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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 4/7/2013 2:55:38 PM   
DesFIP


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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

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ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman
I'm with BlkTallFullfig(I hate typing some of these handles)
Geez, I'll try and not feel hurt. I will say that you're not the first person I apparently offended in going back to this handle (from sexybossybbw), but it's too late. I'm already here, and it describes me perfectly. M



The problem I have is that it's abbreviations. I can't remember how you spell it so it's hard to respond without quoting or to refer to something you said.

Sorry for the off topic, op.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 4/7/2013 3:02:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: dom51m4subf

Yes blktall and caneman; i understood it; i shall rewrite that;
@tieme.. thanks for your viewing my full profile, i dont want to comment on munches and all legwork;





Why don't you want to comment on the real life possibilities of going to munches and meeting real live people?
It seems a very viable solution to you as a lonely kinky guy who lives in India.



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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 4/7/2013 3:35:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig
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ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman
I'm with BlkTallFullfig(I hate typing some of these handles)
Geez, I'll try and not feel hurt. I will say that you're not the first person I apparently offended in going back to this handle (from sexybossybbw), but it's too late. I'm already here, and it describes me perfectly. M
The problem I have is that it's abbreviations. I can't remember how you spell it so it's hard to respond without quoting or to refer to something you said.

Sorry for the off topic, op.
Thanks for the reply DesFIP. With few exceptions, I can't remember anyone's handle either. I always have to look at it a second time, or copy/paste it too.
That isn't what came to mind though, when I saw "I hate typing some of these handles" though. I thought it kind of an abrasive statement, to hate it. It may be a little long, but certainly shouldn't be offensive to anyone that I describe myself with my handle, and only decided to use it again because it didn't seem to be a problem the first go round. M

Sorry for the slight derail dom50m4subf.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 4/7/2013 5:50:28 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP
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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig
quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman
I'm with BlkTallFullfig(I hate typing some of these handles)
Geez, I'll try and not feel hurt. I will say that you're not the first person I apparently offended in going back to this handle (from sexybossybbw), but it's too late. I'm already here, and it describes me perfectly. M
The problem I have is that it's abbreviations. I can't remember how you spell it so it's hard to respond without quoting or to refer to something you said.

Sorry for the off topic, op.
Thanks for the reply DesFIP. With few exceptions, I can't remember anyone's handle either. I always have to look at it a second time, or copy/paste it too.
That isn't what came to mind though, when I saw "I hate typing some of these handles" though. I thought it kind of an abrasive statement, to hate it. It may be a little long, but certainly shouldn't be offensive to anyone that I describe myself with my handle, and only decided to use it again because it didn't seem to be a problem the first go round. M

Sorry for the slight derail dom50m4subf.

Don't feel hurt, BlkTallFullFig, it's not your handle, but the way I key. I'm normally pretty quick, but the moves I have to do with yours slows me down. Now back to dom50m4subf's problem now is that he wants CM to help him track down the scammers, which I see as a backdoor to tracking down his real goal, a "real" submissive in the area or willing to relocate to him. Just from the jargon he uses, he's in the IT business at some level, and he probably hit a brick wall for the permissions.

dom50m4subf, buddy, you have another one of those PITA handles I love so much. Take the advice given and run with it. There's what, 1.2 billion people there? If you get up and look around, chances are you are going to find what you seek. If you want a site to weed out scammers, pony up the cash and sign up for one. I wish I could recommend one, but I don't advertise anything for free. Another cheap, easy, and fun way to weed them out is to just view them more critically. See when they signed on, what they have in the preferences column and how much or if they included a written description.

Scammers have to jockey hundreds, if not thousands of these things in order to get the all-important hit that pays out. They don't have time to write believable (or legible if they bother) things on the wall. Most are cut and paste, you could probably run a search on the phrase and see it come up in a dozen or more places. Same deal for the pictures. If it looks too good to be true, it probably is. Sometimes they don't even bother to edit out the copyright holders indicia, because in a few days or hours they're gone. Time, patience, and critical appraisal are what will bring success in anything. Good luck


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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 4/7/2013 7:40:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ok so you want to be able to rate women. Here's a site for ya. I'm betting you'll find someone here since ya know, it's all about ratings.

http://www.likemybody.com/

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 4/7/2013 11:29:04 PM   
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@ littlewonder: i am not rating women; i am rating the women profile
@mastercaneman; yes that is a good point; taken; i am one who reads the full profile; and even their preferences;
so forum is not a place to suggest a think against the current situation and calling for suggestions; well this point is also taken; and you all can now check my profile! ;)
thanks all!

