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Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 4:20:03 AM   
SunTzuSwe


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How many of you activly use spanking/caning/whipping/paddling/... as punishment? We're not talking erotic play punishments now, serious punishment to correct bad behaviour.

My own experience is that it rarely brings anything positive to the table. I'll spank my slave if I feel like it, no need for any reason in particular.
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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 4:49:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		Occasionally. It depends on who I'm in a relationship with. However, I use spanking far more for nonpunishment reasons than punishment ones.

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 4:51:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		You do still mean consensual though if it's not erotic basedl? Does the person receiving the beating want it on any level?

I can see it if was in context of the larger picture of a relationship, i.e. you trust your Master or Mistress to be consistent on rules etc and they will beat you regardless of how you feel if you transgress. As long as it's delivered under control.



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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 5:41:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SunTzuSwe

Instead of going OT in another thread I'll start this one.
How many of you activly use spanking/caning/whipping/paddling/... as punishment? We're not talking erotic play punishments now, serious punishment to correct bad behaviour.

My own experience is that it rarely brings anything positive to the table. I'll spank my slave if I feel like it, no need for any reason in particular.

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I'll spank my slave if I feel like it, no need for any reason in particular.


I could not agree more, but after a good torture session, it is my impression, that a girl do more effort to behave properly.

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 5:43:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sometimes, more like domestic discipline. More often I let the punishment fit the crime so recompense brings a sense of balance back.

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 6:04:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		Never. I'll use restitution, positive practice but that's more for his sake and to allow for closure.

If you've done something wrong... how do you correct yourself? Frankly I don't think it should be much different.

A deliberate screwup means we have a relationship problem. The purpose of punishment is to decrease/eliminate the probability of the behavior occurring again... sometimes all that takes is "Don't do that again". If I want a pound of flesh then that's about vengeance and not about making "us" flow more smoothly.

Fear me during play... yeah, love it. Outside of that the only thing to really fear is me saying "we're done".

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 6:25:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SunTzuSwe

Instead of going OT in another thread I'll start this one.
How many of you activly use spanking/caning/whipping/paddling/... as punishment? We're not talking erotic play punishments now, serious punishment to correct bad behaviour.

My own experience is that it rarely brings anything positive to the table. I'll spank my slave if I feel like it, no need for any reason in particular.


As a slave that's how I want it..I get off more when my partner says get on the bed and he has a strap in his hand and gives me 30-50 lashes for no reason!!

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 7:19:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		The dynamic with each of my partners has been very different with each. Corporal punishment was used or not depending.

My first and I did all the cheesy classics. So I did whip her for not doing dishes and all that. Second. No. And she was such a masochist the whip is not much punishment. Yet Wife. She hates pain. Sadist me loves that about her. So I do punish her with pain during scenes but not for anything relationship related. We talk it out. To be honest tho. She's pretty perfect. Doesn't do anything worth punishing, but I prob should bring her more flowers than I do.

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 7:25:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		No, when he hits me it's just for fun :) I am so glad I am far enough away from being pregnant now that he has quit treating me like I am made of glass. I was beginning to fell like an old vanilla couple with just a bit of bondage thrown in here and there.

But he did have other things he used while he was afraid I would break at any moment. By the way if the notion ever strikes you to put ice down his back, try to remember to at least not be standing next to the freezer when you do it. I ended up kinda cold. :D

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 7:29:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Moonlightmaddnes

No, when he hits me it's just for fun :) I am so glad I am far enough away from being pregnant now that he has quit treating me like I am made of glass. I was beginning to fell like an old vanilla couple with just a bit of bondage thrown in here and there.

But he did have other things he used while he was afraid I would break at any moment. By the way if the notion ever strikes you to put ice down his back, try to remember to at least not be standing next to the freezer when you do it. I ended up kinda cold. :D


Lol! I bet. I did the same with Wife. She is still breast feeding ... So I'm still super nice to those. :)

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 7:42:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		Never. In my past relationships, corporal punishment was all in fun. If there was a real-life issue, it was dealt with in the 'normal' way.

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 9:18:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman

Never. In my past relationships, corporal punishment was all in fun. If there was a real-life issue, it was dealt with in the 'normal' way.


