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Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 11:50:59 AM   
Makemeobey4you


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Status: offline 		Maybe it's just me but every women I try to contact has a MAJOR superiority complex. Just trying to introduce youursef, with utmost respect mind you, becomes an automatic judgement on your own self. I'm here to LEARN from dommes, make friends, and if I'm lucky find a Goddess to worship. So far, there has been one kind women who is respectful and we've made plans to meet.

Literally everyone else has such an inflated ego they can't be bothered by a friendly "Hello, how are you?" It's disgraceful. Maybe I've got the wrong idea trying to make friends here... I'll only stay on this site for the one women mentioned above.

The first pro domme I've ever went to see became a very good, helpful, and considerate friend. I won't mention her name but she is renouned in the BDSM world and an AMAZING dominatrix as well as an amazing person and friend. You people who are so critical of someone at the first site of a message will never find what you're looking for.

Then again I could be wrong, maybe some people are on here for the soul reason of being treated like shit. But this is the web, a social network, and in my experience on CM it's more like a shit talking network.

Long story short: Get over yourselves, some people want to meet you not to constantly serve you or nip at your ankles, but to meet you and learn from you. That's why I'm here, to LEARN and make FRIENDS.
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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 11:59:20 AM   
Makemeobey4you


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Status: offline 		Realizing now I may have posted this on the wrong forum, but let me try to turn this into a question.

Are there any dommes out there willing to just talk? Share knowledge and experiences to help better myself as a submissive and help to find what I'm looking for? Or am I barking up the wrong tree?

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:01:46 PM   
Marc2b


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Realizing now I may have posted this on the wrong forum,


Yeah... "you're all a bunch of stuck up bitches," usually isn't the best conversation starter.

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:13:41 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: Makemeobey4you
Literally everyone else has such an inflated ego they can't be bothered by a friendly "Hello, how are you?" It's disgraceful.


You mean like making your very first post in a forum a "fuck you bitches" post?

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:15:00 PM   
Makemeobey4you


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Status: offline 		[/quote]

Yeah... "you're all a bunch of stuck up bitches" usually isn't the best conversation starter.
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I'm merely stating my experience on this website; and looking for the deciding factor on whether I should stay or go. And in my experience here I'd say 1 out of every 10 people have common decency. I'm just checking if there are any genuine kind hearted people on here and if not I'll take my leave. I didnt use the phrase "stuck up bitch" because that's not what Im saying. I'm asking if their are any people worth talking to on here, or are we all just to obsorbed in ourselves that we cant be bothered by others

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:16:58 PM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		The response you get is usually (but not always) the result of the mail you sent.

For example, if you sent a message saying "hi, how are you? I'm new to kink and I'd like someone to talk with" you will likely not get a response. This is because women in general, and dominant women in particular, get a ridiculous amount of cut-and-paste messages every day from people who are trying to get their rocks off, either in person on online. Most of those messages will be either deleted or you'll get a less-than-friendly response.

However if you sent a message saying "Hi! I was looking at your profile and I see you have a cat in most of your pics. I love cats - there was always one in the house where I grew up. I'd love to have one now, but I work too much for it to be good for the cat. What do you call yours?"

Then the response is likely to be a lot more positive. You've put in the effort to read the person's profile, find something you have in common and sent a friendly, non-creepy message.

ETA:

I just looked at your profile and it's all about sex and kink. Nothing about you. I personally wouldn't respond to any message you sent, personalised or not, as you appear to be all about the sex. Add in some vanilla stuff so that women can see you as a person, not two-dimensional and kink-obsessed.


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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:20:52 PM   
Oneechan


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Status: offline 		1 out of 10 is a heck of a lot less than "every women I try to contact"

People really don't like being pre-judged, something which you should be able to sympathise with since you're apparently being prejudged as a masochist who likes being spoken down to. :(

The way you've worded this thread isn't going to be helpful to you, or anyone. anyone of the intended audience who reads it is likely to be offended by it, and to respond to you appropriately. The forming it into a question isn't helping, because "is there anyone who..." is generally considered a stupid question because the answer is always yes. out of the 7 billion people in the world,l there is always someone who fits that criteria.

maybe try rewording it to be nicer? and more productive.