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 4/8/2013 4:10:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: dom50m4subf

hi

@ littlewonder: i am not rating women; i am rating the women profile
@mastercaneman; yes that is a good point; taken; i am one who reads the full profile; and even their preferences;
so forum is not a place to suggest a think against the current situation and calling for suggestions; well this point is also taken; and you all can now check my profile! ;)
thanks all!


It's not that we don't welcome new suggestions, it's that the suggestions aren't new. Someone comes here once a week to suggest systems of rating people, verifying their identities, blacklisting and other things. It's already been conclusively decided that these things a) are open to abuse b) won't do what they are meant to do and c) don't interest the owners of the site.

PS - It takes a few days to close your account, if you are still logging in the site will keep it open. If you really want it closed you have to actually stay out of it.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 4/14/2013 10:27:03 AM   
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As for suggestions on how to "fix" CM, it won't do you any good. You'll still have the exact same problems no matter what.



True enough... although I've often wished I could "like" posts ala Facebook.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 4/14/2013 4:02:27 PM   
FrostedFlake


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Status: offline 		Are you really looking in America for a date when you are in India?

Clue #1 : There are twice as many people in India as there are in the entire western hemisphere.

Clue #2 : The culture is WAY different.

Clue #3 : Anyone willing to go ten thousand miles for a date with a stranger is even more whacked than YOU.

And so on. Is it any wonder the only folk to write you are, as you put it, fake.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/5/2013 1:16:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		Reverse image search their pictures, easiest way to spot fakes. Upload their pics to googles reverse image search and if you find the. On a bunch of amateur sites well, they're likely to be fakes.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/12/2013 8:46:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		Set a couple simple and safe and very easy to accomplish goals that don't put you out much effort. If they don't do them they are wasting your time. For instance mailing you a kinky poem without including a return address is both simple and low risk. Yet it also takes effort. If they aren't willing to do something like that then don't think they'll put themselves through hours of grueling domination. You can even set your first meeting up while you are going to do something you normally would. This way if they don't show you know they don't have the guts to show for something real. For instance, "Ok Slave, you say you want to meet. I'm going grocery shopping at store x in an hour. It's a public store so you don't have to worry about a kidnapping etc. I like to see if someone is willing to meet before any true bdsm situation to see if I am wasting my time. You don't even have to talk. You just have to wave that red ball cap at me, then wink, and leave. We can set up a real bdsm time later." If the sub or slave doesn't show, well you were going to the store anyway, so no biggie. Cross em off your list.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/12/2013 10:51:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		If someone had told me to mail them a kinky poem I would have laughed and put them on ignore. Not worth my time. Either get to know me as a human being or not at all. I don't jump through hoops for strangers.


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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/14/2013 8:12:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Exactly. I think you just made my point for me. Your listed as a slave. Yet you say you'd laugh at dominants who'd assign you projects, demand they get to know you or have nothing to do with you, and according to your profile only wish to engage in a platonic relationship like a typical vanilla woman. You have the right to do all the above and I'm sure your a fine person. In fact, I admire your spunk. But, I bet the average dominant is going to think your about as much a slave as they are.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/14/2013 8:25:35 PM   
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Exactly. I think you just made my point for me. Your listed as a slave. Yet you say you'd laugh at dominants who'd assign you projects, demand they get to know you or have nothing to do with you, and according to your profile only wish to engage in a platonic relationship like a typical vanilla woman. You have the right to do all the above and I'm sure your a fine person. In fact, I admire your spunk. But, I bet the average dominant is going to think your about as much a slave as they are.


Who cares what the 'average Dominant' thinks? What does that matter?

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/14/2013 8:39:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Alildifferent: what you don't get is that most of us are subs or slaves to one, not to every kinky guy in the world. Until I agreed to be his, I had full authority to do what I wanted and to make sure the guy I met was the right one for me.

And yes, I'm in a TPE. But it didn't start out that way with only online contact. Nor would I have agreed to do stupid pet tricks for some guy writing me.

The op's problem is that he wants someone to agree to be his slave sight unseen, knowing nothing about him. Not even a coffee meet.

