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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/22/2013 10:48:38 AM

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Exactly. I think you just made my point for me. Your listed as a slave. Yet you say you'd laugh at dominants who'd assign you projects, demand they get to know you or have nothing to do with you, and according to your profile only wish to engage in a platonic relationship like a typical vanilla woman. You have the right to do all the above and I'm sure your a fine person. In fact, I admire your spunk. But, I bet the average dominant is going to think your about as much a slave as they are.

Then I'm not an average Dominant.

She says she's a slave. To me, that means she obeys her Master completely. She has no obligation to treat the rest of us Doms any different than if we were vanillas. She would in fact laugh at Dominants who gave her assignments. Unless they were HER Dominant.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/22/2013 11:48:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: alildifferent

Exactly. I think you just made my point for me. Your listed as a slave. Yet you say you'd laugh at dominants who'd assign you projects, demand they get to know you or have nothing to do with you, and according to your profile only wish to engage in a platonic relationship like a typical vanilla woman. You have the right to do all the above and I'm sure your a fine person. In fact, I admire your spunk. But, I bet the average dominant is going to think your about as much a slave as they are.

Then I'm not an average Dominant.

She says she's a slave. To me, that means she obeys her Master completely. She has no obligation to treat the rest of us Doms any different than if we were vanillas. She would in fact laugh at Dominants who gave her assignments. Unless they were HER Dominant.

See this is where I think "slave" means different things to different people. I recently changed my designation to "slave"...and have seen a big change in the types of emails I get. "slave" to many (OP apparently) means a personality...someone happy to serve with nothing in return, someone content with whatever they are given who does not ask for more, who accepts being put down, walked on.. I believe I am a slave because of how deeply I connect to my partner. I WANT him (I am hetero so I use "him") to be happy, will sacrifice my own desires for him, I will go that extra mile, walk on those hot coals...for HIM because of how he treats me and makes me feel. In this type of interaction...there is nothing that is important enough to me to fight him on-what I wear, where we eat dinner, when we have sex.-because of who he IS! Now, granted, what differs with me and just being a sub with a great connection to one Dom is that I seem to have this intensity with most people I am involved with

So.. OP, it does not really matter what the title is. I can & do treat many people with disdain or indifference because that is how I feel towards them. Just because you labeled yourself something, does not mean I will view you that way.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/22/2013 12:43:28 PM

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I think you and DS are saying the same thing but from a different perspective.

From DS's PoV, he says the slave should obey their master regardless.
You say it's different because you think it's a personality trait and that you *want* to do things for your master.

Surely, one is inherent of the other?
A good master will want his slave to obey without question and a good slave does this because they want to.
One and the same to me.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/22/2013 2:02:53 PM

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Delete those "fake" messages by clicking the Delete button.

Solves the problem lightning fast. At least it does for me.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/22/2013 2:24:55 PM

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Actually, I was supporting DS and countering what the OP said about LW not being considered a slave by most Dom men because she does not try to please or pander to men that she does not know. I think that the personality trait is more of what CAUSES us to react a certain way. The OP seemed to be saying that people who are slaves will act slavishly towards everyone...almost like we are a caste of society who know our place!

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/23/2013 9:49:44 AM

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Someone tried to scam me recently, I avoided it by using common sense. This is a great site, but you can't expect the people who run it to act as a body guard, you're on your own recognizance, 'let the buyer beware'. You can have a good deal of fun here, just be aware, not everyone is what they appear to be.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/23/2013 4:19:43 PM

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The problem as I see it is, too many of the complainers either lack the savvy, motivation, or interest in figuring that out for themselves. They want instant gratification, and I think that the real complaint (that they're not revealing openly) is they're not getting their kinky pussy right now.

A lot of those guys (and I'm going to say it's mostly men) post on adult-oriented sites, kinky or not, looking for a quick, discreet fuck while at the same time being too cheap or scared to seek out a prostitute. They gravitate towards BDSM because of the hot outfits, shoes and boots, and some of the freaky things females put up on their profiles. They think kink=slut, and slut=easy, and when it doesn't work out, they throw a tantrum.

The only reason they want a Magic Fake Identifier Button™ is to make their desperate search easier. If it was put in, then they'd want a Magic Kinky Slut Who Is Guaranteed To Be My Free Fetish Delivery System Button™ added, and so on, and so on. Over on the other site, there's a couple groups dedicated to ripping apart these guy's contact attempts. They want it hot, fresh, fast, and free, is what I'm saying (as has just about every other poster on this thread).

Despite what most of them say, they could give a wet shit about developing a meaningful relationship with anyone. You tell them over and over why their abominable, dick-centric, offbeat-fetish heavy profiles attract nothing but con artists and they don't want to hear. They want a quick fix and they want it now, and if they can't get it, they'll flounce on out and repeat their cycle of fail.

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/23/2013 4:22:36 PM

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RE: how to weed the fakes? - 5/23/2013 4:30:35 PM

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Preach on, MasterCaneman!

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