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Tributes? - 9/18/2013 12:11:33 AM

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Is that a real thing, or just a scam?

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 12:25:52 AM

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It depends on the context in which the tribute is requested (or demanded).

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 12:34:59 AM

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But a money just for the prospect of meeting? I never send it but dommes seem to always ask for it right off the bat.

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 12:47:44 AM

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Let the buyer beware.
Many times after the money is paid, the person receiving it fails to appear at the meeting or just plain disappears.

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 12:57:17 AM

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Hence why I never paid.

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 1:05:05 AM

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So - common sense prevailed.
Good rule: Always beware of home improvement contractors and dominants who ask for the money up front.

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 1:15:04 AM

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Tributes are asked for up front because you won't believe how many clowns there are trying to waste your time. My time is precious and I should be paid accordingly. Also, it lets the Domme know that the sub is serious in beginning an arrangement/relationship. The tribute amounts initially don't need to be outrageous but the better this tribute the sooner I'll have you under my boot ;)

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 1:28:15 AM

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Why is your time precious? Doing something meaningful and constructive with it? :P

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 1:47:48 AM

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Ok here's my thing. I've been approached by masters and they have never asked for tribute, why do dommes ask for it? Yes I'd like a mistress but I really don't want to be dooped by some broad trying to make a quick buck.

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 1:58:26 AM

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If you're being asked to tribute someone right off the bat you're either messaging financial dommes or your message/profile is generic or reads like you're looking for a fetish delivery system/some other thing that women aren't finding appealing. Lots of non-financial dommes have stated here that they "demand" tribute from guys because they know it's the fastest way to get someone to leave them alone.

If you're certain that you are not messaging financial dommes, then it's pretty clear what the problem is.

Edit: I just read your profile. Other than the mention of being a chef and liking to get drunk, it's entirely about fetishes and kinks . Also, your journal entries are all whiny "waahh everyone is fake waahh". It's pretty unattractive.

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 2:06:45 AM

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Wow thanks didn't realize it was that bad...sorry

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 2:07:47 AM

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A number of reasons:

- They are only looking for a pro-client or findomme type relationship - ie, one where the sub hands over money either as part of the play, or in payment for specific sessions. Asking for a tribute up-front weeds out folks who are never going to pay.
- They have heard that posing as a domme online and asking for tribute is a way to make easy money
- They are swamped with a huge number of subs messaging them (often inappropriately) and this is a way of slowing the flow, so to speak
- They can. There are a lot of male subs online, and few female dominants. As such they can afford to put frivolous requirements in place, because they know that they are a rare and desirable commodity. If you don't pay, no problem, maybe one of the other thirty guys who contacted her today will pay
- They are scammers and this is a technique that is working for them currently
- They are attempting to portray the 'untouchable goddess'. Some people get off on inferiority, knowing they are never good enough unless they fork over cash and/or they get off on the idea that this woman is so super awesome special that she deserves to be spoiled without giving anything in return. 'Tribute me' attracts this type of submissive.
- There are submissives out there who have no desire to spend time cultivating a relationship and getting to know someone, and prefer to fork over cash for a quick thrill.

Men don't tend to ask for tributes. If I had to guess, it's a number of reasons but mostly supply and demand. Lots of horny guys, less horny girls, so the girls can be more demanding. Male dominants here get a lot less male than female dominants. (or at least, it seems male dominants seeking female subs do, I don't know how that breaks down for male dominants seeking male subs). If I was looking for a Master, I'd have a lot of choice and not so much competition - if a guy asked for money to talk to me, I'd walk on. A male sub seeking a Mistress has less options and more competition, and so might be more likely to take the chance and pay. Add to that the whole 'wallet rape' thing tends to be a male sub fantasy - perhaps something to do with the traditional role of men as the person who earns and spends the money. Off the top of my head I don't think I've ever spoken to a woman who gets off on handing over tribute, but I've spoken to a lot of men who do.

You know what you want - stick to your standards. Yes, some of them are making a quick buck, some of them might have more going on. It's not in itself a bad or wrong thing, just annoying because you don't want that and keep coming up against it.

