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Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 8:00:45 AM   
ALSub4U2


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Status: offline 		Why is it that just about everyone on here puts diapers as a hard limit? They aren't that bad
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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 8:14:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		I guess ABDL and ageplay is looked down upon in the community, maybe we are the black sheep of kink. But I've met so many great and wonderful people whom are into dips and bdsm.

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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 8:27:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		For me it's just not sexy. But if I was watching a UFC marathon a diper could be handy.

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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 9:11:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		I gave birth to 4 kids. Had to diaper every one of them. Not my favorite chore but it is sooooooooooo much more tolerable because I loved every thing about them. Still, each of my babies learned to lift their own hips for a diaper change at about 6 months, and were totally out of them somewhere around 1.5 yrs. I was JOYOUS.
So no.. not interested in AB cause it is a been there, done that, and only again for a baby I otherwise love.

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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 9:13:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		Seriously, the reason I put it as a hard limit was because of a short stint as a CNA. Cleaning an infant up in bad enough, but when you're talking about adult-size BMs, it's a whole different cat. Also, from what I've seen, not a lot of women are into BB, and since I wasn't really interested in hooking up, I selected that to exclude any non-profile reading wankers shotgunning copypasta. Nothing against those who are into it-more power to you I say-but not my cup of tea for a number of reasons.

About the only time I'd ever consider working adult diapers into a scene would be if I were managing a long-term confinement/restraint session where releasing them would be problematic. Other than that, no thank you.

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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 9:26:06 AM   
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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 9:26:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		I understand what u all are saying. But not everyone who is an adult baby does Bm in them. I have been an adultbaby for 15years and I only pee in my diapers.

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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 9:28:33 AM   
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Because I don't consider excrement sexy.



Oh, c'mon; Mr. Hanky don't make you the least little bit wet, saying Aw, he is so cute......

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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 9:32:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ALSub4U2

Why is it that just about everyone on here puts diapers as a hard limit? They aren't that bad


Yes, diapers are that bad. People's preferences not to engage in something are just as important as your preferences are to engage in it. I usually wonder why people asking after a particular fetish or whatever don't see that. I can be open minded and wish you the best in pursuing your desire, why can't you do the same?

ABDL and diapers is definitely an area that is not sexy or fun for me. I've raised 3 kids and have no desire to revisit it. I wouldn't enjoy the drain of being someone's caretaker. I'm an adult, I want my partner to be an adult.

Why should what anyone else thinks matter? Do what you do, if there is a smaller pool for it then so be it. There's a smaller market for just about anything out of the norm, but it doesn't mean those people are capable of tossing aside what is meaningful to themselves.


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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 9:33:02 AM   
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You're confusing having a hard limit with criticism of that particular kink. It's not the same. You may be into diaper play, but that doesn't mean that someone else wants to go near the topic. By putting it as a hard limit, they are saying that they absolutely don't want to deal with it. You do. That's cool. But don't expect other people to be into the same thing. Besides, if they have something that you love as a hard limit, you know that the two of you aren't compatible.

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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 9:34:16 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		Actually, we've been having a wonderful discussion that touched on the subject called:

Luttles, Babygirls, Mummies, Daddies and Bigs - A post for you

that can be found under the general BDSM Discussion sub heading.

It is a not much understood kink that most are not into. You're just going to have to deal with that.

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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 9:35:11 AM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		Also, what gets listed here is just a guideline to let people know what they're into.

What's on my hard limit list here, isn't necessarily what I have as a hard limit in my relationship.

Because after all, if himself really wanted me to go bowling.....I would.

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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 9:36:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: jeremybaby1977

I understand what u all are saying. But not everyone who is an adult baby does Bm in them. I have been an adultbaby for 15years and I only pee in my diapers.


Urine is also excrement.


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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 9:38:53 AM   
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ORIGINAL: jeremybaby1977

I understand what u all are saying. But not everyone who is an adult baby does Bm in them. I have been an adultbaby for 15years and I only pee in my diapers.


