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ORIGINAL: dink22
Uh, not sure what channel this was on. You're saying femdom SHOULD NOT be equal to conventional heterosexuality and gay sexuality? That we're inferior? That this is obvious and a guy like me is flat out silly to try to EVER posture femdom as being equal to male-dominant heterosexuality?

On CM, more and more, I'm beginning to think you're right. In the future, they'll say Femdom was an early 21st century phenomenon that flared out and was defeated socially, simply because there was never any real female support.

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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

Not really, I just see that you're one of the people who are set in his ways so much to believe the sun is purple, even of there is an outside for you to go look to see that it's not.

Kinda like how old ass racist ppl down here are...like no matter how they see the world evolving or see races mixing and everyone being cool...they are still stuck in 1950 and no matter what you try to tell them or show them, they are stuck in their ways. Sad really.

Those are the types you just laugh at.

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ORIGINAL: MariaB
I used to work as a pro Domme in central London

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar
he's telling us that a dog is the same thing as a wolf, and that we're trying to explain that, while their are similarities between the two, and they're related, they are not the same thing, precisely because there are crucial differences.

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Prostitution, as defined in the USA, is so very close to 'contact' Financial Domination

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that can lead back to the question about movie stars who do sex scenes. There is no spiritual connection there for them, they are doing a sexual act, and getting paid. So what say you about them? Prostitutes?

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ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

I am a fin domme and as I've stated have never had any type of sexual contact online or otherwise with a sub.

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The term "unnatural" is not included in MOST definitions. Here is the Wiki definition:

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ORIGINAL: dink22

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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

Not really, I just see that you're one of the people who are set in his ways so much to believe the sun is purple, even of there is an outside for you to go look to see that it's not.

Kinda like how old ass racist ppl down here are...like no matter how they see the world evolving or see races mixing and everyone being cool...they are still stuck in 1950 and no matter what you try to tell them or show them, they are stuck in their ways. Sad really.

Those are the types you just laugh at.

Look, you can describe what I say in terms that make you feel better.

But you won't personally feel better.

Like I said, you need a reality check. You're trying to make yourself feel better by saying, "Oh no I don't and he's such a fool." And yet you come back HERE for comfort? Where you're a regular and have "friends" who you hope wil poo-pooh me?

Ahh. But never mind. I'm a "type you just laugh at."

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ORIGINAL: Pyramus

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ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

I am a fin domme and as I've stated have never had any type of sexual contact online or otherwise with a sub.

I read this thread with interest because I have no idea how financial domination works but can it also work for a submissive to make good money?

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ORIGINAL: dink22

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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

Not really, I just see that you're one of the people who are set in his ways so much to believe the sun is purple, even of there is an outside for you to go look to see that it's not.

Kinda like how old ass racist ppl down here are...like no matter how they see the world evolving or see races mixing and everyone being cool...they are still stuck in 1950 and no matter what you try to tell them or show them, they are stuck in their ways. Sad really.

Those are the types you just laugh at.

Look, you can describe what I say in terms that make you feel better.

But you won't personally feel better.

Like I said, you need a reality check. You're trying to make yourself feel better by saying, "Oh no I don't and he's such a fool." And yet you come back HERE for comfort? Where you're a regular and have "friends" who you hope wil poo-pooh me?

Ahh. But never mind. I'm a "type you just laugh at."

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ORIGINAL: thezeppo

FR

I maybe require some education on the workings of findomme (if only someone would start a thread about it!), but for me I think it is the expectation that puts me off. I do take personal pleasure from giving to others, but that pleasure comes from finding the perfect gift for someone, or surprising someone with a gift they weren't expecting. If the dynamic of my relationship was an expectation that I would provide money or gifts as the cost of continuing communication then I doubt I would remain fulfilled for long. That's just me though, different strokes and all of that. Personally I do consider it legitimate, I tend to think that as long as people are happy then that's what matters.

As to why people react so strongly to it, I think that has a lot to do with the ubiquitous nature of findomme on the other side. I would venture to suggest that those who have the strongest reactions to it are single sub males who get frustrated with wading through countless profiles saying 'u r beneaf me, i take ur cash and ignore u'. It's not what those men are looking for and a lot of the dommes on the other side seem to be only looking for that. I have some sympathy with that frustration, but I think the obvious conclusion is that Collarme is perhaps not the ideal place to meet 'the one' and that I should spread my wings rather than stamp my feet.

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ORIGINAL: Subano

> Bras were burned.

You remind me. Why did they burn the bra anyway, in the olden days?

What was the point?

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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir

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ORIGINAL: thezeppo

FR

I maybe require some education on the workings of findomme (if only someone would start a thread about it!), but for me I think it is the expectation that puts me off. I do take personal pleasure from giving to others, but that pleasure comes from finding the perfect gift for someone, or surprising someone with a gift they weren't expecting. If the dynamic of my relationship was an expectation that I would provide money or gifts as the cost of continuing communication then I doubt I would remain fulfilled for long. That's just me though, different strokes and all of that. Personally I do consider it legitimate, I tend to think that as long as people are happy then that's what matters.

As to why people react so strongly to it, I think that has a lot to do with the ubiquitous nature of findomme on the other side. I would venture to suggest that those who have the strongest reactions to it are single sub males who get frustrated with wading through countless profiles saying 'u r beneaf me, i take ur cash and ignore u'. It's not what those men are looking for and a lot of the dommes on the other side seem to be only looking for that. I have some sympathy with that frustration, but I think the obvious conclusion is that Collarme is perhaps not the ideal place to meet 'the one' and that I should spread my wings rather than stamp my feet.

Fin-domme can work in a variety of ways: ultimately it is about controlling finances. A responsible, experienced findomme isn't going to kill the goose that laid the golden egg (so to speak). She may set you up on a budget, she may require you to ask permission before spending money on things other than rent, utilities, etc. (the basics of life). It isn't just about the bitchy woman with her hand out to go shopping while flipping you the bird. Yes, that CAN be a part of it, but it doesn't have to be.

There are a lot of men with fin-domme profiles that are as you described (as well as young women who think it is an easy way to get cash) so it is up to the fin-sub/slave to do their due diligence to make sure that there is still compatibility if they don't want what you described.