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seekingreality -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 5:11:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain But when push came to shove he did what his heart commanded him to do to show me he truly cared. That is how he won his place in my life. How he won my respect. And how he won my love. If you want a lady to love you. To make you part of her world. That is what you need to give her. Personally, I wouldn't respect a domme who asked for money and wouldn't want her in my life. But that's me. If a woman required money in any form to spend time with me, I would be out the door or pushing the delete button on my computer in two seconds. To me a findomme is just another pro domme. If that's what you want, fine. But I wouldn't make a pretense it was anything but a commercial transaction.

MissImmortalPain -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 5:30:15 PM)
Poppy cock. If he takes me to dinner he is spending time with me......is that tangible? If I go toe to toe with him and get in his face to tell him that lottery tickets are, at best, a poor use of his money....is that tangible? If I stay up for six hours talking to him the night his dog dies...is that a tangible object? Shaking your tits in someones face is not tangible and if it is then, oh my, every net whore online needs to start getting paid. Or is that your really issue? Are you talking about findommes that only work online? You do know many of us know our subs in the real world don't you? You do know some of us even refuse to do online domming....don't you?

PeonForHer -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 5:33:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl There are many industries built around a intangible products. I just know I'm going to have a horny dream tonight about lots of tiny women building some kind of industrial edifice around my erect penis. Thank you for that comment, TG.[:)]

MissImmortalPain -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 5:35:07 PM)
I don't see how anything I said has to do with what you just said but.....good for you. If you know what is needed to make you happy than seek out what makes you happy. Everyone should do that. And everyone should stop judging others for doing it.

tazzygirl -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 6:04:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl There are many industries built around a intangible products. I just know I'm going to have a horny dream tonight about lots of tiny women building some kind of industrial edifice around my erect penis. Thank you for that comment, TG.[:)] What is up with all the flirting men on the boards?????

PeonForHer -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 6:13:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl What is up with all the flirting men on the boards????? You saw that as a flirt? Now I'm beginning to realise why I get into trouble so often . . . .

tazzygirl -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 6:17:08 PM)
lol..... you are cute!

PeonForHer -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 6:29:29 PM)
Eh? What? How? All I do is joke! Hell, I wish I could manage that kind of cute in RT.

tazzygirl -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 6:31:49 PM)
I bet you do just fine RT.

TNDommeK -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 6:44:50 PM)
I've never gotten sexually aroused by gifts or money. I get sexually aroused when I fuck my hubby...or watch true blood ;) MIP, I've always wanted to know, what the hell is KIK?

TheLilSquaw -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 6:50:16 PM)
In a way I have gotten sexual gratification from gifts from my fin subs/ Often times those gifts are toys of various sorts. That do indeed bring me sexual gratification. Does me getting a general gift make my toes girl. Not on it's own.

LadyPact -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 7:52:50 PM)
Skipping the fact that I honestly think this thread is a ploy, either to drive traffic to the blog or for the OP to get other findommes to "share their experiences" because a month ago she didn't know what she was doing, I do have a question for the experienced findommes on the thread that may or may not constitute a problem....... (One hell of a run on sentence there. I apologize for that.) Don't you kind of get sick of explaining yourselves over and over and over? Have any of you considered making a word document of some of the standard answers about this kink to save yourself a few keystrokes? It seems like a lot of it is just repeated from one thread to the next. Have any of you considered some time saving options?

TNDommeK -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 8:13:57 PM)
Omg, I think tat all the time. I do get tired of explaining myself to each person who feels m a jobless leech.

MissImmortalPain -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 9:45:02 PM)
It is a phone app chat.

TNDommeK -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 9:48:53 PM)
Ah ok. I see a lot of that. Thanks.

MissImmortalPain -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 9:54:22 PM)
To be honest, LP, I don't explain myself to anyone but if you want to talk the mods into making a sticky about findomming I'm sure me and a few of the other ladies could get together and write something up for them. There would of course, be the issue that finndomming is not the same for everyone just like everything else in bdsm varie from person to person.

LafayetteLady -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 10:02:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: evesgrden quote: I can't speak for anyone but myself, but money exchanging hands is such a small part of what FD really is. Then why call it findomme at all? If it's really such a small piece, if money is not the core or motivation for the relationship why is it even noteworthy? Many dominants control the finances of their slaves or submissives but wouldn't dream of considering their relationship to be financial in nature. Color me simple but it seems to me that if there's no green or gifts going to the dominant then it's a no-go. Everything else is negotiable, but that part is not. Ok, I'm responding as I read, so if one of our respected FDs' have answered this already, I apologize. Allison said that money EXCHANGING HANDS is a small part of being an FD. Do you not understand that there are many ways to financially dominate someone that don't involve them giving their money to you? This makes them giving you money or gifts a small part of FD. What is wrong with people that I am actually among those who "gets it" (with respectable FDs', not duck lips, although I really get that, lol) and explaining it? ETA: I had mistakenly credited K with the quote about it being a small part of FD, instead of Allison. My apologies to both.

LafayetteLady -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 10:05:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: seekingreality quote: ORIGINAL: Hollyucinogen I apologize in advance for the double-post - I originally posted this in the wrong section ('Ask a Mistress'), and I can't figure out how to delete it. I'm not sure if anybody cares about this sort of thing, but I made a new blog on Tumblr called 'Findom Problems' - basically, each photo depicts a problem that FinDommes (and Dommes in general) experience during the course of their normal D/s day. It's meant to be funny and relatable to Dommes everywhere, but it's also meant as a way for us be able to air our grievances, support one another, and offer advice. I would really love it if, for those of you who run Tumblr blogs as well, you would consider making some submissions to the page, so that I can represent a wider range of experiences; at this point, the only point of view being expressed is my own. Here's the link: http://findomproblems.tumblr.com/ Thank you! I'd change it to life of a findomme and mix in some positive stuff; nothing but complaints is tiresome. I'd prefer to have the vinnettes fleshed out with details and real personality. They read like Chinese fortune cookies. If you're going to go that style, they need to be funnier or something. Too generic right now. If you're trying to communicate how a findomme is different than a pro domme, you're not doing that for me. Your complaints seem like either (1) the general complaints everyone encounters online or (2) stuff that any pro domme would encounter as part of the cost of doing business. If the OP had more than like 3 months experience as an FD, I might agree with you. However, since she posted on another thread how she was new to this and "looking to learn" (read not do the work herself). She doesn't have the experience to start a blog about anything other than LEARNING how to be an FD. Anything else she says she sorely lacks the experience and knowledge to speak about. THAT is what pisses me off about her whole "blog" bullshit.

LafayetteLady -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 10:08:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain snort Okay, I tried to be nice about this but now Collarme is a findom problem too? < That is funny. At best by saying that you have pointed out that some finsubs do actually read the forums and might not take to well to some fin "doms" bitching about how hard things are. I understand that you are new(ish) to this but complaining about websites isn't very "dominant" and such things might explain why a few others in the community might take issue with you. I see it more as this site being a problem because everyone didn't jump in to compliment her on her being able to pinpoint all the problems with being an FD in her approximately 3 months trying to figure out how to do it. Just another way of "flouncing." Who has that Flounce Bingo Card?

tazzygirl -> RE: Findom Problems (6/5/2013 10:53:26 PM)
Its become a problem here because we are smart enough to realize that some arent truly findommes, but scammers. They run the gambit from "Tribute me if you can" to This ... and everything in between. What kind of domme sets out to financially ruin anyone? And now they expect me to know what form of financial dominantion they are into? Yeah, that aint happening any time soon.

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