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ORIGINAL: cutiewithabootie

When I was younger, I was Sir-ing and Ma'am-ing. NOT because I was a kinky Minor but because my deep south raised mom would have killed me otherwise.

At the last munch I went to (am new here in my town) I said "excuse me ma'am" and tried to give a lady some money she dropped. Before O could even explain to her that I was trying to give her her money, she jumped down my throat about how she wasn't interested in dominating me, how I am NOT her submissive, and how did I even know whether she was a dominant lady?

I told her that I wasn't interested in being rude, I just wanted to give her the money she had dropped. It was honestly a reflex and I didn't know her name, so instead of a rude "hey lady! Yeah you!" I said excuse me ma'am. Good grief!

Thank you for your replies.
This tells me that maybe not everybody was raised quite the same way and maybe some of you felt more at ease with a more casual social setting.

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ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr

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ORIGINAL: shiftyw

I am younger (25)- and I feel this way. I'm also not a 24/7 submissive. BUT I can say- I think culture itself as a whole has lost a lot of it its formalities. I'm not bratty to my top, or anyone, unless they give me a good reason to be, but I'm also sure that for everyone I meet of an older generation than mine (within BDSM or outside of it) sees some things that I do to be rude or inappropriate (especially when it comes to how I dress and some of the opinions that I express openly), simply because I grew up in a different culture with rules that have shifted.

To some degree, this is spot-on.

I am almost 49 years old and when I was growing up, a teen-ager did not adress someone my age by first name. In fact, when I was growing up, we didn't address anyone by first name unless we were invited to do so. That simple. That has fallen by the wayside.

There's an over-all loosening of certain courtesies that used to be common place (and I think still should be).

When I meet someone in a professional setting and I'm introduced as: "Michael C _ _ _ _ _ _", it shocks me that someone half my age (and who wants me to be a customer) just takes it upon themselves to call me by first name. When I then ask: "How old are you?" (especially if I'm talking to a lady), I frequently get a very snarky: "Gentlemen don't ask a lady their age."

I do think there's some merit to "the times have changed" but then I ask you: have they always changed for the good?