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When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/1/2006 6:16:33 PM

MistyMenthal

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I was listenening to a Mistress Who was talking
about about how She has been waiting 10 years
for the right one.Wanting nothing less
then what She was looking for.

It made me realize how Serious people are to
settle for nothing less, {meaning that they could say Yea I'm Collared or I have a Slave now.}
That they want Exactly what the Profile says,
no matter how long it takes.

It makes me feel good to see that out there.

So what are Your thoughts?

BLOW ME A KISS, Misty

< Message edited by MistyMenthal -- 7/1/2006 6:19:12 PM >

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RE: Waiting, waiting for the One? - 7/1/2006 6:18:46 PM

Caretakr

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If you know you have a specific need, life is good while you wait.

As long as you MAKE a good life in the meantime-then it only gets better when luck favors you.

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/1/2006 6:21:57 PM

michaelGA2

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i, too, have been waiting for about 10 years and have yet to find "The One". some say persistance pays off...let's hope it does.

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/1/2006 6:23:47 PM

sublizzie

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Waiting is very difficult, but I think it is worthwhile. In the almost 4 years since I started seriously looking into this I have learned a great deal about myself that will be useful to the Master/Dom I finally connect with. I am also learning patience, which has never been one of my virtues!

Making sure I have the right Dom/Master is important to my well-being. I figure waiting for the right One is just one way that I can give him the best me possible.

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RE: Waiting, waiting for the One? - 7/1/2006 6:32:10 PM

crouchingtigress

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the word waiting has such a passive intonation to it, i am not sure waiting is what i do, i think when you have a goal you have to be working towards it, visualizing it, making small step twards the outcome you desire....i think for most folks i have talked to, the average search is five years, that seems like a long time to some, but if you know that going in then you can be pleasantly surprised if it happens sooner.

i am going to live my life, and with each new applicant i will evaluate, i am not looking for perfection, but i am looking for quality's that i resonate with and when i find those then i keeps exploring with them,...i have had so many slaves in the short time that i have made the switch to this side of the leash ...but i dont see them as failures, or me as such, i see each new person as a new adventure.

for me it is all about the connection. the learning, the growth.....i m am very careful to not use a phrase often bandied about in d/s circles...the one....because i think it is some what limiting. I think love is an organic thing that evolves and grows in to the shape that both people co-create.

Like caretkr says i think you have to make life good no matter what state of relationship or not you are in and give yourself every opportunity to be surprised be the magic that is each person, if you just look for it....

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/1/2006 6:34:54 PM

Tikkiee

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistyMenthal

I was listenening to a Mistress Who was talking
about about how She has been waiting 10 years
for the right one.Wanting nothing less
then what She was looking for.

It made me realize how Serious people are to
settle for nothing less, {meaning that they could say Yea I'm Collared or I have a Slave now.}
That they want Exactly what the Profile says,
no matter how long it takes.

It makes me feel good to see that out there.

So what are Your thoughts?

BLOW ME A KISS, Misty

If we are talking in a sense of 'waiting for that first LOVE', then it makes sense. But if we are talking just in a sense of BDSM, I have a hard time understanding that. Of course, all I seek is the pain aspect, no waiting required there

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/1/2006 6:36:48 PM

diamonddreamlove

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Give me patience now! My question is are you waiting for the one and not meeting many or just hoping they drop out of the sky or what.

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RE: Waiting, waiting for the One? - 7/1/2006 6:39:17 PM

youQadesh

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Its great to have a clear idea of what you may want your "one" to be like I am all for that. I worry though about people who make too many specifications about how their partner should be are making a mistake because sometimes getting something we never expected, and liking it can be a great experience. So I'd say had your idea of "the one" but keep it flexible enough not to let someone great pass by you.

Also there is a fine line between having realistic goals and just plain setting up for failure. I'm still quite young and inexperienced so what I want changes on a weekly basis, but there are a few qualities that I seek, have saught and always will seek in others that I choose to be intimate with(wether it be emotionally or sexually) the other stuff like looks, or career interests, and hobbies, etc always show themselves to be quite unimportant. Its good to establish some base qualities you may want in a partner(such as creativity, good sense of humor etc) and making clear disctinction about what someone woud do to qualify as having those qualities, but getting into little detailed minutia seems like getting into a loosing battle. So I could be wrong but I think there is more than "one" for every-one. Some people find one of the many and are happy, others find many ones at different times, some find any-ones all the time, some have fun with many "ones" allat the same time

And now for the culmination of all this halfbuzzed, quarter incoherant rant...

The "one" is different for everyone, and sometimes there is no one.

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/1/2006 6:42:49 PM

sublizzie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: diamonddreamlove

Give me patience now! My question is are you waiting for the one and not meeting many or just hoping they drop out of the sky or what.

Well, I'm on this site!! I correspond with a few here and there. I am also becoming active in my local community. But the idea of "the One" dropping into my grocery cart some day is one of my more pleasant day dreams.

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/1/2006 6:50:38 PM

mstrj69

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sublizzie
But the idea of "the One" dropping into my grocery cart some day is one of my more pleasant day dreams.

Why do you think it is just a day dream?

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/1/2006 6:51:07 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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I think if people sincerely spent as much time simply exploring and finding joy in themselves and their lives, that being with "the one" will take no time at all.

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/1/2006 6:58:22 PM

Chantilylace

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Waiting is like seeking...

Stop and you just find it right before your eyes.

Chantily

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RE: Waiting, waiting for the One? - 7/1/2006 6:59:26 PM

gypsyssoul

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quote:

i am going to live my life

i would have to agree ... it has been a long time coming

but so worth it ...

not looking to get everything right ..

just nothing wrong

:: soft smiles and goes to corner to read again ..

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RE: Waiting, waiting for the One? - 7/1/2006 8:17:59 PM

diamonddreamlove

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sublizzie i love the optimism and yet i suppose the One could drop into the shopping cart. I might not hold my breath but do believe i will go shopping more often.

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/1/2006 8:19:18 PM

sublizzie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrj69

Why do you think it is just a day dream?

I've never seen a Dom fall from the sky into someone's grocery cart before. Be fun if it actually happened though, wouldn't it???

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/1/2006 8:23:48 PM

Wulfchyld

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Why oh why did I read lizzie's post?

*Wheels of mischief turning insanely*

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/1/2006 8:25:44 PM

sublizzie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld

Why oh why did I read lizzie's post?

*Wheels of mischief turning insanely*

Because you can't resist such a *nice* subbie???

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/1/2006 8:30:33 PM

Wulfchyld

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Slow roasted of course! *wicked evil grin*

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/1/2006 8:41:36 PM

sublizzie

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LOLOL. But of course!!

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/1/2006 8:55:12 PM

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I've found 'the one' a few times - and had a lovely time with a wonderful person for as long as it lasted. Sometimes things run their course, sometimes they keep on going.

On the one hand, you want to wait for your perfect partner, on the other hand you want to explore and grow and have fun. It's important to find a balance between the two. I have a very strong image of my perfect person, and if I ever find them I'll be ecstatic, but I'm realistic enough to know that the Dom I'm with now is a wonderful match for me - even though at first it didn't seem that way. You grow, change and learn with each new person.

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