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NiceAnimal -> RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is everyone just trying to get laid? (9/14/2013 9:54:23 PM)
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I would tend to think the classical alpha male is neither secure, or indeed dominant.
That, rather, he is constantly trying to prove his worth to others. In the animal kingdom, the classical alpha male would have social power. In the modern human world, its entirely different, such people have no power. Here charm, oratory skill, confidence, vision, intelligence and the possession of wealth represent influence. Physical confidence and confidence generally are still useful qualities of course, but not in themselves a kind of social power. Not that these people described nessasarily possess true social power, or self true self esteem.
On a philosophical level, real world power is ultimately about being the most unaffected, or the most committed or willful. In this, those who want recognition, are the weakest, so the key is both vision/drive and detachment from outcomes.
And thusly, the roles of submission and dominant, become confused - to utterly surrender, is what allows one to be truely dominant, by no longer resisting any outcome, one is able to pursue ones goals, without losing will.
Of course here is where I find a lot of what is traditionally called dominance to be ...amusing. The constant reliance on approval or acceptance or outcomes is clear weakness, as is pride.
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