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:23:09 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: Makemeobey4you


I'm merely stating my experience on this website;


No, you're not. You're bitching about the CM personals side, not realizing that most of the people that post in the forums don't even go over there.

You're bitching at the wrong crowd.

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:24:06 PM   
Makemeobey4you


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Status: offline 		I'm not entirely new to this site. I know a lot of women get bombarded with messages, but even when trying to relate with such a person you described I get nothing but disrespect. Kind of makes me lose faith in this scene, or maybe I'm just on the wrong website

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:24:51 PM   
mnottertail


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Makemeobey4you

Realizing now I may have posted this on the wrong forum, but let me try to turn this into a question.

Are there any dommes out there willing to just talk? Share knowledge and experiences to help better myself as a submissive and help to find what I'm looking for? Or am I barking up the wrong tree?



You are way better off, to come out here, read the FAQs, comment intelligently and sporadically out here on threads of interest.

Dominatrixes (or any woman, slave, submissive, top or Domme) here, as everwhere get hit up with inane messages at the rate of 9237.83245 per nanosecond. They may receive a slightly titillating one approximately once per light year and really interesting engaging ones, once or twice in a lifetime.

Given that they get more fuckin mail than santa claus, first; how do you stand out in the sea of seaworms, and secondly it is gonna take a while to get to you, and in frustration, they might wholesale delete pages of shit. And you go out with the bathwater baby.

So, given that is the situation...

Sorta approach it like church, or whatever, the other side is the meatmarket and bar, and here you are in the social club, after church luncheon.

Relax, keep reasonably sharply dressed, provide some background, hobbies, life, enjoy pleasant and intelligent conversation, and get yourself known.

Intelligent and pleasant conversation does not include such topics as:

Does a Domme, a prostitute, and a fucking walking vagina and ass, want to serve my kink?

What type of grease does mistress use on her strap on?
Are their any real mistresses that want to sit on my tongue and use me as a toilet when they are at their sisters wedding?

Yanno...........get the clue.

Do you play cards? Are you into sports? What do you do for a living?

What do you think about the post-impressionistic cubic painting genre as it relates to depressive anxiety and potroast in american culture today.......

Have real, friendly, non-kink driven, non-sexual (put your best foot forward impression conversations out here, and get known) then you will have many women that will want to talk with you and out of some of those, some will become your friends, some subset among them will go out with you, some subset of that will have an actual relationship with you, and some subset of that will find you not wholly repugnant, and one of that subset will become your Domme.

That's the view from inside my pants.





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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:29:26 PM   
Marc2b


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quote:

I'm merely stating my experience on this website; and looking for the deciding factor on whether I should stay or go. And in my experience here I'd say 1 out of every 10 people have common decency. I'm just checking if there are any genuine kind hearted people on here and if not I'll take my leave. I didnt use the phrase "stuck up bitch" because that's not what Im saying. I'm asking if their are any people worth talking to on here, or are we all just to obsorbed in ourselves that we cant be bothered by others




"Stuck up bitches" is how your first post came across. Wondering if "people are worth talking to," also comes across as arrogant. Any group (including regulars on a message board) is naturally suspicious and a little dismissive of the newcomer. Stick around a while. Tell some jokes in the humor section, get into a debate in the political section, get to know people a little. Let them know that you're worth talking to. Then ask your question.

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:32:34 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I have no problem meeting Dommes. I'm myself a Dom, so it's understood that any relationship with them will be friendship only. It may help to not have pressure.

Fella, your profile is a reason Dommes won't be polite with you. You let it be known that you want to serve a goddess. Nowhere does it mention your hobbies, interests, and goals. You are letting them be known that you don't look at yourself as anything more than a play partner.

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:41:50 PM   
Makemeobey4you


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ETA:

I just looked at your profile and it's all about sex and kink. Nothing about you. I personally wouldn't respond to any message you sent, personalised or not, as you appear to be all about the sex. Add in some vanilla stuff so that women can see you as a person, not two-dimensional and kink-obsessed.



