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chatterbox24 -> RE: Dom is different (6/15/2013 8:50:22 AM)
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
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ORIGINAL: tammystarm
Totally unrealistic considering we are on a site for kinks. Cheating isn't a kink. Therein lies the difference.
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So my vegan friends would disown me for eating chicken, my friends who don't believe we should be populating the earth any more than it already is who banish me for being a mommy, my Catholic friends would pray for my eternal soul while banning from their sight for being a different religion... Blaah blaah If they felt strongly enough about it....yes.
I have called off a friendship with someone that was cheating. Because it meant that they weren't the person that I thought they were. She was willing to sacrifice her family to have sex with someone else rather than dealing with her problems. I didn't want to be a part of it.
Actually cheating could be defined as a kink. I don't condone cheating, I did it. I also came clean to my husband, who agreed to let me see my dom, to make me happy. I also after much thought don't condone that either. I stopped that. He didn't stop it, the dom didn't stop it, I did. Married, is married, is married. Vows are vows. One can try to make certain things ok in all kinds of ways in their mind, but basically if one is married, and is having sex beyond their marriage whether with consent or not, it is still cheating. I would call that not working on the problem. I would also call it, I am bored with my wife or husband so I go get my jollies elsewhere. If one is getting sex outside of their marriage, I don't care how one tries to label it or spice up the truth. The fact is if someone is added to the relationship, boredom as set in, the spouse is not fulfilling and instead of working on THAT PROBLEM, one or both go outside the marriage. Lovely words of understanding, cloaking truths, makes it beautiful? IT is laughable to me when another sits on a supposed moral high horse, when their condition is not even moral. Ludicrious. Keep preaching it, but it will never be true.
DId the relationship always need additons, or did that come later? hmmmm. points to ponder.
What a good friend, who sits in judgement. When troubles arise, they leave their friends side. Blah. Was this suppose to be impressive?
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder
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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24
I think this has happened before, a long time ago. A really long time ago. People don't have to agree, but there is a difference between judging & bashing, and guidance and steering. ITs perfectly okay to tell someone I do not agree with your actions, but to bash them is not right. Using the internet as an excuse to simply disregard there is a person on the other side, is no excuse at all.
The only human who should throw stones are those who have lived a perfectly moral life, and there isn't one person on the face of this earth, who can say that. And if there was a human who could say it, they would chose not to throw stones.
People make mistakes. People made decisions yesterday they would not make today. What one person learns at 20 another is taught at 40. People do change too.
I admit I don't just judge but I bash some people, especially those who cheat on their spouses. To me the only thing lower than someone who cheats on their spouse is pedos. If someone doesn't want to hear the bashing then either don't cheat or don't tell others. But you wanna do something so well....horrible is too nice a word but if I said what I think I would either get a gold letter or be called a Christian bigot or something similar. [8|]
When people speak the truth, whether good or bad, they do out themselves out there to be judged. I see a lot of bitterness and uncalled for remarks many times. When I came here for the first time, I did go crazy on people, and they got exactly everything they said I was as they said it. Did I do it because I was the devils spawn? NO I did it because I acted like the person I was labeled as. I felt like a whipping post. I imagine you know how that feels, right? SInce you admittingly use your body as one. I find that horrible. I find it horrible that someone has lost themselves so much, they have to have someone think for them too.
If we are ranking cheaters and pedophiles in the same group, lets add loss of self and abuse to body to it.
No bashing here, no judgment, just stating my opinion in a very outward way. Lets see how well it is received. I should get thankful responses maybe? Surely one should be thankful for this direct opinion and view.
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