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PeonForHer -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/23/2013 2:20:09 PM)

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Your thoughts on privilege seems to me consistent with some some strict religious societies with pronounced gender roles.


That seems a strange observation to me. Those weren't really thoughts so much as a rehash of standard ideas about privilege amongst sociologists regarding western societies. The whole point is that these privileges aren't 'taught' in the 'schoolbook' or 'church doctrine' of the term 'taught'. By the time adulthood is reached, they're taken for granted as 'normal' and 'natural'. They're not consciously thought about.








fucktoyprincess -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/23/2013 2:26:28 PM)

egern, my response was directed to the specific comments of aswad, as well as others who were suggesting the construct of sex drive. So please re-read the thread if you want to dissect my comments. My comments are not meant to be read in isolation but as part of the thread.

Leaving that aside, when I say the power construct informs me about the relationship between men and women, as well things I can do to minimize risks it is precisely because sex drive does NOT inform me in the same ways.

Men and women have sex drives. And each and every man does NOT have a sex drive that is higher than each and every woman. So using sex drive as the construct doesn't really tell me anything. Yes, we all have sex drives and people like to have sex. What does that have to do with informing us about boundaries, consent, etc. In my mind, nothing at all.

If we believe rape is just about sex drive then one way to control this is to cover women up - i.e., remove the visual cues to sex drive for men who are 90% of rapists. This seems ridiculous to me.

When I think about it in terms of power it tells me the way to educate both men and women is about the power dynamics involved - now we have the issues of boundaries, consent, respect, etc. all show up. And unlike sex drive which is the same construct for both women and men, power, because of certain natural attributes and evolutionary biology is different for men and women. Understanding rape requires understanding the sources of power that each gender has, and how rape violates the power balance. Again, the construct of sex drive does not tell us anything. A woman with a sex drive can still be raped. A woman can be attracted to someone physically but still not want to have sex with them at a particular time and place. Power seems to me a much better construct to use when discussing things like date rape. Again sex drive tells me nothing. Two people out on a date who are attracted to each other. Sex drive kicks in. So what? This doesn't mean a woman has consented to sex. And if a woman says "no" and a man overpowers her, his is doing exactly that. Using his sources of power to obviate hers.

This is really not something very complex that is being stated here. In fact, I am starting to think it is because of its very simplicity that some on this thread are willfully denouncing it. Sometimes the simplest explanations are the most powerful.

Using power as a construct leads me to all the right conclusions about education, prevention, post-rape counseling, etc.

Again sex drive doesn't tell me how to counsel a post-rape victim (something that I have done as a volunteer). Sitting around talking about sex drive is NOT going to make a rape victim feel alright about what happened. Talking about power makes it very clear exactly what happened and what the relative responsibilities were and how well or not well those responsibilities were handled. And this applies whether it is stranger rape or date rape or marital rape.

How many of you who are attacking the power construct have dealt in any real capacity with either rapists or rape victims (either as counselors, doctors, lawyers, etc.)? I think some of you could use some real life exposure to people on both sides of the rape equation before jumping so quickly to the idea that power is NOT the construct.

I am not making a philosophical abstract argument here. I am talking about what I feel works in the real world that we have to deal with.

Here are your questions:


Is it power? YES

Is it a bad attitude about women? (or other men)? YES and misogyny would be part of the power construct

Is it purely about sex? NO

Is it punishment? YES and punishment would be part of the power construct

Is it bad upbringing? Culture? Religion? POSSIBLY - but partly because people don't always understand rape to be about power; and culture and religion often focus on the wrong thing - on sex drive and trying to reduce that (e.g. by covering women up, by not allowing women to go out, etc.)

Is it because men cannot control themselves? Control is the flip side of power - when we have power we can choose to use it or NOT

Is it because men have a right to sex and therefore to take it where they can? This is POWER

Is it, as some EPs would have it, all nature and natural? NO



Do women have a role in it, or is that going back to the bad old days when it was all their fault, even if you were a child? Women have power within the context of choosing who to have sex with - but when that power is taken away it is not the woman's fault - a woman cannot take away her own power (that would imply consent). The whole point is that she has power that is ignored by the man.

Most of these questions raise issues that are just about power, but simply phrased in another way. The others relate to education - and the only way to educate is to understand what you are educating about.






