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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Yeah, I remember the Dommes and doggie sex thread. Something I mentioned there/then that I have said many times in other threads since. There are some folks, like Me, who are going to feel topics about their own sex lives too intimate and actually think them kind of rude. Some newer folks don't get that when coming to CM and thinking it's one big discussion of sex and don't get it when questions of that nature aren't received well. Any version of 'how do you like to fuck' or any version thereof isn't a question I'm going to answer at My local munch, either. I'm only likely to do it when there is a certain amount of familiarity with the person who has asked.

Maybe it's because I'm a prude or that I'm old fashioned. I just honestly don't have that many guys who walk up to Me on the street or at a kink party and ask Me about My sex life. Some people think that it's different because it's the net. I don't honestly feel that way.

That was you making the topic about you and your personal sex life. Still is, by the looks of it.... You made about half a dozen posts in it without word one being on topic. Did a fine job of disrupting and derailing but.... And yeah, you had friends there with similar feelings but you're completely ignoring those Dommes who hadn't the least problem contributing in a positive manner.

And it was never meant to be a discussion about intimate physical details but of respective head-space for the participants. That'd be because I've often referred to doggie-sex as being a "power position" for the male - of heightened physical control. And btw, something I've noticed you've posted about since when discussing strap-ons! Eh?

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And in 9 years of predominantly coming to CM for the discussion forums, you've got double my posts in less time and tazzy's got 5 times yours again.

Which has what to do with it? Those of us who have or had crazy ass work schedules do post more often, particularly when it comes to night schedules. When insomnia hits Me, I post more. It's actually doubled because of being up through the night and dragging the next day because I'm trying to get My sleep schedule turned around. I say the same thing about it being the exact reason why I have a WOW account.

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And this "personal" bizzo, yeah, I don't like bullies and never have. I'm also familiar with and been the target of mob feeding frenzies on Internet Forums - here, bondage.com and the old bdsm-online. I'm not a turner of the other cheek and I won't run. And when 10 different posters have a dig at me, I don't feel obliged to type 10 replies to their individual one.

This part actually still surprises Me for some reason. I'm still at a loss to figure out how this works for you. I've never really taken you for the type that would be more concerned about telling people they are wrong when they are voicing their disagreement with unethical actions than you would be about cheating in a monogamous relationship. There's just something about it that doesn't make sense. I really don't see you as the type of person who would condone that behavior or that you'd be real big on lies in general. Not that it matters much on your end but I'd be somewhat disappointed to think I had been wrong on that.

No rocket science. The newbie OP's questionable morals doesn't excuse the behaviour of those feeding on it. That *everyone* is responsible for their own actions. I stayed out of the "cheating" bit in my original post because I don't particularly care what strangers get up to in their real life on the other side of the planet. A newbie asked a common newbie question; I gave her the common answer.

Cheating wasn't the topic or question she asked. Neither was her personal profile. What I did see was yet another newbie OP getting smashed by CM regulars. And a female getting smashed by the other females - without a (female) Mod in sight despite the blatant breach of the TOS.

Sooooo, how many golden emails did you get back in "Doms & Doggie Sex"? I noted none of your posts got pulled, so there's a clue right there....

Not saying there's any clique or mob mentality over in "Ask a Mistress", but it's gotta be a really slow night for me to bother looking in there anymore.

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The "grow and thrive" argument is a complete strawman when it comes in relation specifically to the site. This place achieves growth no matter what happens here.

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Not an issue, man. However, I don't exactly see you reserving your opinion entirely on things that you think are "wrong". The gun debate happens to be one of those things for you. Fair enough. For Me, cheating is one of those things. Dishonesty is one of those things where people make a conscientious choice to do right or wrong. I'm not cool with looking the person in the mirror if I don't call it where I see it.

Hmmmm, didn't think it necessary to tell anyone here that I'm opinionated and forthright with it, too.... You didn't know?

Focus.

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

Ma'am?

No, boy, dont worry your pretty lil head about it. We both know the answers.

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ORIGINAL: Focus50
That was you making the topic about you and your personal sex life. Still is, by the looks of it.... You made about half a dozen posts in it without word one being on topic. Did a fine job of disrupting and derailing but.... And yeah, you had friends there with similar feelings but you're completely ignoring those Dommes who hadn't the least problem contributing in a positive manner.

