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thishereboi -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/25/2013 8:37:55 AM)

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Have you been ripped off or something you sound bitter lol
I don't know ANY dommes who have slept with their sub. A gold digger sleeping with a footballer. Yeah heard of that lol Marrying for half. Heard of that lol sleeping with some cash pig. Ah no.


I know a lot of dommes that sleep with their subs. I even know some that got married. I find it hard to believe they don't across the pond.



thishereboi -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/25/2013 8:46:51 AM)


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ORIGINAL: evesgrden

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there are a shit load of people out there who cook for free, does that mean you never go out to eat and pay someone else to cook for you? What about sports? Lots of people play ball for the fun of it, does that mean we should stop pro sports? And what makes you think the only enjoyment they get is from the cash? Have you ever met a pro domme or a fin domme? Why is it that people have no problems with paying others to do all kinds of shit for them, but when it comes to this suddenly it should be free?




The only real issue I've seen here with findommes is that guys are shocked when they find they have to pay. They figure they're looking at a social website with personals, not pay for play. When you go to a restaurant you bring your wallet expecting to pay, but when you're invited to someone's home it's a bit of a shock when they want you to have the groceries delivered to them before they'll tell you where they live.



This isn't a house I was invited to visit. It's an internet website and since it's free and there is no verification process, common sense would tell you there might be less than honest types here. There is a report feature for the obvious scams yet I doubt most of the people who bitch about profiles bother to use it. I see the little princess profiles scroll by every time I log on. They are so obviously written by spoiled little brats who think that they are somehow entitled to free shit because they were born with a pussy. Why anyone who is looking for a relationship would spend more than 20 seconds looking at them amazes me. And if they are shocked when they find out they have to pay they obviously didn't read the profile too well. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out if they are looking for "pay piggies" and want to "rape your wallet" there will probably be some money involved.



Englishrose24 -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/25/2013 3:24:47 PM)


Lol brilliant.
Enough already


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cloudboy -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/25/2013 5:23:51 PM)

Women don't appreciate men sucking money out of them for favors. Men have mixed feelings (mostly negative) about findoms.

If you are in the findom game, you can expect some hostility, derision, and name calling.



WebWanderer -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/25/2013 7:54:00 PM)

Tried it once, for a year. She was brilliant. I was lonely. We were great. Her boyfriend got jealous. She lied. Things fell apart. Hearts got broken. Never again.



slavedavid01 -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/25/2013 8:21:51 PM)

This thread is dumb, in my opinion. Why or how could anyone explain the appeal of a fetish to someone who is not into it? And why would anyone who does have a fetish be critical of somebody else's fetish? Some of us have no idea why certain things turn us on... they just do. The only thing that is really important is that the activity is between consenting adults. If that criterion is met, what ever floats your boat. I don't have a foot fetish, but if women's feet turn some guys on, great. I personally get turned on by being bossed around by women, I don't know why. This includes them ordering me to give them money or gifts. In fact, the more outrageous the command the bigger the turn on it is for me.

The only drawback I see is that because women get money the fetish can attract women who are not really into domination at all but are only playing a part for money. When I have detected that a woman is simply playing a role for me I began to lose interest and have sought out another because I don't like to feel like I'm the one in control. I want a domme who will do the things that I want but will be doing them because she is into it and not just performing for money. That's why it sometimes takes a while to find the right domme.



Englishrose24 -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/26/2013 3:54:08 AM)

Pointless response to the OP lol

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ORIGINAL: cloudboy

Women don't appreciate men sucking money out of them for favors. Men have mixed feelings (mostly negative) about findoms.

If you are in the findom game, you can expect some hostility, derision, and name calling.




PeonForHer -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/26/2013 5:42:50 AM)

FR

Overall, I've come to the conclusion that I don't think anything, anymore, about FinDommes. Actually, I thought the subject to death a long time ago.



MissKittyDeVine -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/26/2013 8:16:35 AM)

I'm not really worried about what subs think of me and Findom.

Either they are into it, in which case all well and good. Or they are not into it, in which case we don't cross each other's paths and all well and good. Negative opinions don't affect me.



PrincessDonna11 -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/26/2013 5:24:32 PM)

As stated earlier it is more like a job if one is a true Domme, you are responsible to see that a subs basic needs are met when you demand that responsibility. I have done it and some have worked and some haven't, always though in a relationship. I have totally taken control over someones finances and have had to pay back bills because they had allowed their credit to get so bad. It worked out because that person did pay all the bills and I contacted the businesses he owned and set up payment plans. At some other time I allowed the sub to control his own money but knowing what he was responsible for and he ended up not paying light bills while trying to wine and dine me and without my knowledge, really?