I do get that he doesn't live in a place with a lot of acknowledged submissive women. So he's going to have to do this the way normal people find satisfying relationships. He needs to go out on dates, and if they click, at that point talk about what he wants his perfect relationship to look like and see if it matches hers. As well as be prepared for most of the women not to be compatible. Just like the rest of us, it's rare for the first person you meet to be your absolutely best possible partner in the whole world. Expect rejections. Expect this to take time.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/14/2013 9:10:17 PM   
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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/15/2013 5:07:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		eerr...lildifferent, I'm in a long term relationship with Kana for over 7 years now in real life. When we first met it had zilch to do with bdsm. I didn't have to jump through hoops. We simply went out on a date...you know...remember dating? He took me out to dinner, we talked, got to know each other as people not as slave or Master or anything else...just two people who liked each other and felt we wanted to know more about the other.

Now had he told me to write him like you suggested, I would have rolled my eyes and moved on. I wanted someone who was normal and not insecure, didn't need me to prove anything, someone who was bitter or jaded or still hurting from past relationships. I wanted a dominant personality man who was healthy.

What you suggested to me speaks of someone who still doesn't trust anyone. That's not attractive to me at all and there's nothing at all dominant about that whatsoever.


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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/19/2013 12:56:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		Oh I agree submissives and slaves have the right to look elsewhere. I also agree they don't have to do anything they don't want. But, I think laughing at one approaching you, cussing them out, or rolling your eyes at them could make you seem a bit young. To me everyone should be granted respect until they do something to indicate they don't deserve it. A simple no thank you seems a far more appropriate. If they can't take a courteous no thank you then it may be time to take a harder line. Plus, I'd like to point out that some have missed the topic was "how to weed out the fakes". A person who says "I'm not interested" is not a fake. A person who pretends to be interested and says they will do things yet doesn't is a fake. My suggestion to have such a person do a minor task to see how interested they are was not meant to extend to the entire world. Just a person suggesting they are interested in a particular dominant. So I'm not suggesting that every sub or slave need obey everyone. I'm merely suggesting that if a person is telling someone that they'd like to be their slave or sub that they should be willing to act the part. Still, I do live in America, a place where you get lots of freedom. So I guess If a person wanted to come on to someone, say that they want to be their submissive, then tell them to go jump off a cliff at every opportunity, while filling their credit cards with shopping trips, a person can do so. I just frown on it because to me it doesn't seem to fit the definition of what slavery or submissiveness is supposed to be. Submissive: adjective Readily giving in to the command or authority of another. Slave: Noun A person considered the property of another. As for dating. I've done it. Didn't lead to a dom/sub or slave relationship though. My wife hinted she was interested in bdsm far more than she really was. She turned out to be so vanilla after getting married, she could make pudding jealous. We do love each other but are mismatched in so many ways, and even she isn't thrilled with the resulting sex life. For all those it's worked for. Good for you.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/19/2013 1:31:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think it's worked for others because we took a long time to get to know our partners first. Master and I dated in a purely vanilla sense for about 6 months before D/s crept in. We did it that way because we both realised we had to get to know the person before the kink.

Once we decided we really did like each other and were very compatible, we brought in the kink. And we did that slowly so that we could determine our limits without causing damage to the relationship. Then it became M/s. We did the whole thing over a period of 3 years.

I deliberately avoided guys who demanded a level of D/s right at the start. It told me the need for kink was paramount, not the relationship. That didn't suit me, so I moved on. And yeah, sometimes I was rude to the entitled masses who messaged me and made demands right from the off. My profile made it clear what was and what was not acceptable when messaging me, so it they couldn't be bothered to read my profile or chose to ignore it, then that made them mock-worthy, and so I mocked.

Now, as time goes on, my profile has changed. It makes it clear that I'm owned and what I will and will not discuss. These are not my rules, these are Master's. He has also made it clear that while I'm a slave, I'm HIS slave. I am not at the beck and call of anyone who slaps a dominant label on himself. And if that person cannot behave appropriately with someone else's property, then that property has his instruction to tell them to take a flying fuck at a rolling doughnut.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/22/2013 8:15:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: dom50m4subf
Allow other viewer's opinion on the profile, allow IP of the user to be seen, give a profile rating What are ur opinion?

My opinion is that non-technical people should not propose technical solutions to problems like this. You, apparently, believe that your IP address in some way identifies you. It does not. I could right now, within the space of about 10 minutes, log in from maybe 30 countries around the world and have a different IP address each time. For those of us on PPPOE or DHCP systems our IP address changes at some semi-random interval even without any technical sleight of hand.

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