PeonForHer -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/23/2013 2:39:08 PM)

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This is really not something very complex that is being stated here. In fact, I am starting to think it is because of its very simplicity that some on this thread are willfully denouncing it. Sometimes the simplest explanations are the most powerful.


People often can't see things not because they're so abstract and away in the distance, but because they're so right up close to the front of the nose. Psychology 101. ;-)




Aswad -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/23/2013 6:54:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: egern

Seems to me you keep mixing the actual act of rape - which of course implies power, physical overpowering or a weapon - and the motive for rape, which is what I am talking about.


Seems to me they're positing power as the motive, as well, and that it's universally implied as part of the motive.

Some people see taking something because one can as an act of power. Others, like me, see it as an act of weakness. More to the point, I reject that the root cause, the initial motive, is "because I can". Indeed, it would offend me less (but still be offensive) if the motive truly were "because I can", rather than the violation being callously secondary to the true motive, which is what seems to be the case with many I've interviewed about rape.

IWYW,
— Aswad.




Aswad -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/23/2013 7:16:49 PM)

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

It might be a help to think of power in relation to privilege, and in their sociological definitions.


I follow it just fine, Peon.

I don't even object to any of what you said, except for nitpicks that have no material bearing on it when we discuss it in that frame of reference (they're more material in mine, but that's not the one we're going with). I just consider that line of thinking a dead end and a needless overcomplication. I'm aware of the aspects of rape that you mentioned, and have intuitively grasped them around primary school age, without relying on the constructs in question. Thus, for me, those constructs are entirely superfluous.

If it's helpful to you, just go with it.

Explaining the path from that frame of reference to mine would be a far too long road anyway, involving too many elements and going far off topic. Explaining the consequences of one path versus the other in the long term would be too involved to be worth the effort, and the same goes for the obstacles you'll run into, pursuing that path. I've no credentials to lend weight to my warnings, so I'm just gonna go with "do whatever works for you" and say what others have said before me: in hindsight, it will all become clear.

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Like many others, beyond that, I'm somewhat at sea as to why a few rape but most don't.


I'm at the shore, sitting on the pier and wiggling my toes in the water, enjoying the uncharacteristically sunny weather.

You can come if you feel like it. There's plenty of room.

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I can't 'feel myself into' a rapist's head - any rapist's head. I can do that with a thief or even a murderer, but I can't do it with a rapist.


It's pretty easy, once you know the way. Would you like me to teach you?

IWYW,
— Aswad.




Powergamz1 -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/23/2013 11:23:26 PM)

As I predicted, strawmen arguments.

And as pointed out to you more than once, the motive for a soldier to follow orders to rape, versus the motive for a child molester to rape, versus the motive for a fraternity boy to date rape, et al. can each be very different.

When they *act* on that motive, they are employing force, coercion, overpowering, overriding, abrogating, whatever term you want... a differential of power.
The act of rape is about power as you damn well know, and you've wasted 150+ posts denying that power has anything to do with the act of rape (or the act of a police officer subduing and handcuffing a suspect)... in order to get to this point in your game where you flip-flop and pretend that you 'misunderstood'.

This was boring after the first dozen times you pulled it.
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ORIGINAL: Aswad

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ORIGINAL: egern

Seems to me you keep mixing the actual act of rape - which of course implies power, physical overpowering or a weapon - and the motive for rape, which is what I am talking about.


Seems to me they're positing power as the motive, as well, and that it's universally implied as part of the motive.

<SNIP>
— Aswad.






PeonForHer -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/23/2013 11:28:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Aswad

I follow it just fine, Peon.



I wasn't suggesting otherwise, Aswad. I kind of thought after I'd posted that you might read that tone into what I'd said. Mea culpa. Actually, it was more of a general comment, addressed to those who are fundamentally bemused by this 'rape is about power' idea.




cordeliasub -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/24/2013 2:13:20 PM)

As a rape victim, it's always intriguing to see people spend so much time on the definition of words like power.

Who cares how the words are parsed? When you are lying there powerLESS....it is terrifying and violating and unimaginable. Merriam Webster and the definition of bullying don't really enter the victim's mind, I assure you.




Aswad -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/24/2013 4:09:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Powergamz1

As I predicted, strawmen arguments.


As I told you elsewhere, I'm not interested in your drivebys. Whenever I address your points or ask you to back them up, you ignore it and do another driveby muckflinging elsewhere. That's not constructive, and it's not going anywhere, so just let me know when you're interested in actually discussing things, or stop wasting my time with these antics.

