Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid >> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 10:58:53 AM   
chatterbox24


Posts: 2182
Joined: 1/22/2012
Status: offline 		decorate a pedestal with flowers and ribbons, place rose petals to it in secret ( or have a woman do it) lol. Take her to dinner bring her home lead her there , place her there, and say

Although I am your Master, Let this be a forever reminder of the place in my heart you hold to me for eternity.


Then get ready to catch her, because she is going to faint cause she knows she will never see that again from you.

_____________________________

I am like a box of chocolates, you never know what variety you are going to get on any given day.

My crazy smells like jasmine, cloves and cat nip.

(in reply to ChatteParfaitt)
Profile   Post #: 21
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 11:12:04 AM   
OsideGirl


Posts: 14441
Joined: 7/1/2005
From: United States
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: petitespot

My fantasy proposal... spooning in bed after a long fun day together and as I'm falling asleep he whispers in my ear "marry me".


That's pretty close to how the big guy proposed to me. It was a Monday morning, we were snuggling in bed and I was about to get up to go home and then go to work. He told me he didn't want me to leave....and then proposed.


_____________________________

Give a girl the right shoes and she will conquer the world. ~ Marilyn Monroe

The Accelerated Velocity of Terminological Inexactitude

(in reply to petitespot)
Profile   Post #: 22
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 11:13:05 AM   
LittleGirlHeart


Posts: 1427
Joined: 4/4/2013
Status: offline 		I am glad Carol liked it. I would hate a public showy request. I want that kind of thing very intimate, just us two. :)
quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC


I got down on one knee in a restaurant in front of the stage and proposed while the band paused. Everyone clapped and cheered. It is one of Carol's fondest memories.

Giving the woman I love life-long memories is very wellaligned with my own values and I'm damned glad I chose to go the theatrics route. That's actually a core value for me so it worked out well all around.

In general, we have no role-based D/s so stuff like kneeling is a non-issue.




_____________________________


We'll fight, not out of spite
For someone must stand up for what's right
'Cause where there's a man who has no voice
There ours shall go singing

(in reply to JeffBC)
Profile   Post #: 23
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 3:37:20 PM   
hlen5


Posts: 5890
Joined: 3/2/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt
various people did readings. We started out with Himself and I doing a very humorous reading -- in unison-- from the Princess Bride.




That sounds lovely!!

Did you you do the bishop's monologue? Ma-wadge??

_____________________________



My fave Thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_2626198/mpage_1/tm.htm

One time "Phallus Expert Extraordinaire"

(in reply to ChatteParfaitt)
Profile   Post #: 24
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 3:44:08 PM   
littlewonder


Posts: 15659
Status: offline 		I'm traditional. I still want a man to get down on one knee and surprise me with a ring. My husband did it. We were on a group outing with a bunch of other navy guys after his bootcamp graduation. He had all of them gather together in a circle, pulled me in the middle and he got down on one knee and proposed. I was totally shocked and thought it was the sweetest thing ever. It's something that will last forever in my memory.



_____________________________

Nothing has changed
Everything has changed

(in reply to ARIES83)
Profile   Post #: 25
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 4:00:28 PM   
sunshinemiss


Posts: 17673
Joined: 11/26/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: ARIES83

Besides, how many other cultures kneel to ask the question anyway, I'm pretty sure it's a mainly western thing... And I find that idea a bit troubling...



That made me laugh out loud. NO. It is NOT just a western thing. In Asia, the whole one knee is the tiniest fraction of what they do. A REAL kneeling is on both knees, hands over the head on the floor, head on the fingers prostrate. There are actually special clothes and food, serving tea to the parents while kneeling, and the couple both participate with the begging of the parents. There is all manner of ritual around it.

< Message edited by sunshinemiss -- 8/30/2013 4:01:13 PM >

_____________________________

Yes, I am a wonton hussy... and still sweet as 3.14

(in reply to ARIES83)
Profile   Post #: 26
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 4:05:02 PM   
littlewonder


Posts: 15659
Status: offline 		That reminds me that after my husband proposed, the next day he called my dad and asked his permission. I found that just as sweet.

Like I said, I'm old fashioned.