And it was never meant to be a discussion about intimate physical details but of respective head-space for the participants. That'd be because I've often referred to doggie-sex as being a "power position" for the male - of heightened physical control. And btw, something I've noticed you've posted about since when discussing strap-ons! Eh?

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It has to do with poor formatting. It was originally in with your next quote, the "Active" is relative" bit - the part you agree with. Not sure why I moved it around now but it takes a lot for me to have that CM "edit" stamp appear on one of my posts.

The other thing is that I generally put quite a bit into my posts - very few one liners. That occupies time - lotsa time, like this post.

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No rocket science. The newbie OP's questionable morals doesn't excuse the behaviour of those feeding on it. That *everyone* is responsible for their own actions. I stayed out of the "cheating" bit in my original post because I don't particularly care what strangers get up to in their real life on the other side of the planet. A newbie asked a common newbie question; I gave her the common answer.

Cheating wasn't the topic or question she asked. Neither was her personal profile. What I did see was yet another newbie OP getting smashed by CM regulars. And a female getting smashed by the other females - without a (female) Mod in sight despite the blatant breach of the TOS.

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Not saying there's any clique or mob mentality over in "Ask a Mistress", but it's gotta be a really slow night for me to bother looking in there anymore.

Yeah, a lot of folks who don't appreciate that women won't answer their questions up to the posters expectation feel that way. We get the same thing when posters bitch that we won't feed into the fantasies that they want to talk about or various versions of wank fodder. Not saying that was your intent. Just saying it happens on that board on a regular basis. Heck, I'm actually still in favor of the suggestion to combine the Master and Mistress sections into one that would be labeled "Ask A Dominant". Separating the M-types doesn't make any sense if we don't feel the submissive section would need to be separated by gender. Of course, it might take the fun out of it for those who want to yell that females are answering on the Master board.

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They probably thought that at bdsm-online - long since dead and buried. And last time I was at bondage.com, that corpse was overdue for burying, too. Ok, maybe the site owners had issues outside of member's awareness - but neither was much fun to be as a newbie, either.

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And I wonder how many members here are just scammers or regulars with multiple accounts. Lol, I almost miss all the mail I was getting from Africans wanting to serve me....

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Hmmmm, didn't think it necessary to tell anyone here that I'm opinionated and forthright with it, too.... You didn't know?

Focus.

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I think Tazzygirl is right, this whole thing is personal for you.

I have never seen you this active.

Having a lot of attention is fun, right?

Attention?

Let's see, I once started a topic in "Ask a Mistress" called "Dommes and Doggie Sex".

In the fat threads, I've said how I'm not attracted to BBW's.

Had plenty to say to and about American gun-humpers over in P & R. (lol, the spell-check is suggesting gun 'hummers')

And in 9 years of predominantly coming to CM for the discussion forums, you've got double my posts in less time and tazzy's got 5 times yours again.

"Active" is relative - a matter of whether the boards have interesting topics. And I have phases where they simply don't, IMO. I also have the rare ability to 'X' out of a topic just because I've got nothing to add to the discussion.

And this "personal" bizzo, yeah, I don't like bullies and never have. I'm also familiar with and been the target of mob feeding frenzies on Internet Forums - here, bondage.com and the old bdsm-online. I'm not a turner of the other cheek and I won't run. And when 10 different posters have a dig at me, I don't feel obliged to type 10 replies to their individual one.
So yeah, there was a time when getting mobbed was stressful. You tell yourself how illogical that stress is since you only hafta switch off the screen and it's gone. But the logic is flawed - it's the damned mirror I can't switch off.

I've been at it too long for any mob pile-on to get to me. But that's not to say I don't have some empathy for newbie's getting subjected to it. As I said in one of those other threads, sites like CM grow and thrive on the back of their ability to attract new blood, not by becoming an elitist club of old stagers where any newbie better walk softly and generally keep their mouth shut.

Me, as long as ol' mate in the mirror says I'm within my own principles, conscience and beliefs etc, the biggest, loudest, most viral Internet mob is only firing blanks. Good luck to 'em with that.