Ok, good point, however the fact that you have on a diaper just doesn't scream sexy and fun to me. It's territory I want no part of. Even if you just have the desire to put the thing on, that's a no-go area for me. I don't find it attractive in any way, shape, or form - even without poop. I don't want to do pee either. Even if you never did anything in the diaper, I just don't get off seeing it or knowing it's there. It's a complete turnoff.

Not everyone loves rope, or wax play or anal either.

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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 9:57:21 AM   
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They list it as a hard limit, because it is a hard limit.

Of course you don't think it's 'that bad', you're into it, your perspective is skewed towards it being 'not bad'. To someone else it could be really, really awful. When it comes to sexual and romantic preferences, there really is no objective standard and you can't rationalize it away. I could tell you sheep eyeballs are delicious, but if they squick you out you won't be convinced.

They are doing you a favour by letting you know at a glance that something which you desire will never happen with them - it saves you the time of dating them for six months and then figuring out you'll never be a match.

I wouldn't say adult babies are looked down on by the community, so much as it's a niche interest. I'm sure you can understand why - diapers are associated with excrement (the thought is there even if you don't use it) and babies generally take lots of effort to care for and can't give much back. I think there is the stereotype of an adult baby being quite selfish, as by definition the scene/relationship is built around the other person tending to the baby's needs and desires. You can combat that stereotype though, by showing there is much more to you than that.

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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 10:17:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have to echo what the majority are saying here. It's a complete turn off to Me and it doesn't matter if the diaper gets "used" or not. It doesn't mean that I don't have friends who have AB/DL as kinks. It does mean that it's an automatic sign of no potential for a dynamic. It's not erotic to Me and it's not sexy. I don't want to be involved in that particular kink at all, which is the very definition of a hard limit.


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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 10:49:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		Different strokes for difference folks. I wouldn't say I "look down on" or consider ADBL "black sheep" it's just not my flavor. Some people like pistachio ice cream. I don't. The only reason I'm truly opposed to wearing diapers is because I'm opposed to any sort of scat play at all. I haven't wet the bed since I was an infant, but I'm sure if I did in my adult life I'd have a major melt down. The idea of being in my own wet just freaks me out. I'd have to shower like 20 times.

Just because it's something I wouldn't be interested in dealing with doesn't mean that I think there is something wrong with you doing it. If that's how you get your kicks; good for you.

A lot of problems that arise in any relationship are the expectations we project onto our potential partners. What it SOUNDS like you're saying is that anyone who has a hard limit that is contradictory to something you're into automatically looks down on you. That's a projection of your own personal opinion of yourself. Check that at the door is my suggestion. Even if you find someone who's into diaper play doesn't mean they're necessarily into you. Sounds rough, but it's true.

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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 11:00:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ALSub4U2

Why is it that just about everyone on here puts diapers as a hard limit? They aren't that bad


Cuz your kink is Not my kink. Simple shit

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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 11:18:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ALSub4U2

I guess ABDL and ageplay is looked down upon in the community, maybe we are the black sheep of kink. But I've met so many great and wonderful people whom are into dips and bdsm.


I'm curious why you asked the question in the first place. What possible difference does it make? If you are into it, and have found wonderful people who are the same, isn't that all that matters?????

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RE: Hard Limits? - 7/19/2013 11:19:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		I still have a 5 year old kid in the house who wears diapers at night.
They sometimes leak, and he sometimes still has accidents during the day.

After raising 3 children through diapers, I'm far more familiar with the smell of sweat, urine, and other substances that diapers create than I ever cared to be. They're not kinky to me... at all... in any way.

Which is why they're on my Hard Limit list.

And yes, most other adult baby, little play, or age play is on my list as well. When I bring an adult in my life for a relationship, one of the primary functions of that relationship is mutual sexual gratification. THE fastest way to make me stop seeing an adult as a sexual partner is for there to be any form of age play in the mix. And if I don't see the adult in question as a sexual partner, I have no interest having a relationship with them, other than maybe as friends, at which point, I STILL don't have any interest in changing their diapers.

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