). When our "au-pair" girl arrived, we automatically stepped into our roles of "boss" again, but the girl seemed to need more than that. She needed guidance, a strong hand and - we eventually found out - someone to manage her entire life. All parties involved liked that arrangement a lot. But when the sex came into it, then it really became interesting. We found out that we liked just about any "extreme" thing you could think of ... and she enjoyed it too. So we evolved into what we - with our limited knowledge - compared to what we saw in "Spartacus", with us being the Dominus and Domina and our Au-pair being the slave with no personal will at all. When she left us to go back to her parents (she still comes to visit) we missed this way of life and started researching how we could get this back. After reading "50 shades of grey" (I know, cliché) we found most of the terms we needed to determine what we think we are. And based on that new knowledge we described ourselves as "master and mistress looking for a 24/7 slave". We hope this is the right description, but if any of you think we should describe ourselves differently, please let us know. In the "scene-terminology" we still have lots to learn (but not in the way of life we have lead and wish to continue). Thanks again to all of you ! Mrs (?) Kimmy

MasterCaneman -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 2:00:58 PM)
Maybe not precisely what you're looking for, but I couldn't help myself.

MasterCaneman -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 2:04:08 PM)
Never mind, I messed up the load on that one. Seriously, good luck on the search

DesFIP -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 3:20:13 PM)
One of you is in the mid 40's. Tell me, how many years did you date before you met your partner? 15, 20? Yet you seriously expect to meet another perfect partner online without dating. If you had a friend wanting to get married, would you recommend he/she accepted an offer from someone in another country, sight unseen? If not, why are doing this yourselves? You are looking presumably for someone you can like and love and be attracted to. And not just one of you falling in love but both. Expect it to take about twice the amount of time you spent before you met each other. Go out, meet people and date them together. If you just want kinky sex, hire it.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 3:40:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rudykimmy When we stopped our businesses to move to Portugal, things changed a lot for us (less stress). When our "au-pair" girl arrived, we automatically stepped into our roles of "boss" again, but the girl seemed to need more than that. She needed guidance, a strong hand and - we eventually found out - someone to manage her entire life. All parties involved liked that arrangement a lot. But when the sex came into it, then it really became interesting. We found out that we liked just about any "extreme" thing you could think of ... and she enjoyed it too. Wank. I'm highly skeptic of anybody in their mid-fourties "suddenly" discovering they're into "extreme" BDSM. People don't go from 0 to maximum without slowly building up speed when discovering BDSM... ESPECIALLY not when they only discover it well into adulthood. Any person I know genuinely into "extreme" BDSM and edge play has always had indications they where into it (often from before puberty) and don't just discover BDSM all of a sudden, but instead discover (usually during puberty/early twenties) that there are other people like them.

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 3:50:03 PM)
Yes you are being impatient. There is no reason you cannot look both here, and participate in real life events that increase your chances of finding what you seek. I wouldn't think it as hard as a unicorn, just something you need to be patient, because of the nature of relationships in general, and your specifically... Good luck, M

rudykimmy -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 3:51:52 PM)
For your information DesFIP (not that I think it matters in this context but anyway) : my husband was married before, he was alone for 2 years after his first wife left him. Then we met - through business - fell madly in love (almost at first sight), moved in together within the month and got married almost one year later. We are not looking for someone we can fall in love with, we have eachother already. We want someone we both like to have around, that's true, but that's A LOT easier to find than someone to love, isn't it ?! So what we are looking for (as we mentioned) is exactly what we had up untill a short while ago : a girl we like having around, that does the work she is supposed to do and that we can have kinky sex with ... in exchange for her being taken care of (in all meanings of the word). Our former "girl" adored the arrangement, so there must be others out there. We appreciate all the good-hearted responses we've gotten here and we are grateful for all the help. But we would also appreciate it if you wouldn't jump to conclusions without knowing us. Maybe we're the "mythical unicorns" ?!? But ... despite the tone of your reply ... we do appreciate you taking the time to answer.

rudykimmy -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 4:02:07 PM)
quote: UllrsIshtar I can understand that you are skeptical, we're getting there too with all the scammers that have contacted us. In our defence (for lack of a better word, since we don't think we have to defend ourselves in this case), we were both raised in very traditional homes. I (28 years old) already had a passive interest in bdsm but never dared venture into the real thing, my husband never really realised he was into it until recently, mainly - I think - because his sex-life was quite adventurous on all other fronts so he never really felt the urge to experiment (also because his job kinda took the energy out of him to start actively searching for the less obvious). We are all different, we all have our quirks, no one is the same. I have never judged anyone for doing something I don't like or for having an opinion that is different than mine. So if someone discovers later in life that they like something ... what's wrong with that ?!? I didn't like Science fiction movies until very recently (when watching Battlestar Galactica for 12 hours straight [:D] ). My husband didn't like apple-sauce until two years ago ... people change, no matter what Dr. House says [;)]

UllrsIshtar -> RE: looking for a second mythical unicorn ? (3/30/2013 4:17:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rudykimmy quote: UllrsIshtar I can understand that you are skeptical, we're getting there too with all the scammers that have contacted us. In our defence (for lack of a better word, since we don't think we have to defend ourselves in this case), we were both raised in very traditional homes. I (28 years old) already had a passive interest in bdsm but never dared venture into the real thing, my husband never really realised he was into it until recently, mainly - I think - because his sex-life was quite adventurous on all other fronts so he never really felt the urge to experiment (also because his job kinda took the energy out of him to start actively searching for the less obvious). We are all different, we all have our quirks, no one is the same. I have never judged anyone for doing something I don't like or for having an opinion that is different than mine. So if someone discovers later in life that they like something ... what's wrong with that ?!? I didn't like Science fiction movies until very recently (when watching Battlestar Galactica for 12 hours straight [:D] ). My husband didn't like apple-sauce until two years ago ... people change, no matter what Dr. House says [;)] People don't change by going from vanilla to "liking just about any "extreme" thing you could think of" without a lot of intermediary steps. You don't wake up in your 40s one day and discover that you're a hardcore edge player, without anything leading up to that point. The intermediary steps between "vanilla" and "into just about any "extreme" thing you could think of" involve years of evolution and fantasies. Like I said before: I've never met a hardcore edge player who didn't have years of indication that they where into this kind of stuff before their twenties, and even the people who can look back and say that there where signs they where kinky even before they hit puberty take years to grow into their own, and go rather slowly, and with a lot of intermediary steps, from more softcore BDSM to liking "just about any "extreme" thing you could think of". That kind of transformation in a person's personality and tastes just doesn't happen overnight (or in a few weeks or months) in their late 40s. BTW... the fact that you're comparing a "taste" in hardcore edge play to something like what kind of movie, or food you happen to like at any given moment, kinda proves my point and shows that you really don't have much of a clue. What you're saying is akin to somebody claiming that they, one day in their 40s, decided they where gay, without there being anything leading up to that point. People don't wake up one day and suddenly, out of the blue, decide to change what gender they're sexually attracted to... just like people don't just wake up one day and suddenly, out of the blue, decide they're into hardcore edge play.

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