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OsideGirl -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 1:37:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goodgirlmary ? SO which is worse? It says a lot that you're asking which one is worse, rather than which one is better.

stef -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 1:37:29 PM)
I suppose that depends on what you mean by "worse" now, doesn't it?

goodgirlmary -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 1:40:46 PM)
Well one of these is the badder of the two? Yes? I suppose it is a matter of perspective, but if the one party is better than the other, than thats the one to go to. Im so flippingconfused. Miss old dom, really dont think Im capable of making such decisions.

goodgirlmary -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 1:45:12 PM)
Ok.i guess for me the better one would be safer and not require anything. Edit:i get it,need to go forward and whatever,but....I dont want a relationship.I dont want to commit to any group or involve myself in anything where I can suck back in too early. I want to be able to choose to participate in conversation, or choose to slink away unnoticed. Im a little noncommittal and,a little jaded.And it sucks to have no navigational abilities.It sucks to feel like a five year old in a candy store, confused small and totally dependent on strangers to help you get what you cant reach.. ....vent over lol but yeah. If my questions dont make sense it is because I dont know what to ask anymore.

Kana -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 2:06:54 PM)
Private are where things go down. Public tend to be chips, food and conversation, often at a restaurant or bar.

goodgirlmary -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 2:08:17 PM)
Ty .....so public is considered a munch?

OsideGirl -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 2:10:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goodgirlmary Ty .....so public is considered a munch? No. Munches are a vanilla gathering that are held at restaurants/coffee shops/bars. There are private play parties and "public" play parties. The public parties are put on by groups or play spaces like the Lair de Sade.

goodgirlmary -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 2:15:10 PM)
Play places? Ok a play party I know.proud of me,I actually knew something

OsideGirl -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 2:21:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goodgirlmary Play places? Ok a play party I know.proud of me,I actually knew something Larger cities can have play spaces that host parties, for instance The Lair in Los Angeles: http://www.lairdesade.com/main.php

goodgirlmary -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 3:06:25 PM)
And so that is like multiple people playing unprivately.got it

littlewonder -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 4:29:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: goodgirlmary Ty .....so public is considered a munch? No. Munches are a vanilla gathering that are held at restaurants/coffee shops/bars. There are private play parties and "public" play parties. The public parties are put on by groups or play spaces like the Lair de Sade. Kana has Lair De Sade envy :-(

OsideGirl -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 4:31:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: goodgirlmary Ty .....so public is considered a munch? No. Munches are a vanilla gathering that are held at restaurants/coffee shops/bars. There are private play parties and "public" play parties. The public parties are put on by groups or play spaces like the Lair de Sade. Kana has Lair De Sade envy :-( The Lair is very cool and Kane and Careena are awesome. There are other play spaces out here, but The Lair has the best atmosphere.

goodgirlmary -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 7:20:06 PM)
I looked at fetlife where they were complaining my area is a munch desert. But theres a monthly forty min away.so ill try it

LadyPact -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 7:24:48 PM)
Forty minutes to the closest munch is a cake walk.

goodgirlmary -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 7:28:22 PM)
Yeah, i just have to not chicken out. I figure worst case,I can sit by myself and then later approach if I want to

OsideGirl -> RE: submissive safety (6/18/2013 8:21:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goodgirlmary Yeah, i just have to not chicken out. I figure worst case,I can sit by myself and then later approach if I want to Contact the host/hostess of the munch and tell them you're new. They'll make sure that you're taken care of.

goodgirlmary -> RE: submissive safety (6/19/2013 3:32:57 AM)
Iguess....k one more weird question, do other people know that its a gathering of dirty people

RedMagic1 -> RE: submissive safety (6/19/2013 3:39:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goodgirlmary dirty people You're not allowed to shower for at least three days before you show up. The head of the munch takes a whiff of you, and if you don't stink, you're not allowed to stay. Then everybody puts on sweat-stained t-shirts that say "Dirty and Proud" and eats their lunch off the floor. Because we're all such dirty people.

goodgirlmary -> RE: submissive safety (6/19/2013 5:14:33 AM)
Lol. Look, I sit on church committees, regulation committees for a charity, and do a ton of volunteer projects including trauma counseling. I also have a career I care a ton about. I get Im overly cautious, but that being said, half of it is excuse due to him, and half of it is legit concern. Losing what Ive worked for is not an option.I miss him again. I hate having to think for myself, and protect myself. Sigh. I cant expect dioceses backing for work with children, and be like "oh yeah I completely want to act out slave fantasies". So again, now that were clear,do people outside of it understand or know what it is?

angelikaJ -> RE: submissive safety (6/19/2013 5:24:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goodgirlmary Lol. Look, I sit on church committees, regulation committees for a charity, and do a ton of volunteer projects including trauna counseling. I also have a career I care a ton about. I get Im overlycautious, but that being said, half of it is excuse due to him, and half of it is legit concern. Losing what Ive worked for is not an optionffb . I miss him again. I hate havingto think for myself, and protect myself. Sigh. I cant expect dioceses backing for work with children, and be like "oh yeah I completely want to act out slave fantasies". So again, now that were clear,do people outside of it understand or know what it is? No. Because it looks like a bunch of people having some sort of meeting. I want to also mention to you that with the popularity of that book kink has become rather chic and much more mainstream.

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