My advice - go out into your local community and meet real people. The numbers will be less skewed against you and I'd be very surprised if anyone demanded a tribute for a nice chat at a munch.

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 2:20:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AllisonWilder

Edit: I just read your profile. Other than the mention of being a chef and liking to get drunk, it's entirely about fetishes and kinks . Also, your journal entries are all whiny "waahh everyone is fake waahh". It's pretty unattractive.

Thanks for the clue, yeah I was being a little bitch, that's really not me.

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 5:16:05 AM

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Nothing wrong with tribute.
If there's an understanding.

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 6:06:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DevilMissMaria

Tributes are asked for up front because you won't believe how many clowns there are trying to waste your time. My time is precious and I should be paid accordingly. Also, it lets the Domme know that the sub is serious in beginning an arrangement/relationship. The tribute amounts initially don't need to be outrageous but the better this tribute the sooner I'll have you under my boot ;)

The Devilish One

Yes, that does weed out the fakes, and it works both ways. I've had "dommes" write to me demanding a tribute before meeting, claiming that it helps to weed out the fakes. So I would write back, explaining that if sending money weeds out fakes then they need to send me a tribute so that I can know that they aren't trying to scam me. It works every time and I never hear from them again. Of course that weeds out the serious ones too. But then again, to me, a domme interested in a serious, non professional relationship isn't going to be asking for a tribute in the first place.

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 9:39:17 AM

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I need to start asking for tribute.

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 10:02:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DevilMissMaria

Tributes are asked for up front because you won't believe how many clowns there are trying to waste your time. My time is precious and I should be paid accordingly. Also, it lets the Domme know that the sub is serious in beginning an arrangement/relationship. The tribute amounts initially don't need to be outrageous but the better this tribute the sooner I'll have you under my boot ;)

The Devilish One

I know a lot of pro dommes in the real world and NONE OF THEM pull this "tribute me before I will talk to you" bullshit. They set up appointments and if the guy is a no show they accept that that is part of the job. Now I can understand wanting to have random strangers support you without putting any effort into it, but don't try and pretend it is anything but a scam. Most of us just are not that stupid.

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 10:06:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: SweetT88

Ok here's my thing. I've been approached by masters and they have never asked for tribute, why do dommes ask for it? Yes I'd like a mistress but I really don't want to be dooped by some broad trying to make a quick buck.

That is why I say it is always easier to get involved with the local community and meet people there.

And while I agree I have never seen a master's profile looking for tribute, I have met a few out in the world who seemed to think their sub should go to work, bring home the paycheck, and take care of them while they sit around the house all day and talk about how dommly they are. Odd that their relationships didn't seem to last very long.

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 10:07:59 AM

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Just remember Collar Me's warning:

DO NOT SEND MONEY TO OTHER USERS FOR ANY REASON!

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ORIGINAL: SweetT88

Ok here's my thing. I've been approached by masters and they have never asked for tribute, why do dommes ask for it? Yes I'd like a mistress but I really don't want to be dooped by some broad trying to make a quick buck.

Simple economics. It's a sellers market.

Men far outnumber the women here. If a male Dom demanded money, the female subs would just go to the next guy in line. Male subs far outnumber the women, so some women take advantage of that by demanding a tribute before even establishing contact.

My suggestion is to get out to your local community. Female Dommes attending socials/munches will not charge you a fee to walk up and say "Hi".

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RE: Tributes? - 9/18/2013 10:10:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: AllisonWilder

If you're being asked to tribute someone right off the bat you're either messaging financial dommes or your message/profile is generic or reads like you're looking for a fetish delivery system/some other thing that women aren't finding appealing. Lots of non-financial dommes have stated here that they "demand" tribute from guys because they know it's the fastest way to get someone to leave them alone.

If you're certain that you are not messaging financial dommes, then it's pretty clear what the problem is.

Edit: I just read your profile. Other than the mention of being a chef and liking to get drunk, it's entirely about fetishes and kinks . Also, your journal entries are all whiny "waahh everyone is fake waahh". It's pretty unattractive.

Well of course, it has to be his fault. Can't blame the princesses now, can we