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RE: ProDom hunting and being safe - 5/27/2013 7:09:52 AM

TheLilSquaw

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While I agree that I have never met a pro who would do this, I have to ask. If you don't know someone well enough to trust them alone in a room why the fuck did you ask them over to your house to begin with. A little common sense goes a long way.

Keep in mind, that many people go to pro dom/me, switches, and subs because for what ever reason they don't want that personal attachment or don't have it yet but want to scene. So as a pro, I would be doing myself a disservice if I only booked sessions with those I knew on a personal level.

I do have regulars. However, I also get a lot of first timers, not only are they new to me but they are scene virgins. Honestly I truly enjoy these sessions. That being said, when I do sessions as a bottom I do require a DM be present. That isn't just for my safety but for the client (top) as well. If I am the top in a session, I don't have a DM. (typically) Although there are sessions I do as a top where I require a DM (third party) to be present.

As a pro there are safety precautions that some take, some more extreme than others. Especially when they are independents although even dungeons have many safety precautions as well. So to some having a driver, is common sense.

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RE: ProDom hunting and being safe - 5/27/2013 8:16:33 AM

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When I did pro sessions, who I played with varied. When I started out, I was young, and obviously didn't have the resources to play often, but it generally was at one of the lower end houses (i.e relatively inexpensive). When I first went there, it was talking to the dommes on that day, where i was, and seeing what clicked. As time went on, I got to know some of the dommes and would ask for them..

Later on, as I progressed and was using a high end house, I had regular dommes I had worked with an liked, and we became friends as well as the professional relationship. I would never claim these women were my 'D' or anything, it was a pro relationship, but they were friends I enjoyed talking to, and one of them when this got into my personal life, became a mentor to my wife and myself.

Pro dommes who are in the business will not pull scams, for the simple reason that word gets out. If someone pulls a scam, like doing outcall, taking the money and disappearing, they are likely an escort with a whip type, who basically are just a scam artist (any escort service in business any length of time would not do this, because of the obvious reasons, they would never get clients).

It is why it pays to do some research, and why using Craigslist is idiotic. There are a lot of erotic websites out there, there are review sites for pro dommes like Max Fish, and it isn't hard to do some background that at the very least, the person has been around more then a few days. A new domme at a pro house is safe, someone advertising on craigslist "I am new in town" should be given a wide berth.

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RE: ProDom hunting and being safe - 5/27/2013 8:54:03 AM

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It is why it pays to do some research, and why using Craigslist is idiotic. There are a lot of erotic websites out there, there are review sites for pro dommes like Max Fish, and it isn't hard to do some background that at the very least, the person has been around more then a few days. A new domme at a pro house is safe, someone advertising on craigslist "I am new in town" should be given a wide berth.

Just FYI... there are many established independent and dungeon pro dom/mes, subs, and switches who use many outlets of advertising including bp, craigslist, CM, FL, Eros, and others. I would also suggest that "assuming" that because a pro works at a dungeon that they are "safer" isn't always true and says that those who are independent (not associated with a dungeon) shouldn't be trusted.

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