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njlauren -> RE: Jason Collins: "I'm Gay" (4/29/2013 7:33:25 PM)
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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir
I don't know, Level. It isn't as if I go around telling complete strangers "I like cock". Why is he defining himself by which gender he wants to sleep with, and why should anyone care in the first place?
Really? You never mention you have a boyfriend? If married, you don't wear a wedding ring or talk about where you went on vacation? You never talked to girl friends about the guys you dated, or said looking at a guy 'he's hot?'.
I read and hear this crap all the time, and it is laughable, the answer is that straight people 'flaunt their sexuality' all the time, but it is so common they don't see it. By coming out, gays are simply saying 'this is who I love, this is who I spend time with' and the right to do what straights do. If a straight couple goes down the street holding hands or kissing, you are saying 'they aren't flaunting it', but if a gay couple does, it is them 'flaunting it'. You watch tv or movies and you see all kinds of straights' flaunting it'; when we read about pro athletes, we constantly hear about their wives and kids, their affairs, their divorces, the gossip and sports pages are full of such references. You go to work, you see men and women wearing wedding rings, and office gossips talk about who is dating whom. People talk about their families, why should a gay person be quiet about whom they love?
The most obnoxious thing about this, and I would be willing to bet pretty good money the OP is Catholic, is the obsession with sex, that it is a guy who 'loves cock'. The church obsesses on gays, about the sex act (not surprising, given how absolutely medieval and backwards the RC is about sexuality even for straights). Would you define a straight couple simply by sex? Would you say to the woman flashing her engagement ring "Do I need to be reminded you love to get a dick in you every night?". No, unless you are some sort of real weirdo, you would congratulate her on finding a 'good catch', that it was great she found the one, etc.........
See, the thing about coming out as gay isn't about flaunting anything, it is about being open about whom they love, no different then straight couples,about being able to be open about their family, no different then straights. Being gay is no different then being straight in that regards, while sexual attraction is what often brings us together with who we end up loving, the relationship is so much more than that, the companionship, the sharing, the caring, all the things that make up finding a mate. To reduce gays to being what they do or don't do in the bedroom is like the old attitude that being a wife was in effect legalized prostitution, that marrying a woman was the price to have sex, and it is just as odious. If he had come out and said "I love sucking dick" it would be inappropriate, saying that he was attracted to men is no more 'flaunting it' then a straight athlete saying "this is my girlfriend' or 'this is my wife', absolutely no difference.
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