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BlackTigerDragon -> RE: Do you have rules/fatish/whatever for mute/space? (10/9/2013 5:44:32 PM)

One more thing to clear something up:

I've never had much expectations in the RL BDSM community itself since I tend to have more vanilla interests than kinky ones. I've never tried to get involved because I know of literally no-one irl who is kinky. And I want to try even less now that I know it is just a haven for nazis and cyberbullies.

I am still going to try things that interest me and whoever I'm with because I do not recall consenting to being domed by a bunch of strangers. I did not consent to have decisions made for me regarding what I should want. I thought good consent was the point of BDSM? Please tell me if I'm wrong about that.

So for now, this community does not have my support as I consider it to be toxic to people who aren't clones of each other. But I don't see how that makes it illegal for two people to do things that interest them.

And that is all I will say on that particular thing so if you are still going round and round in circles on this topic you're on your own.



angelikaJ -> RE: Do you have rules/fatish/whatever for mute/space? (10/9/2013 6:41:01 PM)


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ORIGINAL: BlackTigerDragon

One more thing to clear something up:

I've never had much expectations in the RL BDSM community itself since I tend to have more vanilla interests than kinky ones. I've never tried to get involved because I know of literally no-one irl who is kinky. And I want to try even less now that I know it is just a haven for nazis and cyberbullies.

I am still going to try things that interest me and whoever I'm with because I do not recall consenting to being domed by a bunch of strangers. I did not consent to have decisions made for me regarding what I should want. I thought good consent was the point of BDSM? Please tell me if I'm wrong about that.

So for now, this community does not have my support as I consider it to be toxic to people who aren't clones of each other. But I don't see how that makes it illegal for two people to do things that interest them.

And that is all I will say on that particular thing so if you are still going round and round in circles on this topic you're on your own.


Fyi:
I am not a clone of anybody.

I don't think your issue was that we behaved like clones.
I think your issue was that we did not behave like you.
I think your issue was that we did not understand you.
If you message is being lost then yelling and ranting isn't going to change that.

We did not understand your posts because you communicated very poorly: you took a whole bunch of unrelated things, added in extraneous information, shook it all together and then became enraged when we didn't figure out what your actual questions were.
When we didn't get it, you tried analogies that used non-sequiturs.

I have been the victim of bullying.
K-12.
And even as an adult.
I am very, very sensitive to it.

You were not bullied here.
Not by a long shot.

You accused many of the people posting on the thread of engaging in ableism.
I have been working with people with disabilities since 1997.

My parting bit of unasked for advice is this: learn how to communicate in a way that will be understood.
I really do think you are more than intelligent to learn how.
I am not sure you are motivated enough.
https://www.cnvc.org/Training/the-nvc-model







evesgrden -> RE: Do you have rules/fatish/whatever for mute/space? (10/9/2013 7:26:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

Oh my God! I love this thread! It's awesome; perfect for sick in bed reading material. Especially the "we are a generous sort" and then "I can unequivocally say that I now truly understand the need to tell someone to STFU on a regular basis just to turn off the noise. I couldn't really relate to it before. "





The irony seemed to escape everyone, i.e. that the OP should consider being on the receiving end of that "kink" rather than the delivery side.





BurntKitty -> RE: Do you have rules/fatish/whatever for mute/space? (10/9/2013 7:39:46 PM)

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And will you leave that dead horse alone?


[sm=beatdeadhorse.gif] Nope. I'm into cadaverous equine impact play.[sm=beatdeadhorse.gif]

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I tend to have more vanilla interests than kinky ones. I've never tried to get involved because I know of literally no-one irl who is kinky.


That's why I said for you to live alone. You still don't want to acknowledge common sense. If you need to have quiet time after you've been out, live alone. Before you can consider entering into any kind of dating relationship let the victim prospective date know of your occasional sensitivity to sounds. Don't live with anyone but your cat.