Focus.

Not necessary to address them individually, because bitter, mean spirited, and hateful knows when its being called out. One post fits all. IF one has good intentions, they should feel no guilt.
Mob mentality is a pretty big term to use to for what happens sometimes, cliquey is probably more accurate. IF you sistas are feeling some loyalty and power in that kind of grouping, then keep spreading the love. (am I being sarcastic? maybe a tiny teeny bit) lol.

If your term "sistas", which I find offensive, refers to all the women who post with honesty, bluntness and no tolerance for whiny babies who cannot take replies that do not mirror their own perceptions, then your post is as ludicrous as the many overblown posts addressing mob mentality. I don't feel power or loyalty by posting, I am fine with my power in my real life and my loyalty is reserved for my family and real life friends who know me.

Additionally, how do you infer that anyone is bitter, mean spirited, hateful and guilty because they post?

I don't understand comments like yours....unless it is because of your own experiences with the forum, which like many others, even on this very thread, left you so scarred and unable to move on from being flamed, that you feel it necessary to jump on the "clique" bandwagon.

Ironic, isn't it?

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

If Mistress says you are pretty, you are pretty.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Heck, I'm actually still in favor of the suggestion to combine the Master and Mistress sections into one that would be labeled "Ask A Dominant". Separating the M-types doesn't make any sense if we don't feel the submissive section would need to be separated by gender. Of course, it might take the fun out of it for those who want to yell that females are answering on the Master board.

Lol, I posted this as part of a reply to sexyred a few days ago. In the thread that inspired this one:

"Case in point; this forum is headed "Ask a Master". Presumably this OP, or anyone asking a question in here, primarily seeks a male/dom perspective. Yeah, yeah, anyone's allowed to post blah blah.... But it sure ain't the male/doms kicking the shit out of this OP here and sending the thread viral. Mostly it's my point 2, the women dumping on their own. In "Ask a Master".... <shrugs>"

You won't find it there now (thanks Chi... lol) but, yeah, I'd really lurv it if all the dommes called the one place home, too! Woohoo!

Now obviously it'd be a slow forum (Ask a Master) if the women didn't contribute, and mostly I like that they do. 'Cept when they forget their visitor's manners like in that thread. (feel sure I won't get any flak for that comment)

But you're in favour of including probably the most inhospitable forum at CM (and I don't mean P & R) with us male doms? Yeah, good for the dommes, I s'pose.... And I'd almost forgotten about the average newbie male sub's proclivity for starting wank-fodder threads - we can share that, too?

Despite being full of generalisations tonight, I'm voting against.

Focus.

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And some said you werent trainable.

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Is that how you ask?

ETA~

rofl... ok.. enough of this.. even I cant pull this off any longer... but you did step into it all on your own.

Ha! You're not pulling anything off here cos I'm the one feeding you enough rope.

See, this is why I've often posted that, given some weird choice, I'd prefer a newbie sub to one who's experienced with others. The newbie would have the grace to not see the hammer about to drop, dammit...!

Bitch!

Focus.

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

Is that how you ask?

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rofl... ok.. enough of this.. even I cant pull this off any longer... but you did step into it all on your own.

Ha! You're not pulling anything off here cos I'm the one feeding you enough rope.

See, this is why I've often posted that, given some weird choice, I'd prefer a newbie sub to one who's experienced with others. The newbie would have the grace to not see the hammer about to drop, dammit...!

Bitch!

Focus.

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

lol.. yes... there is someone for everyone.. even the newbies

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ORIGINAL: Charles6682

How does the members of the "Lifestyle" define someone who is a "newbie" and someone who has some limited experience? I don't pretend to claim I have decades of experience at this as I am only a few decades old. But I don't think I would consider myself a "newbie" at this point either. This "journey" didn't start for me last night. This really has been a "lifelong" process for me ever since I was a kid. I didn't know there a "name" for how I felt back then but thanks to the internet, I realized what I was experiencing wasn't anything new. At 31 years old though, I am getting away from the "fetish only fantasies" and trying to move more into "real time". That for me would mean I would like to become more involved with the BDSM community by being of service or "volunteering" my time at the local BDSM club.