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littlewonder -> RE: Do the rules of dating apply to the lifestyle (6/9/2013 4:04:43 PM)
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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl
“Busy' is another word for 'asshole'. 'Asshole' is another word for the guy you're dating.”
“I’m about to make a wild, extreme, and severe relationship rule: THE WORD "BUSY" IS A LOAD OF CRAP AND IS MOST OFTEN USED BY ASSHOLES. The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. Remember: Men are never too busy to get what they want.”
“The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. It seems like a good excuse, but in fact, in every silo you uncover, all you’re going to find is a man who didn’t care enough to call. Remember: Men are never too busy to get what they want.”
If he's using it all the time, yup. True. Master used to do this a lot when we first got together until one day I confronted him with it and told him I needed more time with him and I felt he was ignoring me. He said he hadn't even realized it because he was really, truly busy and he was having a difficult time making room in his life for everything. It was at this point he realized he had to make time or our relationship would end. Now we make it a point to ALWAYS make time for each other. At the moment, since we both started new jobs, we're feeling the "busy" thing happening again and neither of us are happy at all about it and we're still trying to figure out how to make more time. So yeah...if he's doing it all the time and doesn't see it as a problem, then yup....asshole.
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“Here's something else to think about: calling when you say you're going to is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he can't lay this one stupid brick down, you ain't never gonna have a house baby, and it's cold outside.”
Yup again. Again, Master did this a few times until I encountered him about it. It kinda upset him that he was doing it and from that point on he makes it a point to not do it anymore. Of course, there are those times when he still says it but something comes up and he can't call or text me right away but it doesn't happen that often anymore and we've been together long enough that I know when something has happened and it's why he hasn't contacted me. We just have that connection now.
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“A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves”
It depends. What are you asking him for? What do you want from him? If you're acting like a princess or an obnoxious and bossy girlfriend, then imo, he should be telling you how it is instead of trying to give you everything and running himself into the ground because of it. And why is it all on him? She should be doing the same...giving him her all. It takes two.
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“Don’t spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you”
This I agree with and the same goes for her. Both need to show their hearts to each other whether it be bad or good.
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“We (men) would rather lose an arm out a city bus window than tell you simply, “You’re not the one.” We are quite sure you will kill us or yourself or both—or even worse, cry and yell at us.”
Not true of all men. Master has zero problem with telling someone this if he has to. He feels that your emotions are owned by you, not him. The way you react is on you. Not him.
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“Don't you want the guy who'll forget about all the other things in his life before he forgets about you?”
Actually no. If he does that, what's happening to the rest of his life? I mean, if he's spending all his time thinking about me how is he paying his bills or making sure his mom and/or children are happy and healthy? What about work and friends? There's more than just me in his life.
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“If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.”
This is true.....unless you REALLY don't wanna be found. Then that's a whole nuther story. [:D]
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“And above all, if the guy you’re dating doesn’t seem to be completely into you, or you feel the need to start “figuring him out,” please consider the glorious thought that he might just not be that into you. And then free yourself to go find the one that is.”
True. Why waste your time. Move on.
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So, my question... for EVERYBODY (cus I dont believe in saying someone cant respond to a post)... do the rules of dating apply to lifestyle relationships?
Yes. Bdsm dating is no different from "vanilla" dating. The same rules apply....at least for me. I've never seen them as somehow different or separate. Dating is dating.
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