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RE: Cam and dominance - 5/11/2013 4:27:38 PM

LadyPact

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That's because they're probably guys. Listen to your gut. "She" is a "he".

You know, I tend to agree with you about 95% of the time. On this, we're in separate ballparks.

As much as I like you, Roch, unless we had met in person, I wouldn't get on cam for you. That's even with Me thinking that you are not 'random dude from the net' and are probably in the top 1% around this joint. Average guy? Not a chance in hell.

ETA - If you honestly think I'm a guy after all of these years, I'd be truly surprised.

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This is complete nonsense. Why is your first encounter doubtful? Why do you question "is she real"? My suggestion is to stop the cam nonsense and go to a munch. Meet REAL PEOPLE in REAL LIFE. There is never any question of whether someone is real when you're sitting across the table from them at a diner.

No offense, but I'll never understand why so many guys get stuck on such simple questions. Go to a munch, my friend. Go to a munch.

OK. Back to agreeing.

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So the question is if you are a dominant or even a switch would you get on cam for your sub just to show him you are real?

Here's the problem. Random dude on the internet isn't MY sub. If MY sub doesn't know I'm a real woman because we've spent time in the same room together, how ridiculous is it of him to want to be Mine?

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RE: Cam and dominance - 5/11/2013 11:06:42 PM

Rochsub2009

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009
That's because they're probably guys. Listen to your gut. "She" is a "he".

You know, I tend to agree with you about 95% of the time. On this, we're in separate ballparks.

As much as I like you, Roch, unless we had met in person, I wouldn't get on cam for you.

Actually, we don't disagree. I was talking in generalities. I was saying that often the woman is actually a man. But that's not ALWAYS the case.

BTW, I don't cam either. I don't even own a webcam. IMO, webcamming is stupid. It's too much like masturbation to me. Wait....now that I think about it, it IS masturbation.

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RE: Cam and dominance - 5/12/2013 1:24:16 PM

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Actually, I don't mind showing myself on cam.....as long as I'm fully clothed and the other person is too. But I don't want that to go on ad infinitum. I would do it once though as a prelude to meeting someone at a munch or local kinksters' get together, just so we could each see what the other looks like in real life, rather than maybe receiving a picture that's old as the hills. I will have no part in cybersex or that crap though.

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RE: Cam and dominance - 5/12/2013 5:40:42 PM

HarryVanWinkle

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If you were willing to go and get involved in local munches and meet people that way, you could just skip all the cam nonsense.

^^^ This. ^^^

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RE: Cam and dominance - 5/12/2013 9:29:11 PM

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I don't ask for someone to cam with me. I don't go on cam with someone who isn't going to go on cam as well. I will go on cam with someone who wants to communicate by cam themselves. If any of this matters to anyone, then that is their problem. If you require cam verification, state it in your profile as a deal maker or breaker.
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RE: Cam and dominance - 5/13/2013 3:56:25 AM

BlkTallFullfig

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I hate being on cam period. If someone indicates early on that he has had soooo many issues with finding men online pretending to be women, I'd think his filtering is the bigger problem, and not the men pretending to be women.
I've always been a little shy, and my family has done local television programming for decades now. I've never gotten comfortable with being in front of the camera.

I've also NEVER bought a webcam, but have one in the computer now, and have gone on cam a total of 3 times in the last 10years. So, I'm not likely going to be one of the women on cam. Besides, going on cam, should require cleaning up, etc. I don't just present myself to the public any old way... M

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RE: Cam and dominance - 5/13/2013 1:27:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl
Actually, I don't mind showing myself on cam.....as long as I'm fully clothed and the other person is too. But I don't want that to go on ad infinitum. I would do it once though as a prelude to meeting someone at a munch or local kinksters' get together, just so we could each see what the other looks like in real life, rather than maybe receiving a picture that's old as the hills.

Yes, exactly.

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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl
I will have no part in cybersex or that crap though.

Aw, darn.

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RE: Cam and dominance - 7/26/2013 8:26:36 PM

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This just happened to me. She got upset when I asked if she'd be on cam as well, but I respected her decision for the time being. Is she a man? Who knows. But if it is not the advertised person, they've created quite a convincing backstory.

I'll give it a few more interactions; I'm a patient and trusting guy. And I did enjoy the chat. But any longer than that without her warming up to me and I'll just have to bring it up again myself.

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RE: Cam and dominance - 7/26/2013 10:09:32 PM

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I For the most part, I would say that meet in person and then go to the cam. Dominance can occur over any mode of communication once trust is established.

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