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TigressLily -> RE: Pushing Limits (9/10/2013 12:13:16 PM)
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Prime example of the difference between having with a romantic, considerate lover and hooking up with some Inet wanker who starts off saying he wants to push your limits:
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ORIGINAL: theshytype
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder
I love when men always courted me, wooed me, seduced me...bought me flowers, took me out to a really nice dinner, smiled, made great conversation, listened to me, said sweet nothings to me, held my hand as we went for a walk, etc....
To this day Master still does things like that with me. [:)]
I love it, too.
You know you have a good one, though, when the wooing never ends. Otherwise, I just feel as though it's entering into a relationship on false pretenses.
It's reassuring to know there are still some good ones out there; hopefully they're not already taken (but of a subby disposition, of course).
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
I have hard limits and I have soft limits.
Appreciate the notable distinction. Hard Limits=OFF LIMITS / Soft Limits=I fucking hate this. <Guys who won't listen to Coldplay songs>
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ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle
Limits are limits. If they're "pushable" they're not limits. Dislikes are not limits. "I'm not sure if I want to do this" is not a limit. "I'll only do this if 'forced'" is not a limit
Limits are lines to NOT be crossed. [Italics mine]
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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar
I love to push my own limits by taking more than I think I can take, playing well beyond safewords, and well into the realm of consensual non-consent.
There still need to be limits/boundaries established as to what constitutes 'consensual non-consent' so as to only operate within that framework.
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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar
Because fisting is not a kink Collarme has listed in its checkbox list, a lot of people interested in it will do a keyword search on it.
Sure it is, under Interests. I have it listed under my Hard Limits. It may not have been there when you first signed up, though.
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ORIGINAL: MrRodgers
Taboos are something we will not do, limits are arbitrary and personal.
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The problem I have with "taboo" is that it implies that I find the act abhorrent.
quote: ORIGINAL: MrRodgers
taboo does not imply anything but what it means, simply prohibited.
Some iconoclastic people get a kick out of breaking taboos simply because they are taboo.
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ORIGINAL: MasterofSteel
Since I am looking for slaves who have their limits within my limits, it is not possible for me to push them and a generally it is the slave who ask for my limits and not vice versa.
Spoken like a truly intelligent Dominant who doesn't need to prove himself to anybody else.
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ORIGINAL: AaNiMaLl
To me domination is love. I just know that I cum faster when there is a look of love in her eyes. That is like total devotion.
Can I have this made into a plaque? Only the first bolded sentence, that is.
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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam
Most limits are there for a sound reason and some of them can be major full blown panic attack PTSD triggers.
This is KEY. I would caution you don't want to play with fire . . . but some of you do. Literally.
In Conclusion: When I'm lying on my deathbed, my last thought won't be Damn, I wish I could have used that strap-on on him. If only that hadn't been one of his Hard Limits!
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