IWYW,
— Aswad.




Aswad -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/24/2013 4:13:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I wasn't suggesting otherwise, Aswad. I kind of thought after I'd posted that you might read that tone into what I'd said. Mea culpa. Actually, it was more of a general comment, addressed to those who are fundamentally bemused by this 'rape is about power' idea.


Yeah, that thought occured to me after I'd replied, so more like nostrae culpa, then. [:D]

It was a good idea, Peon.

IWYW,
— Aswad.




Aswad -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/24/2013 4:24:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: cordeliasub

Who cares how the words are parsed?


The socket to fitting with index of sin is grokkage, which backflows when Ali and alia tongue sideways.

IWYW,
— Aswad.




Powergamz1 -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/24/2013 6:30:19 PM)

That display of projection isn't going to change reality one bit. You've refused to address the points, resorting to forgery, name calling, and evasion throughout this thread, and you are still doing it with this flounce.

Prove your assertions about power and rape, or admit that this is simply a game.


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ORIGINAL: Aswad

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ORIGINAL: Powergamz1

As I predicted, strawmen arguments.


As I told you elsewhere, I'm not interested in your drivebys. Whenever I address your points or ask you to back them up, you ignore it and do another driveby muckflinging elsewhere. That's not constructive, and it's not going anywhere, so just let me know when you're interested in actually discussing things, or stop wasting my time with these antics.

IWYW,
— Aswad.






FelineRanger -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/24/2013 7:00:40 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Powergamz1

Prove your assertions about power and rape, or admit that this is simply a game.



Maybe that's all this is. Asking a direct question and then avoiding the direct answers or twisting those answers so far out of shape as to be unrecognizable sounds disturbingly like some of the same "reasoning" skills demonstrated by the rapists that I did time with.

@ Aswad - How many different ways does it have to be said that rape really is only about power?




Aswad -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/24/2013 10:54:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Powergamz1

You've refused to address the points, resorting to forgery, name calling, and evasion throughout this thread, and you are still doing it with this flounce.


I've already addressed your allegations of forgery, and you refused to respond to that. I've no idea what you're talking about as regards name calling, unless you're referring to your own namecalling (pro-rapists comes to mind). Evasion remains your province, not mine. If you care to address any of that, this can go somewhere.

Failing that, as I already said, just stop wasting my time.

IWYW,
— Aswad.




Aswad -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/24/2013 11:08:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FelineRanger

Maybe that's all this is. Asking a direct question and then avoiding the direct answers or twisting those answers so far out of shape as to be unrecognizable sounds disturbingly like some of the same "reasoning" skills demonstrated by the rapists that I did time with.


I've already asked you questions about the rapists you did time with, as well as about your own experiences, but haven't received an answer.

The behavior you're describing isn't the behavior I'm known for on this board.

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@ Aswad - How many different ways does it have to be said that rape really is only about power?


You can say it as many ways as you like. What would be interesting, is proof that it's the best analysis. From where I'm standing, power is redundant in the analysis of rape, and from my perspective, rape is far more serious than something that's just about power. By all means, if you can show me that power is the best way to view it, do so.

I bowed out for a reason: once I realized what you mean by "rape is about power", I also realized I have nothing to add in your frame of reference, although I'm happy to hear more of how you're thinking, and to consider the possibility that you may be right (but you'll need to show me). A good starting point might be to reply to my questions to you, posed earlier in this thread.

IWYW,
— Aswad.




Powergamz1 -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/25/2013 7:02:03 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Aswad
<SNIP>
I bowed out for a reason: once I realized what you mean by "rape is about power", I also realized I have nothing to add in your frame of reference, although I'm happy to hear more of how you're thinking, and to consider the possibility that you may be right (but you'll need to show me). A good starting point might be to reply to my questions to you, posed earlier in this thread.
— Aswad.



Except that your position throughout this thread has been that the act of rape has *nothing to do with power*.
You've stated that over and over. You extended that to claim that the act of being arrested by the police had no component of power whatsoever. When called on that assertion, you changed your claim to the vague idea of law enforcement in general being part of the social contract, not power.

You even went as far as claiming that your country's rape laws did not have the element of force in them. When called on that, you threw a name calling tantrum, and simply denied that you posted the words you posted.