_____________________________

Nothing has changed
Everything has changed

(in reply to sunshinemiss)
Profile   Post #: 27
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 4:14:21 PM   
sunshinemiss


Posts: 17673
Joined: 11/26/2007
Status: offline 		I like the idea of a man going to the parents. It's not a "permission" thing in my head so much as a... I-honor-your-role-in-creating-this-magnificent-person. There is a moment in My Big Fat Greek Wedding in which John Corbett's character kisses the hand of her father. That moment touches me because it is such a humble and grateful gesture. There is some sort of creating an equality, "I'm a man who will take care of your precious daughter," which makes me tear up at the thought of it. By the same token, I as a woman would want to do that with a man's family. I would want them to know that their son is safe with me, that I will protect him and care for him. When I met my ex-lover's mother, I told her how much I appreciated the man he was and that was due in no small part to her. I think there is something just plain right about recognizing that (if it's appropriate and real).

Your post, little wonder, reminded me of this video. It kind of speaks to what I've written - a father letting the young man know what he's getting. You can see the man tearing up. I think they probably have a good man-to-man relationship.

I'm feeling very happy now. Thanks (was having a rough-ish morning).



< Message edited by sunshinemiss -- 8/30/2013 4:20:23 PM >

_____________________________

Yes, I am a wonton hussy... and still sweet as 3.14

(in reply to littlewonder)
Profile   Post #: 28
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 4:27:49 PM   
Sheela22


Posts: 199
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

quote:

ORIGINAL: ARIES83

Besides, how many other cultures kneel to ask the question anyway, I'm pretty sure it's a mainly western thing... And I find that idea a bit troubling...



That made me laugh out loud. NO. It is NOT just a western thing. In Asia, the whole one knee is the tiniest fraction of what they do. A REAL kneeling is on both knees, hands over the head on the floor, head on the fingers prostrate. There are actually special clothes and food, serving tea to the parents while kneeling, and the couple both participate with the begging of the parents. There is all manner of ritual around it.

Funny thing is my mom is Asian yet my parents' proposal story is the LEAST romantic and non-traditional story EVER! LOL..

_____________________________

I type from my IPad.. please excuse my typos

(in reply to sunshinemiss)
Profile   Post #: 29
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 4:28:46 PM   
hlen5


Posts: 5890
Joined: 3/2/2008
Status: offline 		Sunny thanks SO MUCH for that video!!

_____________________________



My fave Thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_2626198/mpage_1/tm.htm

One time "Phallus Expert Extraordinaire"

(in reply to sunshinemiss)
Profile   Post #: 30
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 4:29:58 PM   
littlewonder


Posts: 15659
Status: offline 		thank you for that sunshine. It made me cry and in a good way. It actually helped me as much as mine helped you. I've been kinda lost some faith lately and that has reminded me of that fact. So thank you.



_____________________________

Nothing has changed
Everything has changed

(in reply to sunshinemiss)
Profile   Post #: 31
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 5:12:27 PM   
Politesub53


Posts: 14862
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: ARIES83

I've always thought the idea of literally getting down on one knee to not be a very appealing way of proposing...
It's not who I am, It's not a reflection of my values, and it's not an indication of how I would like to have a relationship.

It's tradition, and I understand how important that stuff is for some people, and I think that women tend to have very specific fantasies about their wedding day...

And that I guess is what I would like to know... From women who identify as subs and slaves, what would your ideal method of proposal be?


Aries, Look at it this way. Most women would, I suspect, see a conventional marriage proposal, from someone in the lifestyle, as very romantic.

The fact you have gone against the grain (Regards your dominance) and gone down on one knee would be thrilling. Its shows a commitment of equals, even though it is a given you will be in control.

Dont worry too much, I think in tangents.

(in reply to ARIES83)
Profile   Post #: 32
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 5:15:49 PM   
Politesub53


Posts: 14862
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

A tat or branding, if you are into *those* things.


One needs to be sure it`s forever when getting a tat, infact one needs to be sure the other person thinks it`s forever as well.

Just a heads up, or in my case, arse up.

(in reply to ChatteParfaitt)
Profile   Post #: 33
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 6:02:07 PM   
NuevaVida


Posts: 6707
Joined: 8/5/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: petitespot

My fantasy proposal... spooning in bed after a long fun day together and as I'm falling asleep he whispers in my ear "marry me".

Jeezus. Made my entire body one big goosebump.

I remember a time early on with him & I. One of our shared favorite songs was playing and I just dropped to my knees - couldn't help myself. To my surprise, he dropped to his knees, too, and we just kneeled together, holding each other, kissing....that would be a cool proposal moment, too, come to think of it. Wayyy too early back then, though.

