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ORIGINAL: tommonymous

As a related question: Why do you suppose people get pissy when you call them on their painfully obvious lies? I.e., "Wow, you sure don't look 38." "So how many pounds ago were all the photos I've seen of you taken?" (No, I don't actually put it that way. I do have manners.) I suppose it's ridiculous to expect people who lack integrity to own up to their actions.

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2
All of the men have given me the same reason for their lie: that the number of women who will respond to their messages here drops precipitously after their posted age is 50+.

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ORIGINAL: deliriuminabox

Prior to turning 30, I would get a lot of emails from men in their 30s, 40s and early 50s. Now that I'm over 30, most of my emails come from men in their late 50's, 60's and early 70's. Its a really strange trend, imo because in real life I'm never approached by men who are that much older than me.

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ORIGINAL: Toysinbabeland

At 99, which has always been my stated age on cm, I'm not getting any younger.

I always put 99 because I generally don't look for anyone on here.
I'm not worried about what people think of my age, but I won't write that I am younger.
If I want to tell someone my age I generally do. But lying is not going to happen.
most of the time when someone comments that I have 99 is my age they realize the fact that it's really a tongue in cheek joke, and that I am NOT 99.
I do however write 99 so that no one finds me when they are searching for somebody within a particular age range.
I am generally here just to speak on the forum.

Eta: fix error from shakey 99 year old typing fingers

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ORIGINAL: deliriuminabox

Prior to turning 30, I would get a lot of emails from men in their 30s, 40s and early 50s. Now that I'm over 30, most of my emails come from men in their late 50's, 60's and early 70's. Its a really strange trend, imo because in real life I'm never approached by men who are that much older than me.

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2
All of the men have given me the same reason for their lie: that the number of women who will respond to their messages here drops precipitously after their posted age is 50+.

I'm 57. I can attract women in their 40s and 50s easily. The only way your statement makes any sense is if they're chasing women in their 20s and 30s.

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ORIGINAL: SerWhiteTiger

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ORIGINAL: Toysinbabeland

At 99, which has always been my stated age on cm, I'm not getting any younger.

I always put 99 because I generally don't look for anyone on here.
I'm not worried about what people think of my age, but I won't write that I am younger.
If I want to tell someone my age I generally do. But lying is not going to happen.
most of the time when someone comments that I have 99 is my age they realize the fact that it's really a tongue in cheek joke, and that I am NOT 99.
I do however write 99 so that no one finds me when they are searching for somebody within a particular age range.
I am generally here just to speak on the forum.

Eta: fix error from shakey 99 year old typing fingers

Yeah, "99" isn't really a lie, it's simply a statement that you don't give a damn what anyone thinks your age is.

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2
All of the men have given me the same reason for their lie: that the number of women who will respond to their messages here drops precipitously after their posted age is 50+.

I'm 57. I can attract women in their 40s and 50s easily. The only way your statement makes any sense is if they're chasing women in their 20s and 30s.

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Just wait till you reach your 50s like me. Then you'll get an avalanche of messages from men in their 20s and 30s! Swear to god.

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

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ORIGINAL: deliriuminabox

Prior to turning 30, I would get a lot of emails from men in their 30s, 40s and early 50s. Now that I'm over 30, most of my emails come from men in their late 50's, 60's and early 70's. Its a really strange trend, imo because in real life I'm never approached by men who are that much older than me.

Just wait till you reach your 50s like me. Then you'll get an avalanche of messages from men in their 20s and 30s! Swear to god.

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ORIGINAL: orgasmdenial12

It's a funny thing, I thought only women lied about their age, but in the last year I must have had at least 20 men lie directly to me about their age. Also, by photographs that men publish of themself, I can see that there is a lot of dishonesty going on regarding age. Why is this?

With multiple BDSM websites, and people often sticking with the same user names that they are known by, it's very easy to compare one profile against another - something which I routinely do if I am being contacted by a potential Dom.

One Dom was lying by at least 15 years! Others routinely lie 6-7 years, anything up to 5 years is commonplace. Why bother to lie about something so petty?

I understand that some websites don't update your age automatically, but if you only joined 2 years ago, then how can it be 5 years out? Lol.

The common wisdom is that men grow better with age and that women enjoy the company of an older man. Is this no longer the case? Are men now under pressure to fake youthfulness to be considered attractive? I often hear older women complain that men their age are only interested in younger women. But are younger women becoming increasingly willing to select for younger men, pushing older men out of the dating loop too? And will older men become more and more dishonest about their age as time goes on, or begin dating more within their age range, thus freeing themselves of the pressure to lie?

And finally, why would a heavily wrinkled person with veiny hands ever think they could pass themselves off as a 38 year old? You can't always tell whether someone is married, or cheating, whether they're being honest about their job or where they live, but somebody's age is pretty much written all over them. So why lie?

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but somebody's age is pretty much written all over them.