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Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 4:54:12 AM   
Goldback


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Status: offline 		I realise this sounds a little weird, but... I need advice on how to rape someone.

My girlfriend is really into rape play, so we want to try it. We've talk about it, we have safewords and all that, so no need to worry there.

But I've never done it before, and it sounds hard. She's quite strong. It would be kind of embarrassing if I couldn't do it, you know? I could bring out the cuffs and ropes and stuff, but that feels like cheating. I think I can get as far as to get her clothes off and pin her down, but then I'm not sure. What would be a good position? Any other advice?
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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 5:57:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hold on a second. You're asking the wrong questions here.

First, has she ever done this, or is it just an unfulfilled fantasy?
Second, do you have a place selected for the scene? Is it secluded? Ideal is inside her house. Anything else, such as an apartment, will likely alert neighbors from the noise.

Whether or not that she's experienced and knows what she's doing, agree on a safeword. Don't use "No" or "Stop" because you want to have her be able to protest as part of the scene. If she's not experienced, be VERY alert during play to signs that she is panicked and needs to stop.

If all that's taken care of, role play. You're a local building inspector called to check out to verify no foundation issues. (That gives you a reason to have a bag full of rope, tape, etc.) Poke around the house a bit and then call her over to take a look at something. When she's looking at what you're pointing out, sneak behind her and grab her arms and cuff them.

Have fun and be safe!

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 6:18:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sound advice. But to clarify, we're not really thinking about roleplay. Maybe "rape play" isn't the best term? Anyway, she just wants to be able to fight back a bit, nothing more complicated. I'm not new to BDSM, but I've always done it with people who stayed still while I tied them up, so I'm a little unsure about the technique here.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 6:24:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		I've tried rape play 2 times 1 time with a girlfriend and 1 time with a stranger.

The first thing to think about is your script you have to plan it carefully, if you just doing it at home by yourself in your apartment or house, there is no danger to involve others, then you should not think so much of your script, but if you want to go outside and kidnap her and drag her home, then you need to plan some more, and when you plan remember that she must help with the planing and write it together by mail or txt on mobile.

I have used handcuffs both times, and if I were to do it again I would use handcuffs again why? because she will bite scratch and kick you

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 6:31:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		My advice is... If your currently unable to overpower your girlfriend... For christ sakes man! Join a gym or something!

I'm no wrestling expert... But it's not too difficult to pin a girl on the ground, If you get to that point, start ripping clothes off... voilà!

Err... I'm no raping expert either.
I don't want to be known as the rapey guy...

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 6:32:09 AM   
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Sound advice. But to clarify, we're not really thinking about roleplay. Maybe "rape play" isn't the best term? Anyway, she just wants to be able to fight back a bit, nothing more complicated. I'm not new to BDSM, but I've always done it with people who stayed still while I tied them up, so I'm a little unsure about the technique here.


Sounds like you're looking at what's usually called "consensual nonconsent" or "resistance play".

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 6:42:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		Be sure to assign a nonverbal cue for a safe word as well if you plan to gag her, or otherwise employ her mouth.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 6:42:59 AM   
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I'm no wrestling expert... But it's not too difficult to pin a girl on the ground, If you get to that point, start ripping clothes off... voilà!


LOL. I think even the smallest can be a handful if they choose to be. Tam is 4'9" and she tests her bindings with a strength one would not anticipate and it would be hard to pin her and tear clothes off if she decided to fight and focus on using her properly. Does the helpless girl in a steel cage scene count as "rape play?". In this scene she is helpless and although in heels and short skirt she has been in a cell (not cage, this thing is eight feet tall by four feet wide and deep) long enough to simply submit without fighting to the evil and perverted jailer who has her hands bound to the cell bars but of course her high heeled legs free to, be free. Yes.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 6:55:36 AM   
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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 6:56:36 AM   
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Sounds like you're looking at what's usually called "consensual nonconsent" or "resistance play".

Yeah, that.

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My advice is... If your currently unable to overpower your girlfriend... For christ sakes man! Join a gym or something!

I know... :P It's not that I can't overpower her, it's just that it sounds hard to do that and have sex at the same time. I can't get it in there if she keeps moving about.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 7:03:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Practice!

If this is her fantasy she's going to WANT you to get it in there, so I'm sure she'll work with you just enough to make it happen. You also don't need to go right for a knock-down fight first time round, you can build up to it and figure out what position works etc.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 7:09:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yer, try holding her down and giving her wet willys first. Till your ready to "free willy"
I'm serious... she will struggle haha. If your like me, forget the rape and progress to forced eyeball licking and beyond!

Mwa ha harr...

Eww, just read that back... I'm pretty gross now I think about it...

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 7:20:00 AM   
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Sit on her back and let her tire herself out...

She actually suggested that we time it, to see how fast I can do it... but I guess a few practice rounds should be okay.

And apparently she's not into eye licking. Who'd have thought.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 7:40:41 AM   
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but of course her high heeled legs free to, be free. Yes.



Free to kick the ever loving shit out of said jailer? Yes, yes ... I can see myself impaling a would be rapist's scrotum on the heel of my stiletto. Thanks for the tip!

Also, Aries ... I shall forever think of you as the "eye ball licking rapey guy". Thank you. <3

Edited because I suck at grammar.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 7:47:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		This has been an awesome thread to read. Everyone's replies made me giggle at times. (in a good and manly way. Lol)

I'd say that I understand the OPs issue with holding her down. In a real rape the attacker has the victims fear on his side. Here, deep down she knows he won't kill or maim her. so she may play fight too much to get the job done properly. And since the OPs lady wants to time the fight I don't think she is planning on submitting very fast.

So I suggest the op gets handcuffs. (they go on fast-you can cuff one wrist and then work the other.). As well as some rope and duct tape. I liked DarkStevens building inspector scene. All your props could be in a toolbox. But you need a "gun or a knife" to help take the fight out of her. Don't bother with a real gun. Instead use the evil flogger she fears and hates. Or a cane. Or... Something. After she's cuffed up. If she fights too much.. Pretend to get furious, grab your (gun/flogger) give her a few wacks and some sort of vulgar and threatening ultimatum.

My wife likes to be "forcefully taken" once in a while. I can't stress the need for the cuffs enough.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 7:47:33 AM   
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Yer, try holding her down and giving her wet willys first. and progress to forced eyeball licking and beyond!




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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 7:50:17 AM   
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I know... :P It's not that I can't overpower her, it's just that it sounds hard to do that and have sex at the same time. I can't get it in there if she keeps moving about.

Maybe get her into position, then pull out a butterknife and hold it to her throat and tell her in a menacing voice to stop resisting or else.

If she can't see the knife, but can feel cold steel on her neck, she's got some sensations, even if she knows ahead of time you'll be using a knife without an edge.

That's what I would do anyway. Demonstrate I could overpower her, then threaten her so she became docile.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 7:52:28 AM   
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I know... :P It's not that I can't overpower her, it's just that it sounds hard to do that and have sex at the same time. I can't get it in there if she keeps moving about.

Maybe get her into position, then pull out a butterknife and hold it to her throat and tell her in a menacing voice to stop resisting or else.

If she can't see the knife, but can feel cold steel on her neck, she's got some sensations, even if she knows ahead of time you'll be using a knife without an edge.

That's what I would do anyway. Demonstrate I could overpower her, then threaten her so she became docile.


Great idea. You may want to put the knife in the freezer for a half hour beforehand to heighten the sensation.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 7:53:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam


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Yer, try holding her down and giving her wet willys first. and progress to forced eyeball licking and beyond!




Pervert

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deliriuminabox,
Also, Aries ... I shall forever think of you as the "eye ball licking rapey guy". Thank you. <3

I wont lie I have dabbled in the odd bit of raping and eye licking here and there but they're definitely not my specialities.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/21/2013 7:56:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		What you are considering is a form of resistance play. This is a very common fantasy that many couples feel comfortable acting out.

I understand you have some concerns, the first of which, what if she's stronger than you? Well, there's only one way to find that out. I doubt she is, unless she's close to you in size and muscle mass. There are ways you can use your body to advantage even if she is larger, as a small person I know how to use my body mass. Do you know how to use yours? This is the kind of thing you'd learn in wrestling, but if you haven't, you know you two can always 'practice.'

Another concern you may have is of taking the wrestling too far and hurting her in ways you didn't intend. In this type of play, that's always going to be a risk. Safe words are nice, but will never take the place of a dominant paying very close attention to his/her sub.

Paying close attention when you are in the middle of an intense scene comes with practice, so go slow, and don't think you have to achieve this perfect resistance scene in 5 minutes or even 5 tries.



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