Same with us,

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Lol! I bet. I did the same with Wife. She is still breast feeding ... So I'm still super nice to those. :)


Yeah he is too, of course if he's not he could get all wet. :D

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 9:27:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		We don't have a punishment dynamic, so no.

Matter of fact, he's been known to say, "You've been a good girl. You deserve a spanking!"

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 10:28:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		We have that kind of dynamic. However it is saved for very serious infractions (by our standards), not for simple mistakes or misunderstandings. If there is ever a reason he is displeased with me, we discuss the reason and the solution, and if it is serious enough then there's physical punishment.

In our 3 years together that has happened 3 times, and mostly within the first year. I can't honestly see it happening again, and pain play is now kept for fun

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 10:35:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, I will. However, it comes with the caveat that, if we've come to that point, it signifies that whatever the punishment is about is so bad that both parties need to do some soul searching about whether the dynamic is viable or the conflict over subject X is enough of an incompatibility that the dynamic can not be salvaged. If I have to punish repeatedly for subject X, the latter of those is more likely the outcome.


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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 10:54:01 AM   
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Yes, I will. However, it comes with the caveat that, if we've come to that point, it signifies that whatever the punishment is about is so bad that both parties need to do some soul searching about whether the dynamic is viable or the conflict over subject X is enough of an incompatibility that the dynamic can not be salvaged. If I have to punish repeatedly for subject X, the latter of those is more likely the outcome.



This makes sense to me. In one relationship it was part of our process. It said "I'm sorry and I forgive you in a very tangible way. It kinds squashed and lingering resentment or Shame and allowed for a clean start. Was pretty damn healing for us both.

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 10:55:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		No. I enjoi swatting her around. So it hardly makes sense for me to use it as a punishment.

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 11:11:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		We don't have a punishment dynamic in the traditional sense, because we don't use punishment for anything that people would traditionally punish for in such a dynamic, while we do use punishment for everything most people wouldn't punish for at all. (Me storming out of the house furious at him, yelling 'do the dishes yourself asshole!' wouldn't result in punishment. Me missing a spot, or accidentally breaking a plate while doing the dishes would/could result in punishment).
And yes, punishment is often corporal or spanking. When that happens it usually involved being beaten without any form of warm-up to the point of hysterical crying and begging him to stop.

Though he's just as likely to do something truly evil like take my computer away.

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 2:12:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SunTzuSwe

Instead of going OT in another thread I'll start this one.
How many of you activly use spanking/caning/whipping/paddling/... as punishment? We're not talking erotic play punishments now, serious punishment to correct bad behaviour.

My own experience is that it rarely brings anything positive to the table. I'll spank my slave if I feel like it, no need for any reason in particular.


Punishment implies the girl has done something to make me angry, and I really don't like being angry!

So I "punish" her by banishing her from my presence until I've at least cooled down. Not so much an active punishment dynamic as the withdrawal of all attention toward her. I've found that to be most effective on the submissive mindset.

Spankings etc are more about mutual harmony and enjoyment or simply because I'm in the mood. Not gonna happen when I'm angry....

Focus.

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RE: Do you use spanking/whipping as punishment? - 7/19/2013 2:25:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Moonlightmaddnes


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ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman

Never. In my past relationships, corporal punishment was all in fun. If there was a real-life issue, it was dealt with in the 'normal' way.


Same with us,

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Lol! I bet. I did the same with Wife. She is still breast feeding ... So I'm still super nice to those. :)


Yeah he is too, of course if he's not he could get all wet. :D


Might just be me. But getting all wet would be cool. Def pretty hot. But I wouldn't want to jack the little mans food. With out first kid she had to spend a couple days in hospital without our daughter. After she got out I nursed her to get production going cuz it worked better by far than a pump did. I was real reluctant at first... But it ended up being kinda hot for some reason. Despite the hotness have not done this time.

Some ladies seem to let down during orgasum but not mine. She gets a little milky but far from a full let down. So we keep most milk for our guy. A huge let down would be a very hot side effect for me but I'm just as happy to keep it saved for kiddo. Yet I'm very concerned about restricting any blood flow or causing bruising due to play. No medical reason (have not researched ). Just figure it's worth being patient and super safe. You don't get a new kid often. Why not play dafe for now?


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