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sublizzie -> Interesting situation (6/23/2006 4:34:23 PM)
I know we aren't supposed to mention our "unmentionables" but this one is an adult. Have any of you dealt with an unmentionable who is also kinky? Particularly one who is looking for community? My youngest finally came out to me as Domme. (Explains why raising her was so very difficult!) She is also lesbian. The school she attends, out in the sticks, has a GLBT group, but they do not accept Bears or Leather folk, even if they are GLBT. I am fairly new in the local community but know people who can help her find kindred spirits here while she's home from school this summer. Has anyone else introduced their progeny to thier local group? How do you deal with kinky descendents? Am I alone in this?

BitaTruble -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 4:39:49 PM)
Well, my daughter is almost 28 so I think it's ok if I mention her. ::laughs:: She has borrowed my toys, asked for techniques, books, best places to shop and is my driver whenever I get back to my favorite San Jose store, LeatherMasters, when I'm in CA. She bought me my first (and only) pair of furry handcuffs. ::laughs and laughs:: Ok, so she's not 'that' astute, but it's the thought that counts! I deal with her the same exact way as I deal with my uber-vanilla son. As my child whom I love and to whom I tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth when they ask. They are both grown, have families of their own and what they do is their business but if they ever want any information, I'll either provide it or point them towards the sources they need to find out for themselves including the groups which are in their local community. Since they are in the SF area, they have lots of options on that score. Good luck to you! Celeste

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 4:42:14 PM)
I know someone in the Denver community who's daughters are both in the scene. Unfortunately, she isn't apart of CM or I'd give you away to contact her and see if she can help. Seems the force runs strong along bloodlines. LOL

desertdancer -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 4:43:55 PM)
If I even whisper the word "sex" to my mom, she looks like she's going to cry..

mnottertail -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 4:46:33 PM)
Yes, you are SO alone. This is the first evidence that our sons and daughters might be sexual and some even kinky. You are treading brand-new H2O here....LOLOLOL You don't see nothing wrong with kinksterism do you? You are here, ain't ya? If she asks, tell. Don't do the welcome to the fold honey, now here are all the things that.......yadda yadda yadda. Treat it like toast. Useful, and unremarkable, just not bread. Otherwise, you are gonna get the MMMMMMMOOOOOOOOOOOoooooMMMMMMMMM! with that little eye snap that my daughter gives me. GAWD! I hate that. I may be a dom, but I ain't her dom. LOL

sublizzie -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 4:49:29 PM)
Well, I'm sub but I'm not sub to either of my very Domme daughters. I will always be Mom, regardless. She wants to go to the munch with me next week. Should be interesting to see what happens....

KennelDeSade2 -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 4:51:25 PM)
One day my daughter said; "Sir, do you know of a club called "The Wet Spot?" (A local sex positive community resource center) So I pulled out my membership card and showed it to her. She shakes her head and says "figures." We agreed that on those nights she was planning to attend a pansexual play party, that she would let me know, so I could avoid being there at the same time. There are just some things that kids don't need to see their parents doing, and likewise. I thought it was so darling the evening she came over and brought a little slave boy with her, and wanted to borrow on of my more esoteric toys. I sat with the boy while she used my computer to chcek mail and ran up to get what she wanted, and he must have proudly said "My Mistress" a dozen times in ten minutes. Sometimes, kids just make you so proud.

mnottertail -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 4:57:32 PM)
I see you are a landsman, see if BitaTrouble is going, she is good people. Maybe you can hook up and visit so you don't have to do the serreptitious eye-fucking thingie all night. Plus, she has probably been to the restaraunt and could steer you away from the ecolichicken with mixed veggies. LOL Ron

mnottertail -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 4:59:37 PM)
Goddamit, Ken.....it brings a tear of pride to my eyes when we realize that we have had some positive influence on the morals and character of our offspring. Good Job, DAD!!!! Ron

sublizzie -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 5:01:42 PM)
I would be more than happy to meet with BitaTrouble, though I haven't yet. I've been before and know some people. I already know better than to eat there. Dangerous stuff. She's hoping to meet some people from the local "younger" group by going to the munch. I'm hoping that will help her find a home. It's lonely being the only kinkster you know. BTDT.

sublizzie -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 5:03:36 PM)
I agree. I'm not sure I would be comfortable at the same party my unmentionables were at, especially given our opposite sides of the flogger, so to speak. I don't need to know specifics but it would be nice to be able to help them out with information and support when I can.