Out of the multiple people who have asked you multiple times to prove your assertion that the act of rape has nothing to do with power, or to explain why you are using the word power in an entirely different manner from everyone else, you haven't responded honestly to a single one.

This latest tactic or pretending that you said rape wasn't 'useful' to understanding the motives is simply a smokescreen.

You can pretend that no one has answered you questions, you can pretend that you didn't post what you posted, and you can keep flouncing away by refusing to back up your assertions, you can declare high minded secret motives that no one but you could possibly hold... None of that is going to change the reality about rape.

What is left is the appearance that claiming rape has nothing to do with an imbalance of power between rapist and victim, is simply another version of 'you can't rape the unwilling'... an appearance that you've expended thousands of words trying to uphold.




OrionTheWolf -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/25/2013 9:46:49 AM)

I see assertions from you but I do not perceive what you do from Aswad. Maybe you could snip some quotes or links as to what you are referring to.




UllrsIshtar -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/25/2013 10:01:19 AM)


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ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf

I see assertions from you but I do not perceive what you do from Aswad. Maybe you could snip some quotes or links as to what you are referring to.


Ditto




calamitysandra -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/25/2013 11:21:02 AM)

Add me to the list.

I perceived Aswad as stating that power is not the only, and often not the most useful motivator of rape to analyse if you are looking for ways to lessen the incidence of rape.

Nowhere did I read him as stating that rape has nothing to do with power. He is just saying that other factors might be more important in the analysis.

For the record, I agree with him.
Stating that all rape is about power is making a simplistic blanket judgement.




Powergamz1 -> RE: Is rape about power? (5/25/2013 1:34:13 PM)

These are in response to multiple posters who were pointing out the same concept, that the act of raping someone else, in every category... gunpoint, drugs, children, elderly, spousal, is exercising some actual form of power over the victim from a position of perceived superordinate status.
Analyzing the way power facilitates rape is a valid premise.

These responses clearly deny the premise that power is a factor, an assertion that remains unsupported by anything remotely factual.

If anyone else would like to support the claim that rape doesn't involve power, or power isn't useful in analyzing rape and rape culture, please go for it.


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Everything possible boils down to power, so why should sex be any different?

The central question is whether it's a particularly useful analysis.

Around here, teaching people about consent helps.

Stranger rape is, after all, a rare thing.
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The vintage misogyny of ascribing such boundless power to the penis, and none to its passive receptacles(!), never ceases to amaze and disgust me.
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That premise is the same for every crime: someone had the ability to do something (i.e. power), and (ab)used it.

I'm not sure how it's particularly meaningful to analyse it in those terms.
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How is throwing power in there anything but a needless multiplication of entities?

One person engages in sexual activity without the consent of the other party, that's rape; why do you need power in there, too?
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I still say life is about power. Nothing I've read on this thread says to me otherwise. Whether it is agriculture, cultivating the stock on hand, technology, stock markets, etc., it is about humans imposing their will on the environment.

The question is: does that perspective afford us any insights on how to live, on how to wield power, on the motives for abuses of power, on how we get from A to Z?

Does this perspective indeed do anything but throw out there the idea that men are powerful and women powerless?

Because I don't think that's a particularly helpful or empowering idea, nor even necessarily a correct one.
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ORIGINAL: Powergamz1

The legal definition of rape contains the element of 'force, actual or constructive', which is clearly about power.



Aswad: Where you live, perhaps. Here, it's sexual acts without consent.
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Original Aswad (In response to njlauren repeating 'rape is about power'):

Anyway, I still don't see how this differs from any other human endeavour. Power is being able to act. Imposing our will is what our existence as human beings is based on. It's how and why we no longer hunt and gather in Africa. Rape seems pointless to me to single out as 'the activity that's about power', when all human activities are about power on some level, analysed in that manner. Particularly
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Regardless of rape altogether, and without the assumption that it's got anything to do with power...
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How does a statement take away power?

I know of no form of power that is so flimsy that a simple statement negates it.
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But these were already self-evident before throwing power into the mix, and become more obscure and doubtful with power in the mix?


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The sexual integrity of the victim is no longer seen either as a causal or mitigating factor, an issue of tremendous importance not only in the legal process prosecuting and punishing rapists, but also in the victim's recovery from her/his violation.


Excellent. I'm still not seeing how power as a model contributed, though.
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