Private and intimate for me. No gestures of grandeur - please oh please nothing public.



_____________________________

Live Simply. Love Generously. Care Deeply. Speak Kindly.



(in reply to petitespot)
Profile   Post #: 34
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 6:44:48 PM   
ChatteParfaitt


Posts: 6562
Joined: 3/22/2011
From: The t'aint of the Midwest -- Indiana
Status: offline 		We did, we lisped all the way through it in unison. Broke the ice great and set the tone for the entire ceremony. Not only are we both Princess Bride fans, but also (don't tell anyone) we talk in lisp speak sometimes with each other. I don't know why, it's one of our 'things.'

Ma-wadge, that bwessed awwangement . . .

_____________________________



(in reply to hlen5)
Profile   Post #: 35
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 7:06:41 PM   
LookieNoNookie


Posts: 12216
Joined: 8/9/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: ARIES83

I've always thought the idea of literally getting down on one knee to not be a very appealing way of proposing...
It's not who I am, It's not a reflection of my values, and it's not an indication of how I would like to have a relationship.

It's tradition, and I understand how important that stuff is for some people, and I think that women tend to have very specific fantasies about their wedding day...

And that I guess is what I would like to know... From women who identify as subs and slaves, what would your ideal method of proposal be?

Being swept up and carried over the threshold is one tradition I do like, what traditions around marriage do you like or think go well with the idea of D/s and which in your mind don't?




Can't respond....I'm not a chic.

(in reply to ARIES83)
Profile   Post #: 36
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/30/2013 10:25:05 PM   
littlewonder


Posts: 15659
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53


quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

A tat or branding, if you are into *those* things.


One needs to be sure it`s forever when getting a tat, infact one needs to be sure the other person thinks it`s forever as well.

Just a heads up, or in my case, arse up.


Imo, people should be thinking that before they even pop the question. This imo is what is wrong with marriage. People DON'T think about it the same way one would think of a tat or branding where imo, that should be thought of even MORESO than a tat or branding.

Again, I'm old fashioned. I believe marriage to be forever unless under extreme circumstances and not something I would take lightly. I would rather get a tat or branding before I ever get married and I'm one of those people who would love to get remarried.


_____________________________

Nothing has changed
Everything has changed

(in reply to Politesub53)
Profile   Post #: 37
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/31/2013 1:40:03 AM   
hlen5


Posts: 5890
Joined: 3/2/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

We did, we lisped all the way through it in unison. Broke the ice great and set the tone for the entire ceremony. Not only are we both Princess Bride fans, but also (don't tell anyone) we talk in lisp speak sometimes with each other. I don't know why, it's one of our 'things.'

Ma-wadge, that bwessed awwangement . . .



That dweem wivvin a dweem....

Looooooove it!! I'm a huge P Bride fan too. That would have been great to see!! It used to be pirate talk between me and another. We still wish each other a Happy "Talk Like a Pirate Day" (Sep 19th for those who care to know!)!!

_____________________________



My fave Thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_2626198/mpage_1/tm.htm

One time "Phallus Expert Extraordinaire"

(in reply to ChatteParfaitt)
Profile   Post #: 38
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/31/2013 3:57:28 AM   
ShaharThorne


Posts: 11071
Joined: 2/24/2009
From: Somewhere in TX
Status: offline 		ACK! No marriage proposal for me! I don't want to be shackled for the 3rd time! I love being free!

_____________________________

Goddess of Yarn

You are making two and a half feet of irresistible, tubular sex! -Lola, Kinky Boots

Founder: Bitch with Tits

Whip me, beat me, make me feel cheap and have great sex

(in reply to ChatteParfaitt)
Profile   Post #: 39
RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s - 8/31/2013 4:51:57 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


Posts: 6562
Joined: 3/22/2011
From: The t'aint of the Midwest -- Indiana
Status: offline 		That's what I told Himself when we first started getting serious: 'don't ever expect marriage, b/c it's not in the cards.'

And *I* proposed to him -- basically I told him I'd change my mind about the whole marriage idea. Six months later we did the deed.



_____________________________



(in reply to ShaharThorne)
Profile   Post #: 40
Page:   <<   < prev  1 [2] 3   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid >> RE: Marriage proposal... Annnddd... D/s Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.094