RosaB -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 6:10:18 PM)
Though a shock to some that may have read my ranting about being a prude thread, my daughter is aware of my bdsm relationships. She comes to me for answers to any questions she has about most everything in life, as she knows mom won't ever miss judge her. Well not to her face anyway. We sometimes spare, but when it comes down to it, my daughter and her friends think, I'm one cool mom, because no subject is taboo. Ok, maybe one, my exact date of birth. My little tyck (grown daughter) is in a d/s dynamic relationship and doesn't even owns up to it, we've discussed it and I've explained to her how she can make the best of it instead of getting frustrated by it. Her mate is submissive in the relationship in every way and he is very happy to be that way. I have no problem with how my offspring chooses to express herself be it in general day to day life or her sexuality as long as it doesn't jeopardize her or anyone elses over all well being. Oh and ever since my daughter and I had that talk about learning to live with and not against her mates nature, their bond has grown stronger over the last couple of years. Not without its ups and downs, but she understands him better and he her. Rosa.

mnottertail -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 6:17:13 PM)
I will state without let or hinderance, Rosa; I am not surprised at all. I think you are a pretty straightforward and reasonable person; woman; and Master. I also agree in most respects with your this is outta line post regarding youth and music and accepting hog-trough morals. My hat and hand. Ron

RosaB -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 8:06:30 PM)
Oh Ron, (think Mary Tyler Moore saying Oh Rob), I kinda like it when no one around here agrees with anything I say. You've ruined my nearly perfect record. [:D] Shucks sometimes it like this life connects me to my jr high school days. Keeps me feeling young I get all chocked up and all warm and tingly inside... However, your supporitive words are most appreciated. I hope you know my real feelings in that department. I just have a difficult time passing up an opportunity to ham it up. Rosa quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail I will state without let or hinderance, Rosa; I am not surprised at all. I think you are a pretty straightforward and reasonable person; woman; and Master. I also agree in most respects with your this is outta line post regarding youth and music and accepting hog-trough morals. My hat and hand. Ron

BitaTruble -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 8:19:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sublizzie I would be more than happy to meet with BitaTrouble, though I haven't yet. I've been before and know some people. I already know better than to eat there. Dangerous stuff. She's hoping to meet some people from the local "younger" group by going to the munch. I'm hoping that will help her find a home. It's lonely being the only kinkster you know. BTDT. You're more than welcome to come to our next munch! If you want details, the next one is a barbecue on July 15th. Also, a lot of us are converging on Convergence July 7-9. Sci-fi but brings out a lot of the kink minded as well and always a good time. Write me on the other side if you want to be put on the munch list. I can also hook you up with Ms. Fanny's group. They meet every Thursday downtown, while we meet in Eden Prairie once a month and do a coffee/dinner/movie thing once or twice a month as well. You're probably already familiar with TIES and most people have at least tried them out.. if you're not into the huge crowds, you might want to check out some of the smaller groups. We are expecting one of the younger male submissives from Collarme to be in attendence as well.. and.. well, you just never know. ;) I think we have 5 or 6 Collarme members who attend all of our munches, but not much for posting on the forums here.. cept me, but that's cuz I rarely shut my trap. lol If your daughter is over 18, we'd be happy to include her at the munch. No play, no pressure, all street wear.. just food, fun and friends. Most of our crowd is the 40-50 age range, so she may not feel as comfortable though.. her call, just let me know. :) Celeste edited to add: Because of the move and stuff, Himself and I won't be hosting a play party until Oct.. probably first week, but I totally understand about not wanting to be in the same place at a play party as my own offspring. I wouldn't do that either!

mnottertail -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 8:22:09 PM)
Celeste, why you wanna start a street war, you just moved.......oh, never mind................. my bad.

BitaTruble -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 8:26:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Celeste, why you wanna start a street war, you just moved.......oh, never mind................. my bad. I was nice!!!

mnottertail -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 8:29:51 PM)
yeah, I can only apologize so much......you said street wEar.......... XO.......house is gonna mean payments.....Himself is gonna put you under the whip you know......... LOL

BitaTruble -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 8:34:24 PM)
quote: XO.......house is gonna mean payments.....Himself is gonna put you under the whip you know......... LOL Only if I'm really, really deserving.. which may be good.. or may be bad. [8D] Come on Sublizzie.. we are WAY top heavy in our group. There's just not enough serving wenches to go around!

MasterCurios -> RE: Interesting situation (6/23/2006 9:53:51 PM)
well i cant speak for my children but my own mother came to me for advice on where she could go to explore as she put it her other side..i didnt probe for details figuring if she was comfortable she would share....i gave her the info and off she went ,now she is divorced and living with her girlfriend.....i think i gave to good advice to her=lol..but if she is happy so be it i say Master Curios

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