JeffBC -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/26/2013 6:39:03 PM)

~fast reply~
In loose terms Carol would see it is entirely not applicable to anything she was interested in. She wanted a husband who happened to be socially dominant. The tribute she gave me was "her".

Carol is very experiential so I doubt she'd spend a lot of time wondering whether it was a "legitimate kink" or "prostitution" or any other conceptual category. If she gave it much thought at all she'd probably be curious at the experience level... "so what's a day in the life look like?"



imtempting -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/31/2013 6:30:11 AM)

I think its a form of prostitution. (@ the mods, they asked for our opinions, good or bad they need to accept it).



MissKittyDeVine -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/31/2013 7:55:03 AM)

But you are not supposed to criticise the kinks of others here. And the idea that findoms are just prostitutes has been thoroughly refuted many a time. You don't like findom, well nobody is forcing you to engage in it. Chacun a son gout.



MariaB -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/31/2013 8:16:22 AM)

The title of this thread is called 'What do subs think of FinDommes?' and you are saying that people can answer so long as they don't critizise ?!? What the hell is going on with this site that we can no longer debate unless its in a fin dommes favour [8|]



freedomdwarf1 -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/31/2013 8:57:27 AM)

FR~

Both the OH and I feel that taking/accepting money or 'gifts'/tributes for sexual favours in no different to prostitution.
I don't care how the findommes argue the point - it's really no different.

Even if you try to draw the very fine line between what is sexual and what is not (ie, physical sex, intimate touching etc), one or other of the parties are gaining some sort of sexual pleasure from such arrangements.
To us, that's prostitution; plain and simple.




solenves -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/31/2013 9:04:32 AM)

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This being said, you could say my Master is a fin-Dom as he manages my money/spending. We are in a full-blown owned relationship and engaged to be married.


This is an example of a healthy fin-dom relationship.



igor2003 -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/31/2013 9:24:42 AM)


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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

FR~

Both the OH and I feel that taking/accepting money or 'gifts'/tributes for sexual favours in no different to prostitution.
I don't care how the findommes argue the point - it's really no different.

Even if you try to draw the very fine line between what is sexual and what is not (ie, physical sex, intimate touching etc), one or other of the parties are gaining some sort of sexual pleasure from such arrangements.
To us, that's prostitution; plain and simple.




I agree as well. And to those that use the, “Well, it’s between consenting adults” argument, I want to say that to me it isn’t much different than the contractor that convinces someone that they need to reroof their house even when it is not needed. Both parties might “agree”, but that doesn’t make it right. It is unscrupulous to take someone’s money or gifts, “just because you can”, even if they agree to it.

Also, I see a big difference between managing or controlling someone’s finances, and taking someone’s finances. Perhaps there needs to be separate designations rather than to try to lump everything under the one heading of “findomme”.



freedomdwarf1 -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/31/2013 10:06:22 AM)

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ORIGINAL: solenves

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This being said, you could say my Master is a fin-Dom as he manages my money/spending. We are in a full-blown owned relationship and engaged to be married.


This is an example of a healthy fin-dom relationship.

I totally disagree.

That's a good description of most engagements and mariages where (usually) one partner controls most things.
And, FWIW, under UK law, benefits, tax brackets/allowances etc are deemed to belong to only one member of a partnership whether you're actually married or not.

I don't call that findom at all - it's a normal healthy relationship.



MissKittyDeVine -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/31/2013 11:55:13 AM)

I'm not saying it. THE SITE is saying it. I quote from the forum guidelines:

This isn't a place to insult the kinks, preferences, lifestyles, etc. of others.

Findoms have repeatedly given cogent arguments on many threads why they consider findom to be a legitimate kink. Who are you or anyone to tell us otherwise?

Saying that you have concerns is debate. Calling us prostitutes is not.

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ORIGINAL: MariaB

The title of this thread is called 'What do subs think of FinDommes?' and you are saying that people can answer so long as they don't critizise ?!? What the hell is going on with this site that we can no longer debate unless its in a fin dommes favour [8|]



TNDommeK -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (8/31/2013 12:27:47 PM)

It's just something that makes people feel better about the particular kink they don't like.

Although, I agree with freedom on this..anyone accepting cash or gifts for sexual favors, yes that is prostitution.
However, a fin Domme, one who dominates finances, is not. FOR ME, sexuality doesn't play a part in the financial aspect. It's simply ME being in control of your money and spending habits.



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