In case you skipped over the sensible post, here it is:

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ORIGINAL: BurntKitty

You want to make sure you get quiet time when you get home? Live by yourself. I was the one who suggested soundproofing as It seemed from your comments that you were sensitive to all noise. Don't sound proof your home then. I really don't care, I was suggesting it to be helpful.

But you don't need to live with someone and tell them to shut up if you live alone. If you have no other human occupants and you still wander through your home with your shut the fuck up comments, well I'll leave it there.

Just live alone.




kalikshama -> RE: Do you have rules/fetish/whatever for mute/space? (10/9/2013 7:49:30 PM)

BlackTigerDragon - a lot of people took the time to share their own disabilities and/or difficulties and I'm sorry your take away from this is that we're a bunch of meanies. You certainly put a lot of energy into pulling out posts with which you disagree. Why not focus on the posts you do find helpful and ignore the ones that aren't?



littlewonder -> RE: Do you have rules/fetish/whatever for mute/space? (10/9/2013 8:21:20 PM)

You get what you give



JstAnotherSub -> RE: Do you have rules/fatish/whatever for mute/space? (10/10/2013 5:17:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BlackTigerDragon

I think I've heard that before. Non-whites, feminists and disabled people, does this line sound familiar? Have you heard it from someone before? Could have sworn I've heard it.











Seriously?



BlackTigerDragon -> RE: Do you have rules/fatish/whatever for mute/space? (10/10/2013 9:09:09 PM)

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You accused many of the people posting on the thread of engaging in ableism.
I have been working with people with disabilities since 1997.


"But all of my friends are [N-words], so therefore I'm not raceist! And my swastika is just a fashion statement, so that doesn't count!"

I've worked with and visited people with disabilities for a long time also. I've met some people in there who are abelist as fuck. And it is possible for someone who is 'working with disabled people' to be downright abusive to them. So working with them doesn't give you a magical free pass.

PS.
Since I'm bored this thread is now abandoned. If you have something that is absolutely important that you absolutely need me to see you will have to send it in a PM. Otherwise if you want to continue beating dead horses or running around in circles or talking to yourselves in this thread feel free. Whatever floats your boat. It's not my kink :)



LadyPact -> RE: Do you have rules/fatish/whatever for mute/space? (10/10/2013 9:36:49 PM)

Ummmm, yeah.


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ORIGINAL: BlackTigerDragon
I've never tried to get involved because I know of literally no-one irl who is kinky.

So for now, this community does not have my support as I consider it to be toxic to people who aren't clones of each other.


You do realize the above is an oxymoron, right? Sitting at home banging on a keyboard isn't "support" for the community. When you actually get out to your local community, such a declaration of removing such "support" might count. Until then....... <Shrug>



sunshinemiss -> RE: Do you have rules/fatish/whatever for mute/space? (10/11/2013 5:47:47 AM)


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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

Fyi:
I am not a clone of anybody.




Now Angelika... We KNOW there are versions A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, and I. Dr. Noonian Sung called to apologize for not informing you earlier.



kalikshama -> RE: Do you have rules/fatish/whatever for mute/space? (10/11/2013 6:13:00 AM)

Nominated for the Sunny QOTD!

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Now Angelika... We KNOW there are versions A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, and I. Dr. Noonian Sung called to apologize for not informing you earlier.



angelikaJ -> RE: Do you have rules/fatish/whatever for mute/space? (10/11/2013 6:32:18 AM)


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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss


quote:

ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

Fyi:
I am not a clone of anybody.




Now Angelika... We KNOW there are versions A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, and I. Dr. Noonian Sung called to apologize for not informing you earlier.



That explains an awful lot, actually.



sunshinemiss -> RE: Do you have rules/fatish/whatever for mute/space? (10/11/2013 2:41:19 PM)


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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

Nominated for the Sunny QOTD!

quote:

Now Angelika... We KNOW there are versions A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, and I. Dr. Noonian Sung called to apologize for not informing you earlier.




Thank you!!! (It was rather inspired I thought - wink)



LookieNoNookie -> RE: Do you have rules/fatish/whatever for mute/space? (10/11/2013 4:48:06 PM)

I suspect you need a Valium.



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