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RE: WIITWD and other thoughts - 7/1/2006 4:18:36 PM   
Vancouver_cinful


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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I need to be respected for how compliant and giving I am.. I need to be accepted for it. I need to be with someone that understands it is not that I am a doormat or that I am weak that makes me like this. I just am this way



::sigh:: Reading my mind again, Julia? LOL

When my ex asked me if I knew the reason I could not completely love him in an all-out-relationship-way my answer was: Because you don't love the slavegirl inside of me. You tolerate her, but you don't feel the desire to own her. I need to be with someone who does.

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RE: WIITWD and other thoughts - 7/1/2006 4:22:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wow cin, both you and julia's posts where right on the money to me.

< Message edited by Wulfchyld -- 7/1/2006 4:55:09 PM >

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RE: WIITWD and other thoughts - 7/1/2006 4:54:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thanks, Loki. That Julia...if I ever go away for a holiday I'm going to give her my password and let her post for me. Seems like she does so, anyway.

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RE: WIITWD and other thoughts - 7/1/2006 4:55:42 PM   
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RE: WIITWD and other thoughts - 7/1/2006 5:03:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

Would you ever consider being in a vanilla relationship?
Nope....just couldnt do it, i wouldnt be happy
 
 
Could you give up WIITWD?
no again
 
 
What circumstances would necessitate you to change your way of life as you know it?
 As long as im still living and breathing i cant think of any circumstances that would make me change


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RE: WIITWD and other thoughts - 7/3/2006 1:35:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

Would you ever consider being in a vanilla relationship? No
Could you give up WIITWD? My first thought upon being introduced kink was  that there was no turning  back... i could never settle for anything less  again  What circumstances would necessitate you to change your way of life as you know  ..life's road has many strange twists  but changing  my way of life is not going to change who  I am at the core , nor would it change my way of expressing love.....


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RE: WIITWD and other thoughts - 7/3/2006 6:06:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		Very interesting thread. Reading it makes me happy and sadly envious of many of you. I am so glad you've been able to find a way to live the life you need. 

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RE: WIITWD and other thoughts - 7/3/2006 6:32:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		I could consider going back to a vanilla relationship. I would miss the kink, but as long as the sex was good I could survive without it. What I would never do again is be involved with a man that had a submissive or passive aggressive personality. Been there done that for 18 years and won't ever again. I need to have someone that is stronger then I am and capable of at least being an equal partner and perferrably my dominant partner in the vanilla sense.

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RE: WIITWD and other thoughts - 7/3/2006 12:20:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Very interesting thread. Reading it makes me happy and sadly envious of many of you. I am so glad you've been able to find a way to live the life you need. 


<Hugs to you LaTigresse> I understand.

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RE: WIITWD and other thoughts - 7/3/2006 12:28:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa
How about you....?
 
Would you ever consider being in a vanilla relationship?


Been there done that, Well to a certain extent as I have NEVER had a partner who didn't submit to me at least in the bedroom, but I class that as vanila, it isn't D/s (to me) it isn't enough and I can't "be ME". Not something I will ever do again, frankly I would rather be alone.


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RE: WIITWD and other thoughts - 7/3/2006 12:39:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

I can't sleep, so as usual I am thinking about things that are going on in my life. I thought I would share a few thoughts and ask a few questions :)
 
In my world WIITWD is normal. It is what I do. Not to say what people do in vanilla relationships is not normal, to them it could be, but to me, I could never go back to that kind of normal again. I am talking about more than just sex too. I am talking about my whole mindset, the way I live, what I do, who I choose to do it with. I wouldn't want to be with someone that I couldn't dominate. I couldn't be with someone who doesn't believe in the same things that I believe in, or didn't want the dynamics of a D/s relationship.
 
How about you....?
 
Would you ever consider being in a vanilla relationship? Could you give up WIITWD? What circumstances would necessitate you to change your way of life as you know it?


No, I would not.  I know Myself well enough to know that I could not.  Since I released My boy in the 90's, I have been basically alone.  I have had 3 relationships that were basically vanilla and I could not work them out.  The last one ended almost 6 years ago.  I have collared a couple of boys since then and even had them living under My roof, but they were not ready, and the relationships did not encompass enough for Me.  Play could be plentiful, but the emotional connections, I admit it, were not really there.
I am glad I have taken the time to understand Myself and realize that I would be better off alone than compromising just so I have some sort of a partner.
Patience pays off!  I think I have found it!
*Smiles to jonathan who is My 14 carat boy under (very serious!)consideration*

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RE: WIITWD and other thoughts - 7/3/2006 3:17:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		What an interesting thread, especially for a newbie like me.
 
In reflecting on my past relationships all the successful one's were with men who were dominant in a vanilla capacity. Basically they made the majority of the decisions and I happily went along, I just never realized the extent that I wanted to give up control.
 
I feel at this point that I could never go back to plain vanilla, maybe vanilla with sprinkles but not plain. 

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