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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

London has a pretty active scene. Why aren't you out meeting real people who actively want to meet partners and show this by going to munches and dungeons etc?

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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

Possibly because it's a very dense and heavilly populated area??

Unlike NY, it can take hours to traverse London even though it's only 35 miles across.
I think most of the munches and dungeons are in the 'burbs so unless you're fairly local to one it's a real bitch to travel from A to B inside London.
Easy to travel in & out of london in all sorts of directions - like the spokes of a bike wheel.
But travelling across a couple of neighbourhoods across the grain is either expensive (taxis aren't cheap here, nor reliable) or it can take hours by car. And if you happen to drive just one yard past the congestion charge point in a road that's another £8 or so you have to pay.
Parking anywhere is also a real ass-ache (if you can find anywhere) and walking the streets of a strange neighbourhood isn't reccommended either - so you're forced to use a Taxi or drive yourself.

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ORIGINAL: lizi
Even with all of the problems of actually leaving his home there in London , it seems like it would have better results for him. Worth a try anyway. Nothing worthwhile ever drops into your lap, there are times when you have to work for it and suck up the long commutes or whatever.

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ORIGINAL: lizi

So do people in London ever do anything? Do they date? See movies? Go to the store? Attend school? Do they have jobs to get to? Do people in London visit friends or relatives? Do they ever have coffee at a cafe or lunch just for the hell of it? Do Londoners go do cool London things like see shows or play? If any of these locations they are traveling to are not just outside their door, do they get to those locations somehow?

If they do any of those things I'm sure they can figure out how to open the door and leave their house without becoming impoverished or impossibly burdened by the angst of having to get somewhere in London. If it costs $10 to get somewhere on a bus then I guess that's the price the guy pays for the possibility that he'll hit it lucky. It isn't a hard concept. Fyi, I've lived in one of the most expensive cities in the world on a limited income without a car, for 6 years. I attended college, had an active social life, worked, and raised a child as a single parent on a limited income all at the same time. I didn't spontaneously combust at the problems inherent in getting anywhere when I lived there, I accepted that as part of life and set out to find ways to carry on with what I wanted to do. London surely seems to have it's own inherent problems and somehow I think people manage to carry on with life in spite of that.

If the OP, like you, chooses not to leave his immediate area, then he accepts the consequence of not meeting anyone through that route and his options are more limited. Btw, he'd have to get out and navigate London somehow if he met someone through the internet and wished to move into real life.

The OP hasn't even explored the real life option yet, perhaps there is a munch or meeting he could walk to, he has no idea at this point. It's only being suggested that he should try a new avenue rather then keep trying something that hasn't worked out too well for him.