Noted, appreciated, and fixed. I made my profile in a rush and I believe you are right. That could have been a contributing factor in the negative responses I've been hit with. But in all honesty I think it's only the forum posters that read profiles. As the only ppl who've viewed my profile you Myotherself and a handful of passer bys

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:43:57 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		And believe you me, that; by and large is who you want looking at your profile, mostly forum folks.

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:44:14 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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Status: offline 		OP, my partners consider me kind, respectful, engaged in their lives and an authentic friend well their dominant. So yes, there are actual well-adjusted, balanced people on here and I'm glad to hear you say you found one.

That said, I ignore or block random drive-bys leading with kink. There are just too danged many of them to take seriously and at any rate, the first line in my profile states I'm not looking because I'm doing this in real time with my loves. Even if I was looking, it would take a boatload more than someone approaching me with their kinky laundry list to get my attention. In fact, if that's all the introduction contained I'd just delete without reading and block. I wouldn't want any mention of kink whatsoever in a first contact, and in fact won't discuss it at all until I have met someone in person and we agree there is chemistry and a foundation to build on.

So the upshot is: when folks start approaching female dominants as women first, I believe there will be a great many more quality connections made. Thinking one can skip the niceties shown to vanilla folks is a common and usually fatal mistake: if one isn't popular in the vanilla world, bdsm doesn't automatically give you a free pass to wave your dingle in a stranger's face. If anything, one would have to work a little harder since the ratio of nice, experienced dominant women to seeking submissive males is very much in her favor.

What does this mean in practical terms? No fookin' shortcuts! Be a nice man who offers more than his laundry list, and save that list for when SHE asks to talk about it.

Best of luck to you. The 'Ask A Mistress' forum stickies are chock full of excellent information to help you succeed in making a quality connection. I suggest a good read and heed.

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:45:14 PM   
searching4mysir


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I have no problem meeting Dommes. I'm myself a Dom, so it's understood that any relationship with them will be friendship only. It may help to not have pressure.

Fella, your profile is a reason Dommes won't be polite with you. You let it be known that you want to serve a goddess. Nowhere does it mention your hobbies, interests, and goals. You are letting them be known that you don't look at yourself as anything more than a play partner.



Add to that the fact that he has an antagonistic username. She has to get to the bottom of the profile (if she is half-assed to do so) to find out that what he wants is a punishment dynamic. The username sounds manipulative (beat me or I won't obey). A sadist would be more likely to put him in the corner and ignore him if he disobeyed, if she could be bothered to put up with his shit for more than 5 minutes.

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:51:38 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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Status: offline 		PS: I just read your updated profile narrative. MUCH better. Now give the same courtesy to the folks you write by reviewing what they're all about and commenting on it. If a 'domme' has nothing to say but sexual stuff and give me money loser worm in her profile, you know not to contact her, right? Because it's likely 'she' is a 'he' or some other gender-irrelevant entity on here for a pie-in-the-sky easy buck.

I hope things will go more smoothly for you now, and you make some quality connections.

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:54:16 PM   
Makemeobey4you


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Status: offline 		I'm fully aware that my post has a negative inclination to it, that's because it's a reflection of my negative experiences on this site. I'm open to all responses on this post, and fully expected the negative feed back. Thats to be expected. However, I wasn't referring to the 7 billion people on this planet, I'm referring to the patrons of this website (There's no such thing as a stupid question)

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 12:55:43 PM   
Rochsub2009


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ORIGINAL: Makemeobey4you
I think it's only the forum posters that read profiles. As the only ppl who've viewed my profile you Myotherself and a handful of passer bys


Not true. I took a look at your profile. But you would never know it.

Do you even realize that it's possible to look at your profile without it showing up in your "whose viewed me" list?

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RE: Female Superiority+Human Decency=Get off CM - 8/12/2013 1:08:51 PM   
Makemeobey4you


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Status: offline 		Thank you for the advice MistressDarkArt; but even in such circumstances where I try to relate to someone I'd like to get to know, I'm mostly still ignored or replied to as being none of their concern.

And to those who think I'm posting this just to "bitch" please don't respond; I'm looking for answers here not your opinions on the intention of my post

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