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The second, and perhaps more surprising phenomenon, is that all this thwarted sexual energy, like anything suppressed, has its power redoubled, to become something violent and alarming, if for any reason the brakes come off"

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ORIGINAL: egern


"The second, and perhaps more surprising phenomenon, is that all this thwarted sexual energy, like anything suppressed, has its power redoubled, to become something violent and alarming, if for any reason the brakes come off"


http://www.guardian.co.uk/books/2013/jul/05/what-do-women-want-daniel-bergner

I'd be interested in what people think of this one.

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Is there more sexual energy released in a hook-up than with someone one is considering "dating"? I think that may be the case.

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. . . .our inner beast pop out and attack some unwary male.

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst
These days it is not as bad as when I was young, where if you had sex with more than one, or if it was just casual, you were thought of as a slut. Now people are more likely to embrace the inner slut ...

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ORIGINAL: egern

I do not know where to put this, so I put it here:

This is an interview with an author publishing a new book on women's sexuality.


Women and sex: the myth-buster

"..a new book by the American author Daniel Bergner, called What Do Women Want?"

"women, routinely portrayed as the monogamous sex, are actually not very well-suited to monogamy. In fact, far from being more faithful than men, we may actually be more naturally promiscuous – more bored by habituation, more voracious, more predatory, more likely to objectify a mate. The expectation upon us not to feel, still less exhibit, any of these traits causes us to bury them, Bergner argues, giving rise to two phenomena."

"First, women experience a loss of interest in sex within a marriage – commonly ascribed to low libido, but actually more a thwarted libido. "

"The second, and perhaps more surprising phenomenon, is that all this thwarted sexual energy, like anything suppressed, has its power redoubled, to become something violent and alarming, if for any reason the brakes come off"


http://www.guardian.co.uk/books/2013/jul/05/what-do-women-want-daniel-bergner

I'd be interested in what people think of this one.

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Daniel Bergner is a staff writer for the New York Times Magazine and the author of two best-selling, award-winning books of nonfiction: In The Land of Magic Soldiers and God of the Rodeo.

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ORIGINAL: egern

I do not know where to put this, so I put it here:

This is an interview with an author publishing a new book on women's sexuality.


Women and sex: the myth-buster

"..a new book by the American author Daniel Bergner, called What Do Women Want?"

"women, routinely portrayed as the monogamous sex, are actually not very well-suited to monogamy. In fact, far from being more faithful than men, we may actually be more naturally promiscuous – more bored by habituation, more voracious, more predatory, more likely to objectify a mate. The expectation upon us not to feel, still less exhibit, any of these traits causes us to bury them, Bergner argues, giving rise to two phenomena."

"First, women experience a loss of interest in sex within a marriage – commonly ascribed to low libido, but actually more a thwarted libido. "

"The second, and perhaps more surprising phenomenon, is that all this thwarted sexual energy, like anything suppressed, has its power redoubled, to become something violent and alarming, if for any reason the brakes come off"


http://www.guardian.co.uk/books/2013/jul/05/what-do-women-want-daniel-bergner

I'd be interested in what people think of this one.

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

...
I'm envious, to tell the truth. *I* want to come up with some old bollocks of a theory and flog lots of copies of it with a tasteful photo of myself on the inside cover (in my 'study', and with a vast bookshelf lined with volumes in the background). ...

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

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ORIGINAL: egern

I do not know where to put this, so I put it here:

This is an interview with an author publishing a new book on women's sexuality.


Women and sex: the myth-buster

"..a new book by the American author Daniel Bergner, called What Do Women Want?"

"women, routinely portrayed as the monogamous sex, are actually not very well-suited to monogamy. In fact, far from being more faithful than men, we may actually be more naturally promiscuous – more bored by habituation, more voracious, more predatory, more likely to objectify a mate. The expectation upon us not to feel, still less exhibit, any of these traits causes us to bury them, Bergner argues, giving rise to two phenomena."

"First, women experience a loss of interest in sex within a marriage – commonly ascribed to low libido, but actually more a thwarted libido. "

"The second, and perhaps more surprising phenomenon, is that all this thwarted sexual energy, like anything suppressed, has its power redoubled, to become something violent and alarming, if for any reason the brakes come off"


http://www.guardian.co.uk/books/2013/jul/05/what-do-women-want-daniel-bergner

I'd be interested in what people think of this one.

Sounds like written by a man who is bitter and jaded and hasn't gotten laid in a long time.

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ORIGINAL: njlauren

The one odd thing, though, is that almost every study says a significant percentage of woman have a hard time having an orgasm or even having one at all, if so, how does that play into this? Do they have a problem because they suppress their sexuality, as this guy says, is it physical, or it is that their lovers/husbands suck in bed? (I ask this seriously)....if women are so overtly sexual, then why do so many have trouble with the basic drive of sex, orgasm/pleasure?

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I think that for a man sex is all about the release, hence his focus is all on the orgasm...
It's not Just about that... There is the ploughing, the groping, the 'making them be a naughty girl' and then telling them they're a good girl (for being a naughty girl)...
You can't over simplify it that much Miss...

...they expect it to be the same for us.
Your colouring men with a broad brush there... In a pretty inaccurate colour.

...But that ride..? It is worth waiting for the right vehicle...
Hey, explaining sex in car analogies... Maybe girls and guys aren't so different after all.

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It's also because they are tired from taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, having to run all the errands and also have a job outside the home. By the end of the night one just wants to collapse into bed. Many husbands don't seem to get that and think the wife is just being mean when in reality if he actually helped out she may actually have more energy for a romp in the hay.