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Kaliko -> RE: I really don't want to flounce, but... (6/25/2013 7:05:33 PM)
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ORIGINAL: jlf1961
That brings up a rather obvious point, if you dont like the way the mods handle things on collarme, you can always go elsewhere. If you chose to use collarme, then you agree that you will accept the actions of the mods.
That means:
1) you accept that the mods may not act or take action in the manner in which you would.
2) You accept that they may behave or act in a manner that you may perceive as petty and arbitrary.
3) You accept that if you dont like the way things are done, you can chose to use another website.
I've heard this over and over throughout the years. And the more I hear it, the more it grates on me. Yes, technically, of course you're correct. And yes, if I don't like the way things are done I can choose to use another website. But first, before I do that, I will try to work it out. As I've said before, moderators here have, indeed, listened to us. At one point during the post-pulling frenzy a little while back, the suggestion was made that maybe moderators could make a brief statement as to why a thread was being shut down instead of just making the statement that it was closed. And I noticed shortly after that those brief statements began to appear. We asked for a recipes forum. We have it. I suggested something once directly to Alpha and it was done. I'll say it again. There is collaboration. The result often lands on the side of moderation, yes, but it does happen.
So if I know that moderators/site owners can be reasoned with or appealed to, why would I up and leave a place that I like to come to without at least giving it a go? Is it the end of the world if things don't go my way? Obviously not. I've jumped up and down at the idea of a Calvinball forum (love that name), but there still isn't one. I'm not stomping my feet and leaving the sandbox. But when I do find something that is truly bothersome to me - the thought that the differences between myself and moderation were no longer just opinion, but ethics - heck, yes, I'm going to try and clear the air about that. I've invested way too much time here.
And those of you who say that this place means nothing to you, I think thou doth protest too much. There's no possible way you can have thousands of posts, be a daily visitor, and talk so openly about your family, your parents, your marriages, your divorces, your finances, your illnesses, your religion, and your politics and not feel like this site is a part of your life, even in just the tiniest way. Is it bookmarked on your computer? Do you chat with your significant other about it now and then? Do you turn to the I Admit thread when you feel down? (Which, by the way, is pretty often the most depressing thread ever.) Do you smile at Poise's Christmas videos? Do you enjoy that you know what Tap Tap Tap means? Do you roll your eyes and skim past a certain poster because you just know he's going to annoy the fuck out of you? (I know I do.) Congratulations. You're part of a community.
And if I am part of a community such as this, and I'm basically happy here, content, and look forward to joining in, then hell yes I'm going to try to work things out if I'm bothered enough to consider ditching. Is it preferable if I walk away feeling sour, never knowing if there could be a resolution? Honestly...is that how you approach things in your